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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together over a year now but lately our relationship is falling apart as we have begain to row about 3 months ago he told me he could meet up for a while as wanted to sort our his career etc but i later found out he has been meeting another girl. He swore nothing went on so i forgave him. It made it harder for me to trust as im very insurce myself and then last month i was really ill he was there for me atleast i thought he was but then his phne rang and it was under his best mates name who we both known for ages so i answered only it was him it was a girl i hung up and was so upset. i didnt ask him at first but then txts for the number got more and more and he would hide his phne and delete them. i later asked him as i could not prepend no more and at first he lied to my face telling me i was just paranoid and making it up but at tht moment it rang so i said answer then tbh i was right and all my worse fears come true. i was a mess told him to leave me along to think a while bt stupidly got back with him and now i think its happening again and its ruining everything i have bad dreams everynight i feel Like its all over and carnt save it am i being taken for a mug? What do i do? Can i stay with him even though its making me ill ? Please
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): Thank god you found out in time! Run, run, as fast as you can! Good relationships are not difficult nor do you have to "make" them work, they work great all on their own.
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reader, Lovemuffin  +, writes (26 January 2011):
Drop kick his ass out of tour life NOW!!!!!!!
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (25 January 2011):
End the relationship.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 January 2011):
Dump him, don't stay for God's sake.
Look, this guy already lied to your face and called you paranoid. You then found out that he was lying, and you ended it. You've taken him back, and he's still doing it.
You have nothing to gain here. Nothing. No future, not chance of marriage/children/a decent relationship. This guy offers nothing at all.
Leave him. He's even making you ill!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 You leave. He is still cheating on you. He never stopped. He only has remorse in the lies he tells you. His actions show he doesn't care about you or what you feel. He is using what you feel to his advantage.
If you stay with him, you can expect him to keep cheating. If you don't want that, then you need to leave.
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reader, Battista +, writes (25 January 2011):
I'm sorry to hear about this OP.
I have to say though, that you need to get out of this situation. It's not worth staying with a bf when the situation is making you ill. That's awful. You can't trust him and you are unhappy.
This relationship isn't worth saving by the sound of it. Move on and find someone who makes you happy, not someone who makes you upset. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): I think you should call it a day with him. Sounds as if its not working one way and another. It is very hard to end a relationship, it often ends up messy and not a neat clear cut ending. But the sooner you think it through and realise that it is time to finish the better. The alternative is that it drags on, you getting more and more suspicious and upset. You are young, don't waste anymore time on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): Dump Him!! Enough said
that guy is wastin your time,your love,your health, your everything!!!
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