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writes:So let me start out saying I am 17 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. I love him and he's honestly the best guy in the world. But lately we've fought a lot, we've just had a lot of little problems that we argue about and sometimes I feel like there's nothing more we can do to save the relationship.. And I don't know, it isn't your ordinary high school relationship. I think he's the one, I really do. I also lost my virginity to him. What can I do to help save the relationship? I really need some positive reinforcements.
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reader, kiefer_b  +, writes (25 January 2011):
This exact thing happened to me and my girlfriend like we fought over little things but they had a big impact in a way i'm only 16 and shes 17 but i also think shes the one cause shes really different from the rest of the girls iv'e seen over my life but uhm yeah what i did was i told her that i love her and i trust her so much and i told her that whats happening is going to eventually brake us up and i didn't want that cause i love you and i don't want to lose her so i sat down with her and just talked i asked her what things i do that bother her and i told her the things that bother me and it worked we stop'd arguing and our relationship got significantly better maybe you could try this just talk with him it might make it better i don't know i hope it does if you try =)
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (25 January 2011):
 relationships are never easy the good ones too. you have to work at it. first few months of a relationship is a honeymoon period everything is peachy nice but then you stay together longer and you pick up on faults, habits, that annoy one another. As long as you both want to stay in the relationship it should not be that hard to 'fix'. review what you argue about maybe? and when u feel like your going to snap try and calm yourself back down, count. but remember fighting in relationships is healthy , you need to be able to let out at each other half the fun is making up afterwards. do you spend a lot of just couple time with eachother. i don't mean staying in watching films like going out for a date, a meal. no matter how long youve been together it is important to make time for just you two.if you both are spending every day together or a lot of time that could also be why your fighting over silly things? need to have your own space, so you unwind chill out.just suggestions. x
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reader, doublejack +, writes (25 January 2011):
It is possible that this boy is "the one" for you, but you are also very young and the fact that you lost your virginity to him could be clouding your judgment. I know in my case, I thought the girl I lost my v-card to was "the one", and it wasn't until later on that I realized we were incompatible.My advice is to take things slowly and don't try to force it. If you two are meant to be, then it will work out. If the fighting continues then that's a pretty clear sign that it isn't meant to be. Also, please keep in mind that most boys really do mature slower than girls. So while your boyfriend may be a truly great guy, he may still have a fair amount of developing yet. For reference, if I am to look back at my life I wouldn't say I truly became the man that I am today until about 23 or 24.
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