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writes:Hi I am a gay man in love with my straight friend. I have always denied it to anyone because, We are both in relationships and never strayed but we are always flirting even his missus jokes about it. Nothing has ever happened between us but everytime I go over to his he always adjusting and making sure his bulge is visable to me and once when we were sat together, I couldn't help it and got a hard on which he must of noticed cause he he had one too. He seems to me to be showing all the signs that he is interested. So I thought I would bite the bullet and text him to tell him i fancied him and see what response I got. Here are the texts with different names, I don't have anyone to ask for advice so I am looking for peoples thoughts on what I should do because I can't stop thinking about him, and constantly wonder if we could ever happen.Chris,Hi mate there is something I've wanted to let you know for so long but never have cause I'm too chicken shit and so afraid it will ruin our friendship, i know i shouldn't but I have fancied you for such a long time and I know you have probably noticed before but I just wanted to make sure that you know and your ok with it and that you value our friendship enough not to let anyone else know cause it would make me so embarrassed and Lisa already makes enough jokes as it is, but I would never make a pass at you, I like my face the way it is! Lol on the the other hand if your not ok with it shit I'm sorry just take it as a complement and all is forgotten, sorry I just needed to say it cause I don't know if you have guessed yet or not and It might explain some of my behaviour I really hope I haven't damaged our friendship cause your such a good friend i would do anything for you.George,Shup u soft cunt. Im lush i know. Atleast u got taste. Lol. U know i aint like that tho mate. I dont think anything could spoil our friendship mate. Ur mad mate.Chris,I need help I know! But glad we still cool I don't think Lisa really knows how lucky she is having you. ; )GeorgeIf she did she wouldnt have cheated mate. Yes u do need help cos gay is WRONG lol. We keep this between us and 4get it ok mate. Weirdo. Lol. ChrisSorry doesn't feel wrong to me! Lol but thank you for understanding Cynthia : ) GeorgeU dirty bugger. Lol. Nah . I wont tel any1 mate. Its out of ur system now so u can get on wiv ur relationship wiv steve . Im busy gettin chatted up by a lady dr :-) im irrisistable . Lmao. U up 2moro?I really need help on which way to go with this because I don't know what to do.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (25 January 2011):
 sexual attention seeker who loves himself attracts gay friend but doesn't have any intention of backing it up with action.
boy have i been there myself.as a situation its so annoying that i dont speak to that person now as they didn't do my head any benefits whatsoever.
short answer- no nothing will ever happen
way to solve how you feel- stop spending lots of time with him
good luck and move on for your sake, not his
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 "Its out of ur system now so u can get on wiv ur relationship wiv steve"
Sorry dude, but ya can't turn a straight man gay any more than you can turn a gay man straight. He handled that conversation remarkably well and with humor.
You've got a good friend there... but that's all he'll ever be to you.
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reader, CJH +, writes (25 January 2011):
 I cant see anything in those texts that suggest he is anything other than a great friend to you?
Having a crush, even loving somebody is fine but rules are rules! Here you have to very clear "rules"
1 = He has a girlfriend
2 = He`s straight
If things change somewhere along the line great but to me, it looks like you would really ruin a brilliant friendship if you pushed this thing.
Enjoy what you have with him, dont risk losing it.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1  +, writes (25 January 2011):
Are you saying that the texting back and fourth already happened? Or is that what you think will happen if you tell him you like him? I am a bit confused.
Anyway, if that text convo already happened then forget about him on a romantic level. He does appreciate your friendship but he does not like you that way. Hope that helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): It's okay to like someone .. your lucky to have a friend that dose not judge you, And likes you for who you are, an is understanding to your uncontrollable desire to him. most guys run from that, then again you never know he could be hiding something/some kinda feeling..It's good you told him.now you know where you stand .. :)
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reader, foolishsage +, writes (25 January 2011):
 OP - I'm sorry to tell you this, but in my opinion he likes being friends with you and isn't interested in actually acting out anything else, though he may be slightly bi-curious or may simply like the attention. That would explain the bulge thing anyhow.Aside from the moose-knuckle aspect, the flirting may simply be a lot of him just playing the entertainer. I'm straight and I flirt jokingly with all my female and male friends, whether they be gay or straight. Don't push on it or things will get awkward - he's willing to drop it and make it a non-issue if you are able to leave it alone and are cool with the two of you being friends and nothing else.I'm sorry, my friend - unrequited love is never an easy thing to deal with. He's just not mentally built the same as you are. Best of luck to you.
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