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writes:Hey peeps,Is it wrong for me to date other races?? I'm black and my friends always talkin about sticking to our own culture but I find white and chinese boys SERIOUSLY attractive :s.I also want to know if dating other cultures last long or does it just depend on the person???I know it's rare to see white guys date black females.Is there any hope, do you think??please help xxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 I am bi-racial (half black, half white). My parents have been in love for 25 years and that's not stopping anytime soon. I know A LOT (and I mean A LOT) of other black/white or other interracial marriages, that seem to be just as happy and functional as any other marriage. Skin color means about as much to a marriage as hair color.
I married a white fella, and the subject of skin color has actually never been mentioned or come into our marriage at all. If someone asked, "how has your ethnicity affected your marriage?", I would have to honestly say it hasn't. At all. Not one iota.
We are all people. Attraction lies so much deeper than the skin. A lasting relationship has nothing to do with skin color, and everything to do with two people who genuinely like each other and want to make it work. If you come from different cultures, it will only make things more interesting. (Different cultures doesn't really mean skin color vs. skin color... a black person from Philadelphia will have a drastically different culture than a black person from Nigeria.)
Also, it's "rare" to see a white fella dating a black girl? I guess maybe in some places that's true, but certainly not where I'm from. Don't let that thought hold you back!
Don't worry about the others. It is nobody's business and their views are shallow and narrow-minded. It's okay if they prefer to date black men, but it's not okay for them to say that's how it should be for everyone. You date who your heart feels attracted to. There is nothing wrong about that. Good luck, sweet thing!!
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (25 January 2011):
 There's nothing wrong with dating someone who has a different cultural background, your friend has his/her own preferences and you have yours, there different but that doesn't make either of them wrong.
To answer your other question, it's not about whether a relationship lasts long because they're from a different culture, but about the two people involved in the relationship. The relationship will last as long as it's meant to, just as relationships between two people from the same cultural background. Every persons relationship is different.
You can date who you like, don't let your friends hold you back, and don't let one bad experience, or someone elses bad experiences in their relationships effect yours.
Hope this helps x
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reader, kenny +, writes (25 January 2011):
 The other aunts are right, you can date who ever you want when you want- go for it, and good luck
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Date whoever you want. There is nothing wrong with it. Some people have a problem with it, but that doesn't make it wrong.
Check this out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lzhdJu4HfY
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reader, lynxy +, writes (25 January 2011):
 you can date whover you want even a chinesse guy. and well it could be rare in the UK not in the whole world ,race doesn't matter!
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reader, LittleMissy +, writes (25 January 2011):
It depends on the couple.
It can be an amazing eye opener, experiencing a culture which is new and you will find yourself wishing you'd experienced parts of that culture earlier! On the other hand there may be aspects of that culture you find hard to stomach. Sometimes it's hard for two people from
Separate cultures to be truly happy together without one of them giving up their culture as they will usually have different expectations of their partners.
But I also happen to think if two people are truly in love and share the same basic morals, they can reach a compromise! :)
And you will always come across racists who will consider you some kind of "traitor" but it's your life, make yourself happy! X
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