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writes:I have been in a relationshp with my boyriend for 8 yars and we always had a good sex life in 2009 i became pregnant with our daughter and since than we have had sex once and both were drunk. His excuse is hes tired. I need to know what to do to change this. I have said mybe we should go for counsiling he refuses. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): Hi
Sorry to hear of your worry. Believe it or not this is quite common. I presume your partner was at the birth? If so this can put men off wanting sex because of what they have seen. Have you actually sat down and spoke heart to heart about it? If this is difficult could you email him or write a letter? Counselling may help once he has told you the reasons, you sound like a very caring person, and I am sure with your reassurance you can turn this around. Please keep me informed, and get back in touch if I can help. Good luck x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 January 2011):
Counselling can point you in the direction of problems, not solve them. So, if both of you wanted to sort this out, then you could go and try to solve this using a counsellor.
Sadly, you're in the position where he won't go. That's simply not good enough, and will ultimately lead to your relationship falling apart.
I think you need to try again, and explain this this is having a serious effect on your relationship. Beyond that, maybe you need to think about whether you can be with a man who has a lot of excuses, not no answers and no desire to fix the problem.
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