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writes:Hi, i been seeing a guy in the military for a few months an by saying a few i mean 7 so its still new.. at first we where close.. like couldn't go a day with out talking to him ... well he just got orders to germany about 2 months ago.. an i was very hurt about him going all up till a months ago when he asked me to marry him.. i know it seems a little fast .but seeing as close as we where i didn't see why not .. things seem to be hitting the floor ..an its not him at all its me ..i'm starting to see little things ..then the little seems to be turning into big ... i'm the second girls he has been with soo well lets just say that its not good at ALL.. i can look past this because people get better with in time ..we have only been having sex for a few month ... but it seems like he wants it ALL the time ... i know most guys are that why ..but he takes it over board like if it was his choice i think he would stay in his house an never leave if he could do it all the time ... an it kinda gets to me we use to do thing an now all he wants is to go to his place an do the do ....another thing is ... he has a big mouth .. if you don't want him to repeat something you have to tell him not to like a little kid .. i'm mean he is in his mid 20's o most 30 you should know what to say an what not to say .. and he will say things that should't be said like un called for things to people .. an dose not see what he did wrong ..i'm the same age as him an things just been getting worse ..i feel like at time his mother telling no an not to say things .. not like i yell at him i feel like i'm teaching him .. i love him ..but i'm not sure if i want to marry him now... an this would crush him ... now here is the kicker... my ex e mailed me the other day an we started talking an i find these feelings that i have for him coming back .. i just don't want to hurt anyone ..me an the ex has not talked about getting back with each other just simple talk how are you an whats new in your life .. so the reason for all this is not because of the ex it has beens going on alot longer then.. i don't know what to do ..am i nit picking all of this ????
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 i think it is a good idea to wait too, give it WAY more time before you even think about marriage, there doesn't have to be any rush does there? so use this next year to get to know him. have you told him that you are not happy with so much sex and that you are not really sure about marriage?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): i wouldn't say that i knew he was like that ... there was hints here and there about his big mouth.. but nothing big that would make me mad... all the way up until now when i see the real him coming out ..i'm sure he is open to learning about sex ..but its a turn off when you have someone on you all the time .. i'm not sure when all this started getting to me , i can say part of it was before the ex came into my life ..and most of it after... i feel kinda low an bad about it .. it feels like i'm coming up with more reasons because the ex started talking to me.. i don't think i want the ex back but i still have feelings an maybe i'm doing the comparing bit ... is this really wrong?? an yes you right about 'signing up 'for a life with him in such a short time .. but he dose not leave till next year ... around oct ... so i figured that a year will give me a little more time to see if its right ... he is a really good person.. an he cares a lot for me ... i just don't know if he is the one for me
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (26 January 2011):
hi
your boyfriend sounds like an adolescent (wanting sex all the time and not having the maturity to keep stuff you tell him to himself) BUT he must have been like this since you met him? he hasn't suddenly just changed surely?
have you become more critical of him since you started chatting to your ex again? would you prefer to be with your ex or could it be that you are now comparing your BF to him, and your ex seems better?
seven months is not a long time to be able to commit to marriage to someone. you are getting to know him better and not really liking what you see. i don't see how you can 'sign up for' a life with him, as a military wife too, if you are not happy with the person he is.
BUT he may be oversexed just because its still a new relationship and he had the stress also of knowing he would be getting taken away from you. if he is not very skilled in bed coz of lack of experience, is he open to LEARNING what to do?
if you were happy with him until your ex contacted you BE CAREFUL - remember - your ex is your ex for a reason! there must have been issues with him, hence the break up. are these problems still present?
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