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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

So much drama with this girl...is it worth it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I know this looks long but the question is short. 2/3 of it is just part of the argument we had that id like you guys to weigh in on. This is kinda a follow-up to my earlier question: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest... (1077 words)

What's the best way to reaffirm "we're just friends"?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys (aunts!), A few months ago I broke up with my boyfriend, and then a few months after that a guy who I got to uni with broke up with his girlfriend too (except his break up was really complicated etc.) Anyway, basically we weren't really great friends at uni or anyth... (178 words)

Will this move cause more problems for us?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. I'm struggling whether I should move in with my boyfriend or not. We've been together for two years, all of which has been far from rosy. We live two hours apart and since day 1 his much younger ex girlfriend has caused us many problems. He was to blame too, don... (305 words)

Is it weird that I like being fat?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I used to be very skinny. When I was a teenager and went on holiday I would eat and drink loads and not gain weight. Sometimes I would lose weight. Over the past couple of years this has stopped. A couple of years ago I took a year off from work and took a gap year. I went... (323 words)

Like her, but don't want to be hurt anymore. What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex and I broke up one month ago after she told me that she has feeling for someone else. We became best friends 6 years ago and were best friends for 3 years of high school, then she confessed her feelings for me. It was a turbulent time for me because it was an abnormal ... (419 words)

Is is possible to build trust in a relationship again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years. Recently, I came to discover he likes porn a whole lot more than I realized. He looks at way more online porn than I am comfortable with. I also found out that he was having "chats" online with various anonymous women, ... (287 words)

I want to be more than friends. How do I bridge that gap?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I've known this girl for almost a year. We use to hang out all the time and she had a boyfriend.There would be signs that she liked me. Like one time I was going away for a week and she hugged me goodbye, and I said I'll call you when I get back, and she said "your going to ... (195 words)

When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop? or well I mean, I'm just waiting for him to ask me out but he hasn't yet... I am pretty sure he has a huge crush on me because he is always doing these things: We were sitting at dinner yesterday and he reached around behind... (244 words)

How do I convince my mam to let me date him again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - My ex,, i still like him loads,, but it was a complicated relationship before all because of the lies my uncle was telling my mam when he didnt even know the boy i was going with,, he never knew his name or out but my uncle was telling my mam that my boyfriend was 18 when he ... (141 words)

She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 5389 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I'm also divorced since 3 years ... (361 words)

It's been 4 years and I still have feelings for this guy. Is this completely irrational of me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so here it goes. four years ago i fell in love with a great guy. he was everything i wanted in a guy but the problem was that he was my brothers best friend. when this guy finally started to like me and wanted to date me, i pushed him away. none of my friends or my brother ... (190 words)

I've always just 'felt' like she's gay despite her claiming she's straight

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I guess I'm just wanting advice on whether this girl i'm mad about is gay. I fell in love with her over a year ago and it was the first time i've ever liked a girl so its taken me a pretty long time to accept it. But now i'm confident with the fact i'm either bi or gay (not ... (352 words)

Am so used to being used and mistreated, it's what I look for now in a relationship! How do I end the cycle?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Is there something wrong with me? Has this really changed me? I was in a bad relationship where I was lied and cheated on. I forgave her and it just never got better. Things ended kind of with occasional relapses in hanging out. I absolutely was in love with this girl so bad ... (222 words)

Should I carry on trying to take things further?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - hi. I know this might sound a bit stupid but i am totally unbearablely obsessed with this guy. We don't know each other very well but we have been going to the same hockey club for 1 or 2 years and he's recently started at the same school as me. Everytime I see him I go all ... (141 words)

How can I drop hints I might be pregnant

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - how can i drop hints to my mam i might be pregnant because i think i am because i am late on my period and my stomach is growing also i am going to the loo alot please help i have no one i get home schooled and the nearest town is 50 miles away x... (62 words)

Neighbours husband caught me on video with his wife. Now he wants a threesome!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been married 6 years and have 2 kids, one is almost 2 and the other is 4 years old. My wife has been too tired to have sex for more than 8 months now and I finally gave into my urges. It was a hot Sunday afternoon two weeks ago and I was doing yard work. I was dum... (483 words)

How do I get past my shyness?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Im Going out with a lad i really like, but im quite shy and i always keep hiding my face when he stares at me because i hate the way i look even though he says im pretty,, what can i do to stop me from being shy?... (48 words)

Do guys want experienced girls?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I was just wondering...do guys prefer girls that are sexually inexperienced or do they like girls with experience. i personally have no experience and my friends say that they do prefer girls like that but im not so sure. do any of you guys out there have thoughts on this?... (50 words)

I had a bad accident, will women want to date me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I haven't dated in over 17 years and I don't want to be alone forever. I was nearly killed in a car accident when I was 24(I'm 41 now).I was a bodybuilder at the time,which doctors say probably saved my life.I was drunk(.33)4 times the limit.I never have and never will forgi... (518 words)

I'm falling in love with someone who isn't my wife!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I am so confused. I am married and our sex life doesn't exist, but there is someone else that I want to be with. I am 40 she is 18 and we are very flirty with each other. I don't know if its the lack of sex at home or what but I am finding myself falling in love with her. I ... (158 words)

I'm angry a scan did not detect my mother's cancer. what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My mother died of lung cancer the end of August this year - it was not detected until after her death. For the past year she has been going to the doctors complaining of text book symptoms. She had a scan in April which came back clear. After her death I went to see her doctor ... (175 words)

How serious should I take it when he says we are not having sex, we are making love?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok aunts...this is tricky...im curious how far am i suppose to go when considering the words that are said during sex...i know some talk sh*t when making out and it's just apart of sex...but this guy told me we weren't having sex we were making love... this is a guy i've kn... (153 words)

My boyfriends dad found my alcohol, how do I regain his trust?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - the other night i slept around my boyfriends house and brought a bottle of vodka with me the next day i forgot to take it home and my boyfriends dad found it and now hates me how can i regain his trust i know it was my fault but i dont know what to do please help me xx... (59 words)

I'm in love with two best friends. Any ideas?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - im in love with two people both available but both best friends and they both like me what should i do? x... (22 words)

Once we had sex he changed.Does he see me as nothing?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay there is this guy that I really like. If you've read one of my similar posts I stated that he was ignoring me. I gave my virginity to him and afterwards he started ignoring me. I told him that I really liked him but he doesn't want to hear it. Before we had sex he was ... (199 words)

He always needs sex but I need help with our son!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - im 19 years old...i got married when i was 17.My husband is 26 years old, we have our first son together he is 6 months old.We been having problems for about 3 months i dont know if its my fault because we argue but i have to keep telling him to help me out with our son, i ... (199 words)

He shaved his pubic hair when I asked him not to!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - So today is a very sad day for me. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and he's been talking about shaving his pubic hair for a while. Well, today he did it! Why why why? He just came home from work ate dinner and did it while i was sleeping. When he climbed into bed ... (181 words)

What can I do to solve my depression?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - i think im really depressed, my parents are divorced, i have no friends who live any were near me, im anti social, and feel down all the time. can you recomend anything i can do?... (39 words)

Is he ever going to use his full potential?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we clicked immediately. It went smoothly for the longest time, but I questioned weather he was over his ex or not. Now, I think he is mostly over her, but I still question it occasionally. Now, we argue alot, mostly ... (365 words)

Lies caused my mum to dissaprove, I want my ex back how do I approach her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Iv been with a boy before and hes 16 years old, but my uncle says to my mam he was 18 when he wasnt but my uncle has never bothered with me ever in my life until now, but why now? the boy i was with was the best boy i ever dreamed of but i broke up with him coz my mam ... (117 words)

She wont let him see his baby if he stays with me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend's ex recently gave birth to his baby and now she wants to get back with him. hes told her hes staying with me, but shes saying that as long as were together he cant see his baby!. ive stressed my opinion on how this unfair for both my boyfriend and the baby and she ... (124 words)

Do I stand up and keep fighting or let him go? Male opinions needed!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - So - I'm in need of male advice/guidence. I was in a 4 year relationship. 2 years or so into it, he had an affar with the 23 year old receptionist at his work. (I am 33 he is 30). We were not doing well, so I took that into consideration and decided to fight for the ... (685 words)

I can't read this guy! He wants to marry me by the 2nd date!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I'm in quite a situation and it's my own fault so it's ok if you tell me I messed up cause I know. Anyway here's the problem I just met this guy from Mexico and I asked him out we went on 2 dates and he says he loves me. I slept with him the second date and he told me he ... (160 words)

He lied about his age. What should I do now?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a guy who told me he was 18 going on 19..things developed fast and I think I've fallen for him, only for him to tell me he's 16. I'm 22. I'm confused and told him I need time to think. What should I do?... (46 words)

I've let my insecurities get the better of me and just stuff everything up...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5493 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know what to do.. i feel as though my relationship, more myself has gone off track by a mile. I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and am 19 and in the past year have become overly obsessive and insecure. i really don't know what to do about this. i can't he... (218 words)

He said he needs space but I emailed him and said I said: "I can't see myself being with anyone else"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyrfriend and I have been together for one year. Back then we used to see each other everyday, but then he had to move to a different state and my parents don't like him. We talk to each other on the phone for atleast 2 hours everyday before we go to sleep. Its been like ... (362 words)

Should I go out with a boy who is my "soul mate"? Everyone thinks we need to!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - we were out for the day me an my mates and we ran into this boy who is my soul mate hes exactly like me we have the same personalty and everyone says we need to go out and he really likes me but im really not attracted to him but sometimes i think i should just go out with him ... (67 words)

We broke up but can we go back to how we were before she got depressed and got big?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - My g/f broke up with me last week. Now let me explain how our relationship was. We have been dating for about 19 months and it was the best time of my life. About 5 months ago we decided to move in together. Shortly after that she never seemed like the same person. She would ... (413 words)

How do I go back to feeling happy and complete on my own?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 23 years old, I've just finished my postgraduate degree and started working. I consider myself to be attractive and my colleagues wonder/ask me why I'm still single. I get guys approaching me and asking me out for a date but I never like these guys. I never feel physi... (335 words)

I'm trying to be respectful of her request for space but I feel like I've lost the only thing that matters to me

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been dating the most wonderful woman in the world for the past 10 months. She and I have always told each other that we see the other as our one true soul mate, and we often talk about getting married and spending our lives together forever (we are both amazing lovers ... (379 words)

My boyfriend slept with someone else out of the blue; why would he do this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of over 2 and a half years has slept with someone else. He came to mine on Saturday, we had great sex, then went to the fair then for a lovely meal. He then went to a friend in London's housewarming party, coming back the next day. I came home from a race t... (578 words)

I cant seem to balance my relationship and my friends so I broke up with him but I still love him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 2 months ago. I did it because I cant seem to balance my friends and him at the same time. He doesnt understand why I need anyone else but him. The last 2 months have been hell for me. Ive missed him so much, and today he came over ... (190 words)

How likely is it that he will stop wanting to see me because I need to lose a few pounds?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating this guy for about 2.5 months. Last night I was at his house and we were messing around and he started to undress me. Just before we started dating I gained about 10 lbs, and even though I know my weight/body is average, I'm very self conscious about it. ... (207 words)

Is there still hope that I can make changes and save our marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been married for 15 years. My husband has asked to leave... I have asked for him to stay and let us try... we have been trying for years. I am not able to quite. He has agreed to stay in our home (by my begging) until he finds a place which will probably be in 10 days. I ... (421 words)

I was doing so well getting over him but all my hard work has been undone

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - 2 years ago i fell in love, it was amazing, i had never met anyone like him,. everyone said we made the perfect couple, and we were so happy. we went out for a year, but towards the last month he said that it was going to quick, he was too young (just turned 21, i was 24) i had ... (556 words)

My mum doesn't like my boyfriend, how can I explain it to her so she will let me get back with him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Well, I Was with this boy before but my uncle went and told lies about him to my mam so my mam started not to like him, when i broke up with him i cant stop thinking of him i really want him back but i just dont know how to explain it to my mam so that she will let me get back ... (73 words)

I feel so scared and alone, the one good thing in my life has gone!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I think this has been long overdue and I'm not even sure I know how to express exactly how i'm feeling in one question, but I have to try. I'm almost eighteen now and I really feel like i've hit an all time low, rock bottom you might say. I know there are things I have ... (485 words)

Alone and pregnant while the father of the baby is out drinking every weekend sleeping with other women!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

- Im ten weeks pregnant. Im not in a relationship with the father, I was seeing him for a short while but it was never serious. However, he is happy about it and says he will support me and the child. I know he will be a good dad. The only thing that is bugging me is that while ... (265 words)

I want him so badly

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My best friend has a girlfriend but I sometimes feel that he's sick of her and he's flirting with me. Sometimes he tells me that he loves her alot, anyway I love him so much and I can't get over him. I don't know what i'm going do but all I know is that I want him and I want ... (84 words)

My friend cant decide which ex to go out with again

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid, my friend has 5 old boyfriends she likes one of them alot but he's ignoring her. Another one who used to love her alot but trying to make her jealous to get her back and the last who's really cute and likes her, but there's this new guy who's very kind and lovely ... (80 words)

I have a crush on him but I think he is still in love with his ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupid, i have a crush on this guy and have been crushing on him since last year.. but i think he's still in love with his ex-girlfriend.. but he's always laughing with me and winking at me should i go for it? what should i do?... (47 words)

Torn between two men

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm torn between 2 men. One is my bf of 3 years who I'm having a LDR with for the past few months. Everything was great for the first 2 years but during the past year, I feel that I don't seem to love him the way I used to. I still love him but I'm not sure if i am just com... (347 words)

My relationship is suffering because of depression.. can someone help me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi...sorry for the long message but I really need to talk to someone and would really appreciate it if someone would just listen... I’ve been suffering from depression for a while now. it never was a constant thing. I’d be my normal, fun loving self for a while, but some nig... (497 words)

Is this lump something I should be worried about?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Guys. I suppose this isn't really relevant to this site, but I'm hoping someone may have had a similar experience, as the stuff i'm finding on the internet is making me worry. I'm 6 1/2 months pregnant, and have noticed a lump next to my nipple that is about the size of a 2 ... (111 words)

This married man has really got me confused big time.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age - No moral judgements please it's to late for that. 30yrs ago i met a married man we had a 3yr affair,i moved away that ended it. now 6yrs ago we catch up again and we have started this all over again,he is still married i am not,the thing is i have always been in love with him... (377 words)

We tried a couple swap but he couldnt perform, and now he isnt speaking to me!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age - A new man I have been dating asked if we could try a swap. A couple swap. I agreed, out of adventure, and because I wasn't in love with him. We have a NSA arrangement, but not just 100% sexual.He talked like I was steady GF, and acted like it with this couple around. ... (289 words)

Is it possible that I am 14 weeks pregnant? I'm only 15!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi,its been 4 months since my last period which is 1 month longer than normal. I can't wait for a missed period because of the months between them,so I don't have an exact date to work with. If I was pregnant I would be 14 weeks and 2 days pregnant. *tired *... (235 words)

Which of us is at fault here?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I am really confused at the moment. I am married with three children. My husband is a very domesticated person and is caring. However over the last year things have got worse as we have a child with special needs who needs a special school. I am feeling very stressed out. ... (546 words)

My best friend was raped and I feel really horrible about the situation, how do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone... I turned 18, yesterday actually, and I am a beautiful girlfriend who ive had for a year and a half. My best friend is a girl who is very special to me who I've known for yeeeeeears longer then my girlfriend and we see each other as brother and sister but w... (193 words)

Should I just end it and focus on my career, or will I be giving up a nice guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - So I did something I thought I'd never do. I've met someone on an online gay dating site, I never thought I would but I did. I spoke to him online for a good month and a bit before i got the confidence to actually meet him, as ive never really done it before... I spok... (1229 words)

Are either of us looking for more than friendship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

- broke up with my boyfriend about 6 months ago. We lived together and it ended badly. It hurt a lot for both of us and he went away to France with work so we never spoke to each other. On Friday I had to e-mail him to say his post was still coming, and we have been mailing ever ... (141 words)

I suffer from bouts of jealousy and insecurity - how can I overcome it?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I need some points of view! I suffer from spouts of jealousy...always have really...and I can't deal with them very well...it's taken control of my life. For instance, if my husband and I are at the video store choosing a film, it has to be one with not too many pretty w... (306 words)

His constant sexual innuendos are making me think he is just after one thing, I just want a normal conversation with him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello Just wanted a bit of advice on how to take this guy ... Ok have been talking for a few months when ever I saw him, he works near me. He would always come over and speak to me whenever I saw him, we would chat for a while and he would always stop what he was doing to come ... (418 words)

Why am I having such a hard time overcoming my jealousy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I need some points of view! I suffer from spouts of jealousy...always have really...and I can't deal them very well...it's taken control of my life. For instance, if my husband and I are at the video store choosing a film, it has to be one with not too many pretty women in... (302 words)

Each time our relationship gets a bit rocky we cheat on each other! Is it worth trying to save this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - me and my boyfriend have been together for a while we go through basic relationship problems he cheats but i cheat as well. but now it seems like it is more than that i feel like he care for everyone else but me, i feel like i don't matter anymore but he constantly tells me i ... (71 words)

Any suggestions on how to put some excitement back into our love life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi Ive been with my partner for about 14 months now, we live a fair distance away so we mainly spend weekends and holidays together though we are looking to move in together soon. Thing is, we get on fine, but our sex life just seems flat nowadays, we do still have sex m... (300 words)

My teenage daughters found my husband's porn and our sex life has been replaced with his fetishes!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age - After 18 years of marriage my daughters found my husband's porn on his computer, they were thirteen and fifteen. They informed me because they did'nt know what else to do. A few weeks later I was checking why insulation was on the floor and found three gallon ziplock bags full ... (161 words)

What's the best way to react when he calls me and I'm already out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - The man i used to date last year doesn't give me a lot of interest and as he says he isn't eager for a serious relationship. However i like to go out with him and when he asks me we usually arrange to meet each other. Sometimes he calls me when i have already arranged to go out ... (284 words)

How do I tell him that I don't want to wait years to have a baby without it ruining our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, it's me again lol this time i'm going through a little more than usual. like i said in a previous blog/article i had two miscarriages about a year ago, neither of them were planned pregnancies and they both really tore me up inside. i've tried filling that void with ... (494 words)

She said there was never any oral...what are the odds?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - i broke up with my gf after a year long relationship. after a week and a half she had sex with another coworker of ours about 4-5 times during a 3-4 week period. long story short, we got back together after she had her little fling and im starting to regret it. she said ... (170 words)

Is my best friend developing feelings for me?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - OK, the background in brief! My best friend is female, two years younger than me. We've only known each other for four years and became very good friends very quickly. We spend a lot of time together and like a lot of the same things and we both feel like we've known each ... (528 words)

She just won't talk!!

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been with my girl for a year now and I am so frustrated. The intimacy was great for the first of our relationship but has now gone completely absent on her end. I started noticing it about 4 months into it but did not think anything of it because things do change a... (303 words)

Am I blind to what she may have got up to at a party?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok so me and my girlfriend just broke up a couple days ago. I broke up with her because of a long distance thing (4 hours). It felt like we were becoming more distant and I did not see any use in dragging something out that I didn't feel would last. However, she felt complete... (332 words)

There are too many obstacles in the way of being together, but do you think he still loves me?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Well I met this guy through one of my friends in London, it was her cousin. when I was about 16. He was sooo cute looking ... I just knew he was the one. We were both very shy so we didn't verbally talk to each other as in face to face or phone we used to just chat online. ... (565 words)

My pregnancy has taken me totally by surprise. What do I do and where do I go from here?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I just found out that I am 34 weeks pregnant. I never knew until I took a test because I was having problems with what I thought was gas and constipation and the pain was really bad so I went to a doctor at a walk in clinic and he said to do a test just in case. Well it was ... (475 words)

Need advice and thoughts on situation with ex!

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I'm so confused and I need an honest opinion....I was with my ex for 3 and a half years...before that we were best friends for 6 years so in total, we've been close for 9 almost 10 years...recently (about a month ago) he dumped me saying that the "pain of... (619 words)

Should I stay with her or not?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok I got a question for you guys. I really dont have anywhere else to turn to, so I'll try here. A couple of months ago my girlfriend and I bought a pet from this guy. Few months later I saw a friend on her MySpace page that had only her as a friend. I asked her about it and ... (319 words)

I'm starting to think of him a lot - where do I go from here?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, two years ago i dated this guy that i deeply fell in love with. we dated for two weeks then broke up. nine months later, we dated again for four months and it didnt work out again. we were just high school kids, so we made a lot of mistakes, we still had a lot to learn. ... (349 words)

If I can get her into it it's OK, right?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - if i was in the mood for sex and my gf isn`t and i did things to make her horney like foreplay is it safe to assume i can proceed? if she resisted at first but then gave in then it`s ok? its not rape if she ends up enjoying it right?... (52 words)

My husband is really in to gay porn

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I have been married 3 years, our sex life started out strong and wild...He asked me to buy a strap on and play the man with him. I have been against porn and he knows this. I caught him buying porn and it almost ended our relationship. I thouht from the ... (260 words)

Should I try to help my friend that's addicted to drugs?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My friend is doing very dangerous things to himself. Most of myself knows that I can not actually get him to stop the destructiveness that he's fallen back into. But he asked me for help, but does he really mean it? It did sound desperate, and he managed to ask me for help when ... (246 words)

Sometimes it really feels like I'm moving on, and other times it feels like I'm still really hoping for something

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - hi, I had a lover for about a year who I became very attached to. She didn't want a committed relationship, it was pretty casual, but she told me she loved me and sometimes would let her guard down and say things that were pretty loving. But I always felt like I was g... (496 words)

I do everything to care for my fiance and her best friend, but she won't care for me

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - If I am living with my fiance and we have a child together, and we both live with my fiance's bestfriend (a gay man) whom she has lived with for years before I met her. I saw these two get evicted twice, I moved them, I payed for the moves, rent, etc.....bought them groceries, ... (413 words)

Am I too boring? Is this why guys don't like me?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a bit confused. I am almost 20 and i have yet to go on a date. I also have never held hands, hugged, or even kissed a guy before. I consider myself to be fairly attractive...kind of plain. I'm what most people would consider to be a goody goody. I go to church every ... (91 words)

I am too scared to leave him for fear of what he might do!

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have so many troubles about my current boyfriend.For 2 years,I was taking good care of him.He didn't have work and no proper place to live.I was paying his rent and buying his groceries,giving him money for his fare everyday to look for job.I end up having no money after 1 ... (271 words)

How do I prepare myself for anal sex?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Well i wanna have anal sex but im scared to.... Ive tried b4 but i think with just the little that the head has gone in it riped the sides and now every time i use the rr i sorta bleed but im scared more of the way it feels when the whole penis goes in how thats gunna feel how ... (104 words)

I need words of wisdom. I'm a girl in a dark place...

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I think all my problems start with the vivid memories of my childhood. I remember I must of been only four, I was pounding on the door, screaming for my mother and when the door opened, another woman was standing there - naked. It must of took us weeks before we worked up the ... (568 words)

I don't know what to do with this fine, Mexican boy!!

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5 October 2009 (?) age 26-29 - im still trying to get a boyfriend without being so desperate. im mean ive been asked out a few times, but not by the right guys. Here's a follow up. Ok, last year ive been looking up ways to suduce, flirt, all kinds of stuff with this one boy. It seemed to get his attentio... (356 words)

My boyfriend is pressuring me to go farther than I want

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend wants more then just kissing..he gave me a hickey i didnt want it.... he is making me feel uncomfortable by touching me!!! and i told him to stop and he yells and says its like we are just friends nothing more... and he has slaped me few times.. but then he is all ... (128 words)

Is it too weird to date my ex's friend?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I dated my ex boyfriend for about 6 months. We have been broken up for about the same amount of time now ( he broke up with me and started dating his ex) i was sad because we got along great and things were getting a bit serious between us, so it kinda took me by surpsie.... so ... (399 words)

Should I marry him or not?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - i had a 2 years relationship wd my bf...well,i've always been waiting for him to propose and whenever i brought up the subject to him he'd say to me he aint ready and that used to tear my heart apart...well,lately he surprised me by proposing to me but the thing is am not happy ... (97 words)

I need to get a partner and gain sexual experience! Any tips?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a nineteen-year-old male college student who has never kissed a girl. I don't lack the tools necessary: I'm physically attractive, funny, and a hecka bomb musician. My problem is that I am afraid to make a mistake. I didn't even kiss the first girl I fell in love with. We... (391 words)

He says a "break" will make us stronger?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years. He says he wants a "break" because I doesn't feel he deserves me right now and feels he needs to mature before he can have me. He said he can't go on hurting me anymore by stupid things he does he said he knows he's been a ... (237 words)

How do I bring up the subject without pressuring her?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey fellow agony aunts! I'm in quite a dilema. Im 14 soon to be 15. My girl friend is 15 and we both have been together for a while. Like 8 months. We've done nothing sexual just innocent kisses and making out. But for a long time now i've been feeling a lot of sexual ... (154 words)

Why is he suddenly acting so cruel?

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5 October 2009 (?) age 30-35 - Just want to know why guys do this!! After a long term relationship in which we were completely in love and going to get married, he calls off the relationship out of the blue. Cheating and abuse of any kind were not involved. He cries and sulks for a year even after no c... (253 words)

If I had came inside her is there a high risk of her getting pregnant?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend has just gotten off her period 6 days ago, and has been on birth control for 5 days. (5 pills taken) We had unprotected sex but I pulled out. I am not 100% sure I pulled out in time though. If i had came inside her is there a high risk of her getting pregnant?... (57 words)

Suggestions on a hateful daughter?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age - I have a daughter age 36, she is has become so hateful, mean and arrogant and eccentric I don't even know who she is anymore. Over the past 10 yrs she has taken Zoloft and I truly believe it is changing her personality. She explodes in anger for things most people would ... (300 words)

I know he's "off limits" so why does he stare at me?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - So I like this guy...but he has a girlfriend so I know he is off limits and would never do anything to break them up. But I know I look at him a lot and sometimes our eyes meet so I look away....But I catch him just staring at me sometimes and he doesn't look away when I look... (296 words)

Could I be missing a hormone or something?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so this is my first time doing this so bare with me...im 19 yrs old and i am a newlywed...it will be a year in December. I love my husband to death but i can count on one hand how many times we have had sex. not because of him but because of me. i just don't have the urge ... (142 words)

Is he in it just for a good time?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - So I've met this guy and he is just exactly what i've been looking for for a while. He is very good and im good around him, he doesnt seem like a guy who would treat a girl wrong, when he looks at me i see it in him eye that he is really into me and he tells me all those sweet ... (327 words)

Girlfriend has fallen in love with a gay chick in jail! What do I do?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - my girlfriend is pregnant with my baby. she went to jail and she has fallin in love with a 40 year old gay chick in jail. now she says she is going to raise my baby with her when she gets out. what should i do?... (46 words)

Does he think so little of me that he doesn't even want to see if I'm okay?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - i feel sooo stupid. my ex added me to his facebook but i couldnt take looking at his wedding pictures etc so i deleted the link. i became very depressed because i still had feelings for him so stupidly readded him. we had a bad split so although it was mutual i felt it was al... (303 words)

Is she into me...or not?

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I really need some advice for a woman I'm interested in, because she's been very ambiguous (hot and cold) towards me. She is a former co-worker and a friend, and over the past week, we were hanging out quite a bit. Initially, she showed all the classic signs of being i... (378 words)

Life just rolling downhill

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - erm ok, im not really sure where to start its pretty much been this whole year where my life seems to be just rolling downhill. To start with i met this guy and he was perfect we went out but it ended because of the distance, that was 5months ago now but i still love him even... (375 words)

I can't believe I let it happen...what do you think I should do?

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5 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi.. I am married and completely in love. He's in the military so he's been away for 3/4 of the time i've known him. We decided to be officially together about two weeks before he left for the first time. I'd only known him 2 weeks before that and didn't know too much about hi... (691 words)

My wife doesn't want to be touched anymore!

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5 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone. My wife don't like to be touched anymore and she don't really care about sex anymore. What am I to do? My wife claims that she is so busy but she just go to school. I mean this situation causes many agruments and makes me wonder should I just end my marriage. ... (125 words)