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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 October 2009):
You must take a test or speak to a doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni still havent came on but my point is i had my period after i had sex have not done nothing else and now i am two weeks late
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reader, Azure Rain  +, writes (7 October 2009):
ok so she was not mad or when you told her you were sexually active thats a nice supporting mom.
so she is already mentally prepared for the day you have this pregnancy issue but she probably is hoping for this a bunch of years from now.
Can you buy a pregnancy test online and have it mailed to your house?
Can you go to the store with your mom and pick it up when shes not looking?
Can you tell your cousin the situation and have them mail it to you? It could be a new outfit or some books or something and have them slide it in the package so your mom won't find out.
If your pregnant you still have to tell your mom
If not you really need to make sure you practice safe sex everytime not only to protect from pregancy and but std's too. If you get an std and do nothing about it there are chances you can get really sick or become infertile. It wouldn't be something you can try to wait out.
Imagine if you had sex with one person and that person had sex with 1 person and that 1 person had sex with 3 people and of those three people they each had a total of 5 partners If all of those sexual encounters were unprotected then you just slept with 20 people. now thats alot of people. Please Use condoms.
Let me know if you need any more advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe found out because some one once text me saying i heard about you having sex with some one then that was that she did not kick of she just huged me i dont want to tell her and then me not be pregnant
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reader, Azure Rain +, writes (7 October 2009):
Oh your 14 ok this must be hard. Well how did your mom find out you have already been sexually active? Did you tell her or did she just find out?
Its very important that you tell your mom because if you are pregnant you are going to need prenatal care to make sure you have a healthy baby.
If i were you and scared to tell my mom i would write her a letter. When i was 14 i was so afraid of disappointing my mom that i can't imagine telling her something like "mom i might be pregnant"
So write her a letter leave it on her bed for her to read after work or while she is in the shower and just sit in your room and wait for her to call your name asking about the letter. Then the hard part is out of the way and you can begin dealing with this.
Worst case senario Shes gonna be mad" how could this happen Why didnt you use protection.... and other stuff"
but she will get over it and get you a pregnacy test or take you to the doctors
If you are pregnant you will have to face the fact that your going to be a mom. and your mom will help you
If you are not pregnant then you will learn a valuable life lesson and not put yourself in this situation again.
I hope everything goes well and please update me on what you have decided to do or if you need a better idea of how to tell her.
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reader, charlie p +, writes (6 October 2009):
U gotta just come out and say it. Maybe just do it now? Just take a deep breath, go to her room and say it. There isnt much you can do to tell her in such a way as to make it easy. Just do it quick, so its done. Then you'll feel better because your mum will then be on your side and not part of the stress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni never had sex with my cozen i had sex while staying down south with my cozen
i am only 14 i put that age as i thought u might have to be 18 to get on the sight
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): You say to your mother "Mum, I think I might be pregnant, can you get me a test kit from Boots' Chemists the next time you go to town / the big city please?"
Either that or get the potential father to get one and post it to you. He might like to know if his little taddies work quite well and whether he needs to start looking for an extra job!
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 When you are feeling ill does she take you to the doctor? You are between the ages of 18 - 21. Can you not think of a way to go to the doctor or an excuse which would take you to town?
You have internet access, so you can't be that shut in. Do you not drive yourself yet?
You have that option or this one:
"Mom, we need to talk."
"Oh? What about?"
"Well, you know I had sex with my cousin."
"Yes...."
"I have been feeling these symptoms. I might be pregnant and I an scared. Can you take me for a pregnancy test?"
She may get mad. There is no way to tell her that will guarantee she will take this news well. She will get over it.
The sooner you deal with this the better. The longer it goes on for, the worse it will get.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had sex at my cozens this was the beginning of august + how am I meant to get a test I live on a farm away from everything this includes doctors I have realised I will have to tell my mom but I am scared in case I am not and then that was a waste of time + she already noes I have had sex but will you help me out on how to tell her please x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Obviously you have someone, how else would you get pregnant.
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reader, charlie p +, writes (5 October 2009):
She's going to find out sooner or later, so it's best to tell her. But don't worry, she may not react as badly as you suspect!
Many girls are reluctant to tell their mothers that they're pregnant, as they think that they'll get into trouble. But the mothers are more interested in protecting their daughters and helping them than punishing them.
So as soon as you're sure you must tell her!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): This may not be what you want to hear, and I highly doubt it will be easy, but I think that you are better off just sitting down and telling your mother what is going on. This is a time sensitive situation. If you think that you are pregnant, and are having symptoms (especially if you are beginning to show) you do not have the time to drop hints. You will have more options and access to better health care if you face the issue head on, right now. I had to do this as a young teenager, so I understand how tough it will be. When I told my mom I sat her down and said "I'm going to tell you something that you may not like and may not want to hear.... I think that I am pregnant". I'd like to say that it went smoothly, but it didn't. She went postal, she cried, but then we talked and she was there to support me.It is often said that "if you are old enough to have sex you are old enough to face the consequences", so you need to face the consequences. Don't "beat around the bush". Face the situation head on. It won't be easy. But it will be much easier to deal with situation with your mother at your side than worrying about the situation alone. You need medical attention and your Mom's support. Ask for it. Now.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 October 2009):
I agree with the other post. If you're not sure, get yourself tested as soon as possible. Start there. If you are, instead of dropping hints, talk to the doctor about how you can break this. He/she will be able to help.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 October 2009):
Well considering you have no one you've managed to get pregnant..... That normally takes 2 people.
You just have to tell her.
If she's home schooled you then she's been in charge of your sex education and she's not done a good enough job.
Be honest with her and get a test done. You need to see a doctor asap.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (5 October 2009):
Before you do anything, try and get to a pharmacy to buy a pregnancy test. It would be awful to tell her you may be pregnant only to find out that you are not. Is there a doctor near you? You can find out with them as well and they have confidentiality restrictions, so your secret is safe until you are ready to tell.
If you are, I wouldn't bother dropping hints. Sit her down and discuss it with her. If you are pregnant, you will be a mother soon. It's time to behave like a grown up and that's how we do things.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Nearest town 50 miles away?
Where do you live - Rockall perhaps?
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