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writes:Ok I got a question for you guys. I really dont have anywhere else to turn to, so I'll try here. A couple of months ago my girlfriend and I bought a pet from this guy. Few months later I saw a friend on her MySpace page that had only her as a friend. I asked her about it and she told me she didnt know anything about it, 10 minutes after hanging up on me that friend's account got deleted. Now 3 days ago I go to check my Yahoo email and it takes me to a email account that I've never seen before (belonging to her). In that e-mail I saw one message in her inbox that said Hey baby, Tell me what you think about tonight. In the out box I saw another message from her to him saying Baby have a wonderful day tomorro hun :D. I confronted her about it and she told me it was the same guy we bought the pet from. I got furious because of the way they spoke to each other, and she kept on claiming that no there is nothing going on she was just messing around, and that they have never seen each other again. I asked her if she talked to him on the phone and she claimed no. Later on I found out that they spoke on the phone 3 times a week. The guy she is speaking with is 14 years older then her.... She says they are just friends, and I dont know what to believe. I don't think she has cheated on me (yet) because we are always together. She is begging me to forgive her, crying, and saying she will change. I dont know if she will change or not, and i dont know if I should stay with her or not... What do you guys think????
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
I think she did a lot of lying, so I think if you want her, you both need to sit down and speak to each other about this. Look into her eyes as she speaks and you'll know whether you want to leave or not. All the best.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (5 October 2009):
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She is sorry she got caught. Thats about it really. She is lieing through her teeth and badly I might add. Its all snowballing on her and she now faces the possibility you may leave her for the emotional affair she has pretty much been having. I have seen this before and to be honest she is moreso worried that she will be dumped. I have seen girls before hop guys like this. Where they kinda case the new guy, boyfriend finds out, they are scared they will be dumped, the boyfriend forgives them and then after a while the girl dumps the boyfriend for the new guy. Its really about control and not having control of leaving the relationship when they please. Mind you there is no sex involved *usually*. So technically she isn't physically cheating in her mind.
Its completely up to yourself really if you want to forgive her. After all we are only human and we do make mistakes. Attention does wonder and people do/can change especially after a very violent wake up call, like the one you have given your girlfriend. But you have to realise by letting this slide, you are giving her signals that by crying and begging she can get away from the lieing she has done. Really you should be more concerned with her lieing than her roaming attention. People flirt, thats a fact. However she could have come clean about just liking his guys attention and that it was harmless flirting rather than pile on lies to cover her ass.
Hope that helps,
HonningKanin
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