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*endra0589
writes:Okay there is this guy that I really like. If you've read one of my similar posts I stated that he was ignoring me. I gave my virginity to him and afterwards he started ignoring me. I told him that I really liked him but he doesn't want to hear it. Before we had sex he was really cool and he told me he would treat me right. Now everything's changed. We had sex about three weeks ago. He barely texts or calls. I slowly started to get him out of my head as time past. Last night he texted and asked what I was doing. I replied "Nothing". He then texted and said he wanted to have sex again. He lives two hours away the last time I drove to his home. I told him last night I wasn't coming to him. I still live with my mother so we couldn't do it at my home. He offered to have sex in the car. I feel so low and now I see that he see's me as nothing because he offered to have sex in the car. I like him so much but should I leave him alone?
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reader, Kendra0589 +, writes (6 October 2009):
Kendra0589 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone for all your positive answers. To xanthic I have self respect for myself. If I didn't then I would be doing the things he asked.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Like all of the others have said, he is using you.
This is what will happen if you have sex with him:
He calls/texts for sex
you agree and have sex
he ignores you for a week or two
then he calls/texts again for sex
and then ignores you for a week or two
This will keep on going on. You deserve better then this and you are NOT a sex object. He doesn't care for you. I am sorry you lost your virginity to such a jerk. Move on and don't contact him!
Good Luck!
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reader, xanthic +, writes (6 October 2009):
 It doesn't matter how much you like someone, they're going to do whatever they can get away with, as long as you let them. You're teaching this boy that it's okay to use you, because in spite of being treated like a piece of meat you're still sleeping with him. You need to stop taking his calls and gain some self-respect before getting involved with anyone else. Some men will say *anything* to get a woman into bed, what really matters is how they act towards you, not what they say.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 He sees you as an occasional sex object when there ain't anything else to do.
Your choice wether you want to fill this role. Wouldn't recommend it.
A player would be better, they also only want sex but at least put in more effort to keep you intrested.
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reader, Rachel O  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 he's using you, don't let any lad use you, delete his number don't have any contact with him.
he only talks to you when he wants sex
You deserve better, forget about him and find someone that cares about you and doesn't just want you for sex
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): The next time he texts you and asks you what you do, don't reply "Nothing" because that way you give him the impression that you have no life without him and are only "fulfilled" when you are with him. Men like women who have a like on their own and enjoy themselves without a man too.And please don't drive to him at night just to have sex with him. Men want a princess, a girl who does not give herself too easily. If he wants to see you only to have sex, I am afraid to say that he does not see you as along term relationship material..Read the book "Why men love bitches" by Sheryl Argov, there are some good ideas to get treated right..Hope this few lines may help.
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Yes, sweetie. You are a smart and beautiful girl and deserve to be treated much better than "Bub" over there treated you. If you go back to him - even for just sex - he will think less of you than he does now and will learn it is ok to treat you poorly because he can still get into your pants. He loses nothing.
And the next time someone texts "What are you doing?" the answer is never nothing. It could be laundry, it could be homework, it could be watching television. It is never nothing. To say "Nothing," makes you look boring, and you are not boring.
Ignore him the next time he contacts you. You are too busy with real friends and fun activities to waste time with a loser... You certainly do not wait on a shelf for a boy, ready to make yourself available when he has nothing else going on... right?
;-)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 October 2009):
Sorry, but he's using you. Sex in a car, but no relationship or care or love? He's using you. Don't let yourself be abused and hurt like this. You're better. End this relationship and find a guy that will really love you. There are better guys out there.
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