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writes:I've been with my girl for a year now and I am so frustrated. The intimacy was great for the first of our relationship but has now gone completely absent on her end. I started noticing it about 4 months into it but did not think anything of it because things do change after the initial start. But little by little she has been more and more uninterested in anything sexually/intimately oriented. This includes our kissing, touching, and of course sex. The sex was once a week. Then once every two weeks. It has been about a month now since we have had anything. I have talked to her before and had asked her if there was something wrong with the relationship or with a personal problem she might have. Nothing. A couple months go by and I bring the issue up again explaining that I was still wondering why there might have been a change and that I was willing to talk or compromise about the situation. Still nothing but a defensive temper argument from her. this is not the first issue we have had that she will not communicate with me about. I have tried so hard to make it work and to have her meet me halfway but it has not wotked so far. She has recently told me that she is no longer attracted to me. I have put on about ten pounds since we started dating but so has she. I am still completely attracted to her and I tell her this all the time. I'm very upset about the lack of communication from her. Is this worth the struggle or can that flame ever be brought back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Hi
Yeah, I went through what you are currently feeling, except that I was the uninterested girl. OK, so she has regularly been a little tacit. Maybe that is her nature, but then she told you that she is no longer attracted to you... after a year it does get a bit boring! Maybe she is bored with you? Or maybe she wants a little variety in the relationship as well as in the bed? Have you tried doing anything fun and spontaneous? We love communicative men, but talking isn't all we want you know! Sometimes it gets boring. And, believe it or not, there are a few women that are just as secretive as men! So, try to do spice things a little bit. And I refuse to believe that it is about the way you look, so don't even go there. The other explanation is that perhaps you have tried to spice things up and still she is indifferent. In that case, maybe she wants out and has been trying to hint it.
Look, there is little point in badgering the girl to talk. If she won't confide in you then all you can do is to make it so much fun that she won't think about what bothered her in the first place. But then again, maybe she doesn't feel for you to the extent that you feel for her! In that case, better luck next time!
So, that is all from me
Take Care ;)
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Ok, ultimatum time. She either tells you straight up and in detail what is bothering her, so you can start to work on it together, or else you need to part ways. If she is not willing to collaborate with you so you can have a healthy relationship together, you need to say goodbye so you can find someone who you CAN have a decent relationship with.
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