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writes:Hi I'm in quite a situation and it's my own fault so it's ok if you tell me I messed up cause I know. Anyway here's the problem I just met this guy from Mexico and I asked him out we went on 2 dates and he says he loves me. I slept with him the second date and he told me he loved me on the phone later that night. So I'm not sure he is telling the truth or just lusting after me ? I asked him if he was playing with me and he said no that he loves me wants to get married and have a baby with me. This freaked me out alittle. I have been still seeing him about a week now he still says he loves me ? I can't read this guy what dose anybody else think ? Your advice would be great Thanks so much . Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): This is the origanal poster agian and thanks for all the advice everyone has given. I have decided to still see him but told him I wanted it to slow down alot, not be so hot and heavy and get to know each other better.
To Older Sister thanks for taking your time to write me and yes I am familiar with Hispanic Culture because I myself am Irish Catholic and we really are not that much diffrent. and yes he speaks English well enough.
Anyways I can speak Spanish I learned in School so it works out well lol.
I still don't know if he is being honest about when he says he loves me and he says it alot. Most likely he is confusing lust and love like alot of you have suggested so thanks everybody :) you have helped alot and I have learned not to let myself get to caught up in the moment lol ! Gosh I still feel like a whore over that but hey that's my Catholic upbringing lol !
I don't think he is after a citizenship but I will keep my eyes open to that Idea. I'm not the most attractive person and am not trying to sound like a snob but in my exsperiance when I see men from Mexico with American women they are usally over weight and have low self asteem. I'm not over weight and do get hit on occasionally and have good self asteem. So I'm betting they use these poor girls that have low self asteem to get thier citizenship. Anyways I hope that didn't offend anyone. Agian thanks for the help :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 October 2009):
Yes, run fast and don't look back!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Either you were REALLY good, or something else is going on.
Move to mexico eh?
Something is going on, don't know what, but if you are LUCKY, this is only a citizenship thing or a nutcase.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): This is me the poster I didn't want to sign up cause I'm emmbarrassed. Thanks for the advace your most likely right but the thing is he wants me to go to Mexico with him to live. I said no. so I'm still confused with this guy. I'm thinking maybe I should end this before it gets to serious but now I am starting to have feelings for him not love or anything but I'm starting to like him. I'm sick right ? I'm so confused I don't know what to do. He said he would stay in the US if we had a baby but maybe he is playing me ? Maybe he's just a play boy ? Thanks for the advice and I'll have to keep thinking on this.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
Run like hell!! He's using you for citizenship!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): My uncle met his wife on a blind date around 40 years ago. After that date, he told my mother that he'd just met the woman he was going to marry. He knew she would be his wife. And he was right. Decades later and they're one of the happiest couples I've ever known. Not saying this is the case with your guy, but don't bolt too quickly either. I would, however, suggest not sleeping together until you really get to know each other better. At this stage your guy could be in love OR lust. A lot of guys can't entirely tell the difference between the two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): ok i would tread very carefully here. you said this guy is from mexico? is he an emmigrant or is he now a citizen? as a social worker, i have seen many things and i will tell you right now that he may just be using you so that he can stay in the US. lots of men do that in order to prevent deportment. not all of them but some. if i were you i would drop this guy right now before he gets obsessive. he is moving way to fast and i can tell that it is already messing with you. get out now before you become too emotionally involved. hope this helps.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 RUN! This could be a citizenship issue or it could be that this guy is a wack-job.
Either way... run. ;-)
Good luck.
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