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writes:My best friend has a girlfriend but I sometimes feel that he's sick of her and he's flirting with me. Sometimes he tells me that he loves her alot, anyway I love him so much and I can't get over him. I don't know what i'm going do but all I know is that I want him and I want him soooo bad i've never met anyone like him before he's a great magnificent guy and adorable how do i get him??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): way back then i had the same problem and i didnt know what to do then finally one day my friend broked up with a guy i really liked but then i knew that i didnt have feelings for him anymore...maybe you should wait and see if you have feelings with this guy or maybe you will find someone better
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reader, Gossip Girl +, writes (7 October 2009):
Gossip Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you so much everyone you've been a real big help i'll go for your advices :)
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reader, boo22  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Hi, you'll just have to wait it out till they split up and then you can persue it with him.Patience my friend! good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): You tell us that you think he's sometimes "sick of her" but that is what YOU WANT to see, not the reality. He has told you he loves her.
As the other aunts and uncles have said, just leave the whole thing alone. Hang out with other friends and back off from your frienship with him.
IF at some time in the future - I mean months from now, not weeks - he tells you he has ended it with his girlfriend and wants to be romantic with you, THEN you will be free to have what you want. But again, UNLESS and UNTIL that happens (if it ever does) LEAVE THINGS ALONE!!!
P.S. You might try turning your attention to other boys - then you won't be so obsessed with this one.
That's the honorable and sensible thing to do.
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reader, Accountable +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Me and my friend have both been in an incredibly similar situation (at different times) over one of our male friends, who has a girlfriend but is an incredibly flirty person.
Honestly, I can say from experience that the best thing to do is leave him well alone (in a romantic sense, not as a friend) and move on. Do you really want to be the girl that ruins another girls relationship? And would you really feel secure with him, knowing he happily left her for another girl - how can you be sure he wouldnt do the same again, to you?
I know it feels like you won't meet another guy who is so great, who you'll click with as well. You will. :) I did, and am so much happier with my guy now than i ever could have been if i'd tried anything with my friend with a girlfriend!!
Good luck, hope everything works out. :) xx
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Don't ruin your friendship. Don't tell him anything now. But, since he is your best friend, you should ask him for advice on how to attract a certain guy that you are interested in! :) This accomplishes two things. One, if he has any feelings for you, it will make him jealous. And two, he will be telling you how to attract him, and he will not even know it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): This is a stupid question. For One- You dont go after your friends boyfriend, even if they did break up. Real friends dont do that. I dont think your worthy of being her friend.
Get over him and back off and let them be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Don't interfere, it will only make things worse. I suggest the best thing would be to distance yourself away from him for a while, to give yourself time to try and get over him. If you try and split them up he will only resent you for it and will most likely not want to be friends - let alone best friends - anymore. Maybe explaining why you need space from him is better than him wondering why you don't seem interested in hanging out as much, but if you do be prepared for him to react differently to what you expect. It may change your friendship.
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