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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Can he be a virgin at 40 plus???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age - I've known this guy just under a year- both in our early 40's- we met at work but dont work in same place. We have a few friends in common and others who arent. Since we met we have seen loads of each other - we now see each other every week or so, text nearly every day , speak ... (340 words)

I'm finding it hard to think that the kind, attentive, wonderful man that I fell in love with has disappeared at the moment or even forever.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm having problems in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been going out for 2 1/2 years in an LDR. My boyfriend has been working really hard lately, so much so that I haven't seen him since the end of September whereas we were seeing each other once every other ... (602 words)

One for the guys... what kinds of things can a woman say to you or do to get your attention and keep it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've lived around guys all my life; my dad and my two brothers, and I still don't have them figured out. So now I'm asking you, the random internet males, what kinds of things can a woman say to you or do to get your attention and keep it?... (49 words)

Any ideas for my friend's birthday?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5525 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. I need some good ideas. Especially from the ladies, but you guys are also welcome to throw some in there. My fiancé's birthday is coming up. And I want to make it really special. It's her first B-day since we have been together. She did awesome on my birthday. Had ... (297 words)

Is sex before marriage okay?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Is sex before marriage ok? I mean what happens if it's going to be a while before you find the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with??? ... (32 words)

I feel as if he's now using our son as an excuse...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I really need some advice please someone! I caught my husband texting an old flame a couple of weeks ago and questioned him about it a couple of days ago he said he was really sorry, usual stuff but I feel so betrayed and worthless to him now, there are so many emotions... (437 words)

He's playing with my head. How can I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Once i started back to the life ,back on the track , he got back to me .....why ? i am not going to finish from this story or what ? he broke my heart 3 months ago , he said awful things about me, trashed my reputation he was the happiest person in the planet when h... (315 words)

I'm pregnant and father doesn't want the baby... he wants the abortion pill!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 23 and just found out last week I am pregnant with my boyfriends baby. He is 20 and his father is a pastor. We were very devastated that we were pregnant and I told my sister, he told his brother and wife. The people we have told are very supportive of us keeping the baby. ... (244 words)

How could he say he might love me only to drop me shortly after?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I had been dating this guy that lived in my hometown for almost 7 months. The first 2 months were while I was at college, but when I was home, I followed him to all the summer ball games he played. When I had to go back, he told me how he would visit me a lot and how we would ... (913 words)

Should I give him a chance to let his character shine through?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5494 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I was totally inlove with a charmer he was great made me laugh made me feel want him so much cos he knew all the right things to say to me! He had lots of women b4 me and woman in between us spilting up! He cant settle down he enjoys the chase of the woman to much! I thought he ... (200 words)

How can I retract my foreskin?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I am 15 and I can not retract my foreskin. Is there something wrong and what can I do to start retracting it?... (24 words)

Why doesn't my husband ever want to go anywhere with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i am 19years old and my husband is 20 and this feb 14th 2010 we will be married for 2 years. and weve been together 3. we have a son. but thats not our problem. our relationship is so confusing. i really dont mind cleaning, i used to clean the house for him all the time but he ... (277 words)

How can I get her to accept when I ask her out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - i met a girl and asked her out but she is insisting on what i saw in her and why i asked her out. I told her because she is beautiful but she won't accept... (35 words)

Would I be overstepping the mark with a birthday card?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi! I just have a bit of a small issue. I am friends (very close friends, but I want it to be more) with a guy, we are like two peas in a pod, and it is his birthday soon. I really like him a lot, but he has a girlfriend. Would it be inappropriate to send him a birthday c... (88 words)

Should I have him visit to see how he feels?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I dated TJ during the summer. We had a good relationship and we had a lot of fun together. I was going away to school so I decided to end things. After Almost two monthes of guys here I realized that they just want to hook up and I'm not ok with that. I want a nice guy. I ... (168 words)

Is it bad for a Christian girl to masterbate?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - im a 15 year old qirl. i am christian. in i have several questions. is it bad for a christian qirl to mastrubate?is it bad for a girl to mastrubate? can you loose your virginity? please help... (37 words)

My ex is a jerk but I still want him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) age 36-40 - My ex is a jerk but I sitll want him. Last night he took me to a pub, because he was meeting a guy over there. I told him he could go alone, 'cause I wasn't in the mood for going out. But he begged, so we went. It was all ok, but suddenly he flipped. He has problems with my ... (1033 words)

Dating problems: covered in freckles, bi, and overweight!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - ok well I am 18 and I am having trouble dating I am bi and there are no girls or guys looking at me to date is there something wrong with me. I am a little over weight and covered in freckles but no one seems to like me... (49 words)

Should I ignore him or ask him about it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - There is this guy I have had a crush on for two semesters now, he is really outgoing, he knows a lot of women and flirts a lot too. I can not even got back into the Art Building without him "flirting" with me. So I was walking on the opposite side of him in this long hallwa... (243 words)

Should I have sex with her when we aren't in a relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - There's this girl that I've know since the 6th grade and I've always thought she had a nice body. We're in the 9th grade now. We started talking over the internet and one thing led to another and we ende up having internet sex and now se wants me to meet her in the bathroom at ... (124 words)

I'm self conscious about loose skin after losing weight!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi ive just started dating really nice man. Ive been single a yr and im a bit out of practice. I just wandering how long do people wait until u start sleeing with someone? Im a bit body concious and dreading taking my clothes of to a new man. Ive lost a lot of weight and have ... (77 words)

Can anyone help sort out my marriage problems?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - well!!! hi ... i hurt my wife feelings and i told her we must stop then i got regret , i feel kind of lost i was study in university and i got out of university cant continue anymore and i didnt told anybody till now i feel a shame of my self , iam syrian and my wife she ... (497 words)

I want to break up but how to tell him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5527 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi,I can't raaly understand why I'm riting and asking you that question,but first time in my life I feel ansequre if the tnings that I am going to do are right.I have a boyfriend from a year ago.In the start was normal relationship.but now I just know that I don't love him and ... (136 words)

How do I handle my husband and son smoking out of bongs?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age - I am a 46-year-old businesswoman, who's well-liked in my local community. However, it's my personal life that's troubling - I came home from work one afternoon to find my husband and 16-year-old son smoking bongs together in the living room. I was so livid I asked them wh... (231 words)

Do girls cum after orgasm?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (?) age 36-40 - Do girls cum after orgasm?? ... (5 words)

Do you think I should tell my parents about my BF before I leave or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'll spare you all of the intracate details if you'll avoid wasting your time and asking me or telling me whether or not what I'm doing is smart, safe, thought out, etc.... In January '10 I'm flying out to my boyfriend's town to stay there for 3 months. Even if my bf didn't ... (744 words)

How do I approach this without making it an ordeal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating close to a year and are happy together. Like all couples we have our fights and problems, but we get along well and we definitely see this as having future potential. The problem is the quintessential friends issue. I ... (344 words)

Is he angry about something or has he just lost interest?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys, quick question there is a guy i know through friends, and we've known each other for about a year but only recently he has started to get in touch with me talking to me more texting me alot. When we met he was with someone but he is single now. we've been chat... (151 words)

He only wants me when he can't have me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - i met a guy about a year ago and he sent me lots of txt messages, tellin me he was in love with me etc, after a couple of months i really got to like him so we went out a few times and then had a month long intense relationship seeing each other every day and having amazing ... (277 words)

Does my close friend like me back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Over the last few months I've started to really like one of my closest male friends. I've known him for a year and we lived together in halls at Uni. We have a little group of friends, us and a couple of others, who hang out together a lot. We get on really well and talk ... (405 words)

Could she be walking all over me at her convenience?

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31 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Alright everyone so I have a little problem. I have been seeing this girl for about 3 months...it's a casual thing...go on dates..we kiss when we part..we were friends to begin and then it turned into this. I have very strong feelings for her and thats saying alot considering I ... (469 words)

Is the odor thing normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5528 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, this is rather embarrassing. I get sexually aroused VERY easily, it happened the other night! i spoke to a guy whom i really like which made me 'wet' as i am very attracted to him. So a few minutes later i sit down with a few friends, then moments later i notice a slight ... (109 words)

Freezing cold in South Carolina

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age - My wife and I have been married for 20 years now and her interest in physical contact (hugging, sex, general closeness) has all but disappeared over the years. When we were dating it was much different. I still tell her everyday that I love her and think she is pretty(which I ... (172 words)

Should I disclose why intimacy scares me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok, so my question is about being in a successful relationship. i'll admit that ya i'm a virgn and ya i tended to avoid relationships, but the thing is i've had a pretty messed up past. i was abused physically and emotionally and there are some other things. i really do want to ... (140 words)

Will first time sex hurt if you've been fingered?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - If you've gotten fingered and it didnt hurt at all, will it hurt when you have sex for the firs time?... (21 words)

Married! How do I get over this huge crush?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I met my wife 15 years ago. It started as one night thing that just got extended... I have later realized that I never had a change to have big crush on her first. We just started being together because it was convenient and we liked each other. Little over year ago I met a... (305 words)

Why do I feel a sense of rejection with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi here's my problem -- I feel sick and upset even thinking about the fact that other men have slept with my girlfriend. She is 18 and I am 20. I fell deeply in love with her the day that I met her two years ago, but it took her 5 months to feel the same for me. The day we m... (199 words)

I'm 17 and have signs of pregnancy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hiya im 17 and are getting signs of pregnancy and im excited in myself but not really sure if my bf wants to keep it coz he finks im only young but wen i talk him in2 it he gets really in2 it x i have strong views bout adoption coz i havnt had a mum there 4 10 years and really ... (96 words)

Is this relationship one-sided?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been with my girlfriend since June and even from the begining she told me she still had feelings for her ex. But she and I pushed foward and wanted to give our relationship a try so we did. What happened was she accidently got pregenant and didn't find out for sure ... (345 words)

Is it normal for a boy to say, "I love you" in a different way?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok. One day in science my boyfriend said I love You, But he didn't say it like that he said "Like the barney song." I was like Awwwwwwwwwww. I think it's sweet and wierd. Is it normal for a boy to say I love you to you in a different way?... (51 words)

I broke up with him! Is he an abuser?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of four years(long distance for about 2 years, he lives in england) have just broke up because i have decided to end it after her verbally attacked me over a ridiculous reason. Here it goes...so my boyfriend is 25, lives alone pays his own bills etc..and i am 20 ... (231 words)

How do I stop blaming myself for masterbating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi Cupid, i feel blame whenever i masturbate and am trying to stop this but is hard. i feel sexual sometimes. i masturbate in order to to get satisfaction. is there any way i can stop this. i don't want to wasting my sperm and I don't want to have sex with a girl because i ... (68 words)

If I leave him he has no one else!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm in need of some help,I have been with my boyfriend for the last 3 years, and i now feel like i'm stuck because if I leave him he has no one else. this is because he changed universitys (to the one im at)and has made no other friends. However i know that i don't lov... (164 words)

I consistently dawged this woman out and I need to make amends!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have a huge issue that I created for myself. FOur years ago I meet the woman of my dreams but at the time I didnt realize it. I didnt realize it until recently. She did everything in her power to please me and because I was so bitter of how my previous relatio... (278 words)

He must think I'm so stupid!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I dont know if i am over reacting but, recently i found on my boyfriends laptop a number of folders of girls pictures which must equal to over 300 pictures of half naked girls etc including my best friends! But he said sorry and that he forgot it was even there. Yer right... (133 words)

Don't play with my heart!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - i love a korran's girl but i don't know how to say to her. Onece i tryed to say her but she refussed to be gf and bf i relized she is serious so i told her why i love so much and i will do evrything for u but she didn't say anything after that i tryed to satify her to accept to ... (125 words)

Can exercising too much stop your period?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - This isn't really a relationship question but i'm pretty sure you can help me. Basically i've been wondering whether doing too much excerise can stop your period. A couple of years ago I used to do a fitness plan and it was like fifty sit ups, thirty press ups and a certai... (117 words)

Should I leave my husband of 23 years? Is this the grass-is-greener syndrome? Mid life crisis?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age - Agony Aunts: I have asked my husband of 23 years years for a divorce. We have our house on the market. We are living under one roof until the house sells which is working very well so far. We have a 19 year old girl and a 12 year old boy. My husband has never touched m... (349 words)

How do I reply to his text?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone. So I have been devasted and lost for the past week and a bit because my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me. It was a shock and I haven't been able to function properly all week. His is reasons for breaking up with me were the following: he felt that 1 on 1 ... (290 words)

Why has she gone cold on me suddenly?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I met a girl online and we talked for two days and REALLY hit it off, like the best i have initially ever gotten along with a girl we chatted things up and thursday morning i texted her same continued but i had school and she had work so i finished up and stopped. I tried ... (207 words)