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writes:Hi,its been 4 months since my last period which is 1 month longer than normal.I can't wait for a missed period because of the months between them,so I don't have an exact date to work with.If I was pregnant I would be 14 weeks and 2 days pregnant.*tired*constipation*hungry*tender boobs*lower back pains*lower abdominal cramping*usually my weight shifts from 44 to 45,now its staying on 45*gas*headaches*twitch in lower abdominal area which felt like a kick*And my lower abdominal area is harder than the rest of my stomach.Does anyone think I could be pregnant? I have a feeling I am.And I can't go to the doctor because im only 16!I don't believe in abortions, and just because im young dosent mean im incapable of raising a baby with my steady boyfriend. I've always been THAT girl who wants lots of kids with a beautiful husband. So don't say "oh your too young your soo stupid' accidents happen people,and as long as im ready I can do it :)Thanks for any answers :)
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reader, jorjax1x  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 i have just had twins at 14 and to be honest you all want to stop having a go at her she has come on here for help why be an aunt or uncle to shout at her i know how she will be feeling i have been there you feel scared + alone and you want to tell your mam but you darent - and she said if this test came out positive or shes unsure on it she is gonna go to the doctors anyways i think you are being quite brave sweetheart and i know this might sound stupid but when you tell your mam it is a hell of a lot of weight of your shoulders and she can help you i told my mam before i knew and believe me i have never seen my mam with so much emotion in her she was sad + angry but she came round shes your mam after all you need a hug also you need to stop panicking about the pregnancy thing because this also can make you late. mail me if you want hun x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): She's getting 'abuse' here because she's young, immature, and irresponsible - but won't admit it. Yes, accidents can happen at any age, but clearly ADULTS would handle the accident better, they would go talk to a doctor, and tell their parents, and realize that at 15 you can't support a child on your own.
Also, how long have you been with your 'stead boyfriend'? It makes it sound like he's been around a week and a half and you just decided you should start holding hands (although obviously you do more than that). And you want kids with 'a beautiful husband', I'm glad you set your sights so high. -_-
You seem to say that as long as you're ready you can handle accidents when they happen but guess what - you're NOT ready. Not in the least. How can you be ready when you can't even admit that you need to talk to a doctor, tell your parents, and think enough to get a different type of pregnacy test that you can read properly? You're not "ready" if you can't realize that you're hanging on to your dreams of love and marriage with 'a beautiful husband', although at your age that's where you SHOULD be dreaming things.
Honestly, grow up. Make decisions that will be good for this baby if you're pregnant, and if you're NOT pregnant then take steps to make sure you don't GET pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): I dont want to sound rude, but you don't seem to be taking this whole situation very seriously. Yes accidents can happen to 30 year olds, but really, at 16, they shouldnt be happening to you. You are only a child, yet you seem to think that having a baby at this age is a perfectly good thing to do. Have you considered how much it would affect your life? Yes having a child is great, BUT I expect the majority of teen mothers wish that they had waited until they were older. Your life will cease to become important as you will have another person to pur first in EVERYTHING. No social life, no proper career, no money. Have you thought about this at all?
The fact you have already done "an older pregnancy test that I took a few months ago" actually really worries me, because it suggests that you have had pregnancy scares before, which is either unlucky or just plain careless. I expect your parents would be horrified if they knew.
You say that you dont want to go to the doctors because they will tell your parents? Well bottom line, your parents will find out anyway if you are pregnant. There is no way you can hide it from them. It is always better to be honest. Lying shows just how immature you are. They will respect you far more if you tell them the truth, than if you lie, and keep things from them. They will only want the best for you, and if you are scared to tell them, then you KNOW that you shouldnt have been having sex. Also, you obviously think you are mature enough to be having sex, yet you are scared to tell your parents? If you are "mature" enough to have sex, then you are also mature enough to deal with the consequences and discuss this openly with your parents. I suggest you grow up a little bit, or stop having sex until you feel able to discuss these matters in an adult fashion.
Sex = Babies. This is how nature works without contraception. You are still a child. Wait until you have grown up to do these adult things. You so obviously are not emotionally mature enough to deal with all the feelings and consequences of sex.
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reader, louiseee +, writes (6 October 2009):
louiseee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I took a pregnancy test today.Im not sure about it,I didn't wait til the morning to do morning pee (which I probabally should have) so in the window which should show a - or +, the - was faded when it should be darker and I THINK I can see a another extremly faint line which would indicate a + but I can't be sure. So I had a look at an older pregnancy test that I took a few months ago that came out negative and there turns out to be a faint line there. So im gonna take another one tomorrow in the morning,and if its positive,or im unsure than im gonna go to the doctor :)
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reader, louiseee +, writes (6 October 2009):
louiseee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys :)Its not that I'm scared to go to the doctor. I'm fine with that,just where I live if I go they will tell my parents.Well I'm taking a pregnancy test today,I didn't do it sooner because I've been in denial and didn't think I could've been,but with what you've provided me I think I could be :) and if not,then I have a serious issues with my period xDThe abuse wasn't helpful,but whatever people will never change :)I feel kinda better now,that everyone didn't yell at me for being stupid. Accidents happen to 30 year olds too.Anyway,thanks people :DX
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 October 2009):
Well I'm a male, so my advice is limited. It might be that you're pregnant. The only thing to do is go to a doctor. And don't delay. If you are, you need care and support. And at some point, if you don't get tested and you are pregnant, someone's going to notice. Don't be afraid to go to the doctor. You need to know and that's the only way to be sure. Lots of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): She was asking for advice, not a mouthful of abuse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): You know what, you are no way ready to care for a baby, you don't even know how to take care of yourself.
How responsible is it of you to come on here, give us a list of symptoms so that some strangers on the internet can tell you their thoughts on whether or not you are pregnant.
How stupid are you, girl? Girls like you make me angry with your attitude. All I can say is I hope you do step up and face your responsibilities, but so far you have been very careless.
Yeah, you are probably pregnant, and as long as you are having periods in the first place and havingn unprotected sex then you can become pregnant, your age, you are only 15 has no bearing on your ability to get pregnant. But your young age does put you and your baby at risk.
Go to the damn doctor and get an examination and a test, you need prenatal care for your sake and the health of your fetus.
Take and adult with you, or go to a Planned Parenthood type clinic (we have them in the US) where you do not need parental consent for birth control....but it is probably a little too late for that.
It is possible that you are not pregnant, you may be very irregular with your periods, but if you are normally regular and it has been 4 months, something is up wouldn't you say?
Geez!
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 A pregnancy test is what you need to do first and foremost. If it comes back positive, then you need to tell your parents and go to the doctor to make sure you and the baby are staying healthy. Do not delay. Also if you ARE pregnant, make sure you take a folic acid (vitamin B9) supplement everyday. If your diet has a deficiency in this vitamin while you are pregnant your baby could be born with "spina bifida." Your doctor will tell you this as well. Remember the first step, TO BE DONE TODAY ASAP, is the pregnancy test. If you ARE pregnant, you are putting your baby's health at risk by not finding out and seeing the docotor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): A little bit older than you, but hopefully my experience will still be relevant.
I'm 17 (soon to be 18) and i'm 6 1/2 months pregnant. I was on the pill but there were a few things my doctor didn't tell me which I should have done, so much to my shock ended up pregnant.
My initial reaction: I can't tell my boyfriend, I have to get rid of it, i'm keeping this a secret.
Obviously, I soon changed my mind and told my boyfriend the same night. We talked about it, and I decided there was absolutely no way I was going to get rid of it, so then I had to deal with family. Seriously, i've never been so scared in my life, but I told them, and they were great, really supportive, didn't shout and scream, and now they can't wait for the arrival of their first grandchild. Of course at first your parents will be shocked, who wouldn't be! But it's worth telling them ASAP, because stressing about it could well cause harm to the baby.
If you'd rather go to the doctor before you tell your parents, then go ASAP. I'm not sure about where you come from, but in the UK whatever you see the doctor about remains confidential, they won't tell your parents. This is something you need to face up to, and believe it or not, the doctors have seen it plenty of times before. They won't judge you.
As for whether it is possible, of course it is, hence why i'm giving you a bit of advice. Those symptoms are all common symptoms of pregnancy. If you are pregnant, i'd say you were a little further gone than 14 weeks, if you're feeling it kick, you're more likely to be around 17/18 if not further.
Don't leave it to guesswork though, get it checked out, and think about what you're doing. Make sure you've got the support you need from your family and partner, and make sure you're ready yourself. It's not about age, even someone at the age of 30 could not be ready for a baby. It's more about emotional stability than anything, and you also need to take into account that when baby arrives it's bye bye to the old social life you used to know. I have to admit, not being able to go out with my friends as much, and not being able to do the things I want to do has been hard, but it's worth it :)
Good luck! Sorry about the drag of a reply, but I really hope it helps!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (5 October 2009):
 If you are too scared to go to the Doctor, then you are no way near ready to have a child. Childbirth is all about Doctors and people prodding you.
When you have children, you have to face up to responsibility, and become an adult and do things that you might not want to do.
IF you were grown up enough to have underage sex (I am assuming this is the reason why you dont want to go to the Doctor) then you can be grown up enough to face the consequences. Get a pregnancy test. Go to the Doctor. Tell your parents. IF you are pregnant, then at 3 months you really really need to be getting checked over to make sure things are 100% ok, because being young, and still a child yourself, you are at risk from more complications.
For your own sake, please go and tell an adult, and book a trip to the Doctors.
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reader, louiseee +, writes (5 October 2009):
louiseee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn my question where it says "im only 16" I meant to say 15 :)
I would really appreciate your opinons to whether you think I might be pregnant or not (from your expierences ect...)
:)
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