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writes:Hey everyone...I turned 18, yesterday actually, and I am a beautiful girlfriend who ive had for a year and a half. My best friend is a girl who is very special to me who I've known for yeeeeeears longer then my girlfriend and we see each other as brother and sister but we really don't see each other as more then that, it's platonic.Recently, i got a phone call from my special friend who said her boyfriend (or ex-boyfriend) had raped her and she felt really bad about herself and beat her. Ever since then, I've felt really bad about myself. I was horrified, I haven't been able to sleep properly, I haven't been feeling good, my chest feels heavy, I just don't know what to feel about it. My girlfriend has realized I haven't been acting myself either, and both she and my friend and even me don't seem to understand why I feel this way about the issue. I don't think it's guilt, but I just don't know to make of the situation and the horrible feeling inside me. Plz help...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
She's a very close friend and it's come as a shock. I've actually been in this situation before myself. The best thing you can do for her is be a great friend to her, listen to her and just make sure she's okay. Try not to let her become too isolated (this can happen). Also make sure you spend time talking to your girlfriend too. Anf if she's not already seeing a counsellor, gently try to persuade her to see one. All the best.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Your friend is special to you. When we have special things in our lives we tend to want to preserve them and protect them. You are feeling helpless. You desperately want to make things better for your friend yet you dont know how. Atleast you think you dont know how. In actual fact you probably helped her without realising that what she was looking for was someone to tell. You acted as someone who would believe her, not judge her, feel for her and be there for her. She knows you cant fix it. That wasn't the reason why she told you. Continuing being that special friend to her and you will be doing more than you realise.
HonningKanin
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