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writes:ok so here it goes. four years ago i fell in love with a great guy. he was everything i wanted in a guy but the problem was that he was my brothers best friend. when this guy finally started to like me and wanted to date me, i pushed him away. none of my friends or my brother wanted me to date him. so instead of going with my heart i went with my head. so now its been 4 years and i still have feelings for this guy. is this completely irrational of me? i mean four years is a long time to pine after some guy that i never even had a relationship with right? im just really confused and i dont understand my feelings. i dont want to have feelings for him but i do. im ok when hes not around, my feelings are there but not prominent. but as soon as he comes around my heart starts beating faster, the blood rushes to my head and my entire body gets tingly. is there any way to get over this? i want these feelings gone now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, he is no longer available. He got married two days ago. so I guess i'm just screwed then huh? I'm not the type of girl who goes after married men. I just want these feelings to be gone!
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Its not quite clear here. Is he still available? Is that why you're interested in him? It seems like you want to be over him, yet for some reason you are so attracted to him.
Perhaps maybe you should change your mind, and go with your heart? Otherwise, it seems you're never going to be happy.
This sounds like one monster crush, or worse yet, you let friends and family dictate whom you should love. That's dangerous and wrong.
You need to decide for yourself whether you choose to pursue this guy, or, just abandon all hope and finally move on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wish i could but we live in a small town so I see him constantly. Plus he is my brother's best friend so that doesn't help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
Is there any way you can stop seeing him? You're pining for him when you see him, so that's holding you back from getting over him.
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