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writes:Ok aunts...this is tricky...im curious how far am i suppose to go when considering the words that are said during sex...i know some talk sh*t when making out and it's just apart of sex...but this guy told me we weren't having sex we were making love...this is a guy i've known since childhood and never really payed too much attention...but as i grew into an adult developed a crush on...i've tried on several occassions to go out with him and we never hooked up...then all of sudden last night we did...wow...now what do you all think of a guy telling you WHILE in the middle of sex...your not having sex...you're making love...does this mean something or is it just part of his way to get my pants?(at this point he was already in my pants...maybe he just said it so i wouldn't stop...idk...help aunts please?????
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Sounds to me like he's really into you and making love with you was his dream and is his passion in this life. I hope you feel the same way.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Why wonder? Does it really matter?
The time wasn't right before. It appears it may be now. Drop the "why not before?" questions and enjoy today, or you will risk spoiling it for both of you.
:-)
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (6 October 2009):
Serenity1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question it seems as though anonymous may think im insensitive...by calling me shallow that's what im assuming...well the truth is i actually do have feelings BUT i don't want them hurt...so in order for me to protect my feelings i do tend to be insensitive to some degree...as i said in my initial post i've know this guy from childhood...so it's not as though we've just met...so i automatically have a connection from just knowing him all my life...but when we had passionate sex...something changed...but i believe time will tell the story...he asked me what days i was off work...so then he could come and spend time with me...i don't know...i guess now im wondering why did it take so long for us to hook up if he liked me all along...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Yes, God forbid you be attached to someone you're having sex with.Shallow much? I think so.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (5 October 2009):
"Making love" implies an emotional and physical connection. That is he's emotionally attached to you.
Having sex, that's just a mechanical issue.
I'd say unless he was wrapped into you emotionally, its having sex. If he was wrapped into you emotionally, its making love.
If the two of you are into each other, then its making love together.
Somehow, it seems you had sex, what he had is another story.
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (5 October 2009):
Serenity1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks aunts...I really appreciate your responses...you replied some of what I already knew...but just wanted confirmation...what he said was in fact due to the current situation being just sex...I'm going to assume for right now...and I will let him do the calling...good thing I'm not all the way pulled in where I feel attached...thank God!!!....
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (5 October 2009):
NEVER read anything into what a guy says during or after sex, like Ask Oldersister says.
And as for what he wants now, I think if he calls you and wants to go on a date in a timely manner (not just meeting up for sex), that will tell you what he wants without you having to ask the NO-NO question of "What's going on with us?" after what could be a one-night stand.
Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
Well to say 'making love' rather than 'sex' would suggest that he felt very close to you emotionally, and it felt right to him. He might be interested in having you more as a girlfriend. Why don't you ask him how he feels? That's the only way to be sure.
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