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writes:My boyrfriend and I have been together for one year. Back then we used to see each other everyday, but then he had to move to a different state and my parents don't like him. We talk to each other on the phone for atleast 2 hours everyday before we go to sleep. Its been like that for 3 months now. Then, he started to get busy because he was trying to find a job to support his kid and I didnt get to talk to him that much.I started thinking that he was cheating on me. Everyday, we would argue and fight and we would hang up on each other. I told him that he couldn't blame me for acting like this bacause he cheated on me before.. So a few days later he breaks up with me.. He wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages. He just texted me that He needs me to relax and to give him space right now and that he will email me in a coupld days. Its been 3 days. He never emailed. So i emailed him. I said: I can't see myself being with anyone else. I know I act stupid sometimes and I have said some really mean things to you. Im really sorry. It's because you acted weird those times and it made me think that you were cheating on me...I'm not perfect and I admit that I made a lot of mistakes, but I really tried to be a good girlfriend to you. Well, it seems like you're happy meeting new girls.. I just want you to be happy, even if it's without me.. I can't do anything if you don't love me anymore, but please let me know...He said: Y not u wer able to forget me other times we broke up I dont know what else to do. I really want him back. I really love him. I felt something different with him... please help me. I know hes the one. What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): What do you do? For heavens sake.
Look here: he moved to another state to find work to be able to support his child - his child is his first priority - and after all your suspicious behavior and all the arguing, he decided enough was enough and ended your relationship. Long distance relationships tend to be very hard to maintain in any case.
He TOLD you he would email you in a couple of days (meaning when he was ready, and, most likely had had the opportunity to mull things over) but you couldn't wait: you gave him precisely three days and sent the email you reproduced for us here. In your email, among other things you asked him to "please let me know" if he didn't want to be around you. He had ALREADY let you know! Don't you see that?
Your email clearly did not make a good impression on him.
So, to go back to your original question "what do I do"? You leave it alone, that's what.
He doesn't want the relationship to continue, and even though that is not what you want to hear - as the other poster said. I would add that you tried, so now you need to forget about thinking he's the one, and "really loving him" and moving on with your life. When all is said and done, why should you grieve over someone who has lost interest? Hold your head high, and leave him the dust!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 October 2009):
This isn't what you want to hear, but he's not interested in you. He 'needed space', promised to email you then didn't. And let's face it, that reply really topped it off. He isn't the one for you. You're going to have to be brave and move on.
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