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writes:Ok so me and my girlfriend just broke up a couple days ago. I broke up with her because of a long distance thing (4 hours). It felt like we were becoming more distant and I did not see any use in dragging something out that I didn't feel would last. However, she felt completely different. She was in love with me. I broke up with her and she cried so much and begged for me back, yet I still denied her. However, a couple days ago she came by (when we were on our "break") to drop off some things that I had given her, and I realized I made a huge mistake by breaking up with her and talked to her and she said she would let me know, but we both knew I knew she was going to take me back. So after our talk and her saying she loves me and kissed me a lot, she went to a party with one of her girlfriends. We were just going to do our own thing that night I guess. I went to a different party. We were texting and she was saying she was at some guys house, the party was fun, and she was sleeping there not to worry because she was supposedly sleeping with the girl she went there with who is her friend. She was drunk, but she can handle herself. I have always trusted her 110% with everything - we have both been cheated on and know how it feels. She has always trusted me 110%. However, I can't help but wonder what actually went on that night, and where she slept and with who. I know I am probably over-thinking this. Today she randomly stopped texting me. I am down at school and she's 4 hours away. Maybe I am worried because we just got back together. Is this normal, or am I blind? What should I do?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Eheh. So two girls stay over at a guys house. And nothing happened.
It is possible.
I just don't believe it. But then, I don't know her. You do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Hi
Okay, so here is the thing... I think that you miss her too much! And that you have thought about the darker side of the long distance relationship so much that now you are wanting to believe it. Well, are you going to achieve anything by thinking these morbid thoughts? You believe that she can handle herself, you are confident of being taken back because you know that she loves you enough, also, you know that she said that she is going to stay the night with her friend. Is there any particular reason why you should mistrust her? Will a girl who has intentions of cheating on her boyfriend text him the entire time? Also, do you believe that cheating is something limited to long distance relationship? Don't be daft! Come on, can't you see how you are complicating things with an over-active imagination!
Now, my suggestion to you is that you drive over to her college one weekend, to surprise her! (If she is indeed cheating, trust me, you will know, but I don't think that that is the case). Then spend a romantic weekend together.
The only thing wrong with this relationship is that you guys need to spend some time together!
And please, don't convince yourself over anything!
I'm in a complicated relationship myself, and I know that it takes a lot of patience and effort to make it work and although I get very little time with my boyfriend, I know that it is worth it! (And yes, I too have had thoughts like you, but then ultimately, it is best to banish these thoughts. They cause a lot of damage and are often quite untrue!)
So, best of luck
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