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writes:I'm torn between 2 men. One is my bf of 3 years who I'm having a LDR with for the past few months. Everything was great for the first 2 years but during the past year, I feel that I don't seem to love him the way I used to. I still love him but I'm not sure if i am just comfortable with him. Its very stable with him. He misses me a lot but I have no plans to move overseas for him. Everyone always says he will be the perfect husband and the perfect dad. He is one of the nicest people you can ever met, good job, smart and good looking.About 2 month ago, I met up with a guy who was leaving my city. I never thought anything other than a friend with this guy. During that night, we were both tipsy and kissed. During that kiss, sparks were flying - it felt like I was with my first love again. I never felt this with my bf. When I asked why he kissed me, he said he has always been attracted to me. We have visited each other since and had fun hanging out together. He said he wants a relationship with me but also said another time he feels unsure if it'll work out as we live in different cities. (doesn't believe in LDR). Also he recently broke up his gf (it could be because of me) and I'm not sure if he wants to jump into another relationship. I'm always thinking of him and its driving me crazy.I'm just not sure what to do. 1) Should I consider leaving my bf and being with him even though he is unsure. or 2) Should I completely avoid and ignore him and try to rekindle things with my bf. I'm really confused and I feel so bad. But I know I really need to decide.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
I think your long term relatioship has come to an end. If it was true love,you wouldn't be having this problem. So at least end that so the guy can find someone else. As for your next man, you need to spend more time getting to know him. All the best.
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (5 October 2009):
 Look at you xD Torn between 2 guys when loads of women cant even find one :P
If you're having problems with a LDR, its probably not for you, only 1 in a million LDRs work, and thats when its TRUE love, not just love. There is a huge difference i assure you.
If you think this LDR man is your soul mate your other half of the jigsaw piece, then stay with him. If you have any doubts, then its not him, you KNOW when it is the right guy.
If youre lucky, and you are with the right guy, dont lose him.
If youre not, theres still plenty of time to find him and you shouldnt feel any shame in trying to move on, youre still young.
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reader, bittersweetchicka +, writes (5 October 2009):
Number one due not feel bad. I do not think anyone could say this is really what you need to do, and be 100% right. Is this a missed oppurtunity of a lustful thought creating the issue or is there more deeply rooted... On him breaking up with his girl friend, well you never know it could be for other things&/or that. Long distance relationships work, how far are you willing to make it work, and if things were working out would you move to him? My advice is to follow your heart and not your mind, good luck in what you decide..
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