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writes: i broke up with my gf after a year long relationship. after a week and a half she had sex with another coworker of ours about 4-5 times during a 3-4 week period. long story short, we got back together after she had her little fling and im starting to regret it. she said even though they had sex multiple times, they never performed oral on each other...is this likely? is it possible to skip 3rd base and go straight to home 4-5 times? or is she most likely lying to keep me from hurting? btw im really starting to regret my decision of getting back with her. even though the sex is good and she gives me full access to her phone and doesn't talk to him anymore, it still makes me think she still has feelings for him and my paranoia drives me nuts. any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): you will always doubt her and nothing will make you forget or forgive her. end it now before you waste any more time with her. cut your loses while you can. this will drive you insane thinking of all the things she has done with him.
and oh, yes, she would have done lots of oral and other sexual acts. if she claims otherwise, you know she is lying big big time. you three work together at the same company and she is still in contact with the work sex mate,isn't she. you do not want drama at the workplace and also there is a saying " you don't sh1t where you eat". meaning affairs in the workplace is a no no, but we never learn from this.
run away from this one. she is not speaking the truth. and anyways why take back someone elses seconds because that is what has happened.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 October 2009):
If you're regretting it, time to end it now. She had sex with another guy, so what difference does it make whether she gave oral or not. You're not happy, so better to end it and find another girl you can be happy with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): You're better off just ending it now because you are already doubting her and the relationship. It's really hard to get over someone cheating on you and you tend to always dwell on it and it causes major trust issues in a relationship. I think you'd be better off and much happier if you just ended things now and went out and found someone better. To answer your question, it is likely that they skipped oral, I skip it with guys all the time. I'm curious as to why you are so much more concerned with them performing oral on each other and not as upset by them actually having sex...? Why would it hurt you more to find out they performed oral it seems that having any kind of sexual activity was going to hurt you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): 50/50 probably, but that's not the real issue here. You either trust her or you don't.
I skip 3rd base, as you refer to it, probably 19 times out of 20 so from my point of view it's not only possible but highly likely.
If you can't get this out of your head you'd be better to go your separate ways because it will eat you up all the time.
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