My partner puts his family and his money before us, so I left. Now I want him back, so badly!
Q. Dear Cupid, My question I think is a bit complex. I have been married for 26 years, and 10 years ago my partner had an affair with a woman he worked with. We have 6 children and they were young at the time of the affair. Throughout our...
A. 17 October 2005: You need to get yourself to a lawyer ASAP. You won't get your husband back (which is probably a good thing) but you will get all the financial compesation that is coming to you. I think once the dust settles you'll have your self-respect back and ... (read in full...)
His ex keeps staring at me when we're at the gym. It makes me uncomfortable!
Q. I work out at the rec centre and the gym is right above the pool. There are huge windows so the people in the pool area are able to see the people working out in the gym, which is upstairs. The problem is that my ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend sw...
A. 14 October 2005: Don't confront just ignore.... (read in full...)
Can't understand why my friend and his wife bother to stay together...
Q. Why would a guy stay in a bad marriage? My friend is married to a woman who has two grown kids from previous marriage. Both her kids are herion addicts and have stolen money from him. He and his wife have nothing in common and she is ten years ...
A. 14 October 2005: People stay married for all kinds of reasons but it's always THEIR business not anybody else's. If this is just a friend then be there if he needs someone to talk to but if you are thinking about more than friendship you are WAY out of line.... (read in full...)
Does the girl in math class like me?
Q. Im 12 years old and in 7th grade. I like this pretty girl in my school. She sometimes wanna be my partner in math class, and she talks to me a lot. But I don't know if she really likes me...
A. 13 October 2005: In 7th grade, the fact that she talks to you means she likes you.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex lured him back, after he swore he'd never see her again!
Q. My name is Joanna. I have been in a realsionship together with my boyfriend for five months now. We have so many problems because of his ex girlfriend. They were together for five years. When I first got together with this man, He said that he did ...
A. 13 October 2005: Yeah, you are doing the right thing. Don't talk to the lying son of a B and just get on with your life. You caught him on the rebound and it was never going to fly so just get moving. And don't waste any tears on the pig either! Good luck, Kiddoo! ... (read in full...)
I discovered my brother in my crop top and skirt!
Q. I am 19 and my brother is 16. I came home from work just now to find him wearing my crop top and denim skirt. What do I do about it?? Claire xxx...
A. 13 October 2005: Tell him to buy his own clothes and you can both enjoy an expanded wardrobe!... (read in full...)
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A. 13 October 2005: Gee whiz lady! What a mess people can make of their lives but you have involved an innocent child (well 3 actually) and that is just wrong. You and your husband should have divorced if he wouldn't fulfill his husbandly duties. You should have made ... (read in full...)
The stress of house-hunting is affecting our relationship. Is this normal?
Q. Me and my husband are trying to buy a home and the stress is really wearing on our relationship. We have been married for 14 years I just want to know if this is normal and will it get better? I thought the tough years were behind us....
A. 13 October 2005: Been there a few times my self. Plan a nice evening together doing something you both enjoy and things will settle down.... (read in full...)
I have issues with rules and authority...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an adult guy and have problems working within the rules or accepting them. I find myself in burden when i work in rules and constantly try to disrespect them or even violate them. I find problems at workplace because of this....
A. 13 October 2005: In the first 5 words of your letter you will find the solution to your own problem. You are not an adult male, you are a class clown living in the past. Grow up and stop your belly aching.... (read in full...)
We've broken up four times, but my ex still acts like a stalker!
Q. Me and my boyfriend has been dating for 3 months and we have broken up about 4 times. I dont really want to be with him, and every time I break up with him he like stalks me and will not leave me alone. I have tried dating other guys, but he scare...
A. 13 October 2005: You best get yourself to the police and get a restraining order against him. This is a serious problem. Do not hesitate this kind of guy is dangerous.... (read in full...)
The closer I get to wanting to settle down with her, the further she's pulling away!
Q. I have been dating a girl for 7 yrs now. The relationship has everything that a great relationship should have(Common interests, same value in life, great sex). Unfortunately I am vastly more experienced than her in realtionships. I was her first ...
A. 13 October 2005: You may or may not have picked the fruit too early but you can bet it's rotten now. So say your goodbyes and go shopping for some fresh produce.... (read in full...)
A stray text led me to find out that he's been calling 2 other women...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We live together, and everything has been great until about a month ago, when I realized we hadn't made love for almost 2 months. I asked him why, and he said we have different schedules. ...
A. 13 October 2005: I think you should ask him what the heck is going on and if you don't like his answers then move on. You deserve happiness.... (read in full...)
She had sex once with someone in her past, and I just can't move past that thought,,,
Q. I've been dating this girl for over 3 months now. We are 15 years apart. (we're of legal age--I'm older) What started off as just a "for fun" thing turned into an all out love extravaganza, and I do love her dearly. We do everything together...
A. 13 October 2005: Get over it, or, dump her and find someone who has only been with white guys. It obviously is the most important thing in a relationship to you.... (read in full...)
My teenage son is discussing marriage with a woman of 44!
Q. I found out recently that my 16-year-old son is dating a 44-year-old woman. I worry about him - the age gap is 28 years - and I fear he will have a lot of problems. He's talking about marrying her too - and she wants to marry him too! What ...
A. 13 October 2005: Pops has a point about contacting the authorities but before you do, better search his bedroom and stuff for drugs. A 44 yr old woman...gotta be drugs! ... (read in full...)
There was a threesome with my boyfriend, long before I met him. Now I can't get past the idea!
Q. My current boyfriend (Don) and I have been dating for 3 yrs. When we first started dating, he lived with his roommates, a married couple, Alex and Wendy. We dated for months before I got a job at Wendy's company, and befriending Wendy. (Wendy turned ...
A. 13 October 2005: The past is past and you can't change it or wish it away. You have no choice but to forget it and move one or leave Don and find some who has a past that is acceptable to you. It's your call.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling low and lost, so I masturbate... I can't stop!
Q. I need help, I can't stop masturbating every day, sometimes a few times daily. I'm single and hate it. I've been depressed and I can feel myself slipping back down again as I've just lost my job and so I have nothing. I feel so low and stuck in...
A. 13 October 2005: Come on guy! Buck up! Things can only get better, right? There will be another job if you keep looking. In the mean time, try not to let your hobby "get out of hand"!... (read in full...)
I'm good-looking, so why are only the unattractive guys hitting on me?
Q. Lately I have noticed that whenever I venture to a club or bar the only males who seem to be attracted to me or hit on me are unnatractive. I am a good-looking girl and apparently too nice. How do I attract the man for me, instead of Herman Munster?...
A. 13 October 2005: Herman Munster? Hmmmm,I wonder if that's what Melinda said about Bill Gates?... (read in full...)
I'm not really sure I want to marry my fiancee. I feel like my ardour has cooled...
Q. Should I break it off with my fiancee? My fiancee and I have been dating for nearly 2 years, and have been engaged for about 5 months. For the longest time I was completely infatuated with her. Could not see my life without her. But for the la...
A. 13 October 2005: You certainly should break it off. Marriage is hard enough if two people are madly in love let alone if they have doubts about their relationship. Life is short, get your life back on track and start enjoying it.... (read in full...)
My ex-teacher shares his romantic life with me, and I can't stand it!
Q. I'm madly in love with my ex teacher and it's killing me. Recently he got married and he emailed me telling me all about it, when I just don't want to hear it! He says we can't be friends and yet he tells me his life story and I do the same. Th...
A. 13 October 2005: Tell HIM to leave you alone and YOU leave him alone. He is married. He is too old for you. And it's probably against the law as well. ... (read in full...)
I've been his girlfriend for 3 months... I think.
Q. My boyfriend kinda doesn't notice me most of the time. I don't know if its just that he doesn't like me or something else. I wonder all the time if he even thinks about me at all. We been together for almost 3 months and haven't even been on a date. ...
A. 12 October 2005: I don't get this at all. "He kinda doesn't notice me most of the time" and then the "We been (sic) together for almost 3 months and haven't even been on a date." are both mind-boggling. I think you can walk away from this relationship and find ... (read in full...)
What do you look for in a bisexual partner..?
Q. I am wondering if there are specific signs to look for, if you think your husband might be bisexual. Are there physical signs on their private parts? Help!!!...
A. 12 October 2005: Are you crazy? "signs on his private parts"? What like "Jack AND Jill Welcome Here"? Sheesh! Why don't you just ask him?... (read in full...)
Was I disrespectful to my fiancee?
Q. I have been in my relationship for five years. I am in the US Coast Guard Station overseas. I have been here for 4 months. This maybe sounds stupid or not, I don't know, but I have been using the website myspace.com to talk with old friends. I...
A. 12 October 2005: You should have admired her from afar, buddy. Promise your fiancee not to ever do it again and keep it. Then it will be up to her to decide whether or not to give you another chance. If she is smart she will, if she doesn't then you're probably ... (read in full...)
In four years, my boyfriend hasn't kept a job for more than 3 months!
Q. I have been with my bf for 4 years. He has not kept a steady job during this period. Every job he gets lasts no longer than a week besides one exception which lasted 3 months. I am 22, he is 23 and we have lived together for 2 years, after the ...
A. 12 October 2005: You must not mind being the meal ticket if you've stuck it out for 4 years. I would have gone my separate way a long time ago. YOU can't get him to get a job and keep it, HE has to do it.... (read in full...)
At 17, I think I've outgrown my boyfriend...
Q. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years. I love him very much and would do almost anything for him. Lately we have been fighting a lot about the littlest things. The problem is I am 17 and he is 18 and compared to me he is really immature. I now feel...
A. 12 October 2005: You are only 17! Dump him and move on.... (read in full...)
Can't tell if the boss is coming on to me...
Q. Dear Cupid My boss, who is older than me, has been giving off very confusing signals! When we have been alone he has been very close but nothing more. This evening as were leaving he said "We always seem to leave together; people will talk...
A. 11 October 2005: Hands off chickie, he's married. End of story.... (read in full...)
I want to tell him that I love him. I just don't want to be a truck passenger all my life!
Q. I fell in love with this man 9 years ago because we both were having problems in our marriages. Both of us wanted someone that wanted to be with us, so we started a relationship. He became a truck driver so as we could be together 24 hours a day. We ...
A. 11 October 2005: You just explained it clearly to me so I my guess is that he has other issues concerning your relationship. By the way, whatever DID happen to your spouses?... (read in full...)
My married guy is single now and I still have feelings for him...
Q. About a year ago I had a relationship with this married guy. We slept together 3 times and we really cared for each other. Then he heard this rumor that I told on us, even though I didn't tell anybody. Then he stopped talking to me completely. T...
A. 10 October 2005: This is what you get for messing with a married man. He probably didn't "really care" about you to begin with. I hope you learned your lesson from this and have made the proper corrections to your lifestyle.... (read in full...)
Bob's the sort of man I want to marry... just not right now.
Q. I’m 18 years old and trying to figure out the relationships in my life. For instance "Bob". He’s 19 years old and graduated a year before me. I’ve known him for 2 years and have dated him on and off. we've been really good friends forever. We still ...
A. 10 October 2005: Awwww! Youth is wasted on the wrong people! Have some fun while you are young. Go to the clubs, dance! If you don't you'll always regret it. If Bob is still around in the future then fine but you don't want to be tied down at this time.... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to understand that I only want her?
Q. I've been with my current girlfriend for the last 5 and a half years. Throughout these last few years she has been very jealous of my female friends. Over the years she must of accused me of having affairs or being attracted to almost all of them. ...
A. 10 October 2005: Shower her with attention and keep it up, she'll realize after time that you are faithful and that she is the only love of your life. It sounds like she has low self esteem and just needs some reasurance from you.... (read in full...)
Can I make her chase me?
Q. I know right now, that the girl I'm talking to and I'm very interested in, is what I'm after. She is what I desire. Through some research, I've learned that it should be her after me, so she will actively desire to be and talk with me. How do I go ...
A. 10 October 2005: Research? Where'd you do your research, the playground at recess? Show her some attention but don't smother her, be cool. She'll get the message and so will you if she is interested.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend going to fulfil his wish for sex with other women?
Q. Hello, I am a 21 yr old female and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. I have had 1 sexual partner before him but I was his first. I never saw this as a problem. Last night after we had had sex he asked me do I wish that I had been more ...
A. 10 October 2005: I don't think you really have a problem here at all. As long as the sex is fun and the relationship is strong you are doing great.... (read in full...)
Is it time for my girlfriend and me to break up?
Q. I've been with my gf for 1 year now. I don't feel as though I love her anymore. We don't spend time with each other. We don't trust each other but yet I don't want to lose her. I feel as though I don't love her anymore, but I couldnt bear to lose ...
A. 10 October 2005: You've wasted enough time in this deadend relationship. Move on.... (read in full...)
I moved on from my married man... to another married man. Why do I do this?
Q. I ended a 2 1/2 year relationship with a married man about 6 months ago. Since then, I have become close to someone who told me he recently ended a relationship with another woman and had no contact with her. However, I just found out that he has ...
A. 10 October 2005: Maybe you like being the other woman. Maybe you like breaking up households and hurting people. Maybe destroying families is fun for you. Only you can say. My advice is for you to quit acting like the tramp and get yourself into a decent ... (read in full...)
My wife says she's forgiven me too many times in the past...
Q. Hi all, I am currently going through a seperation with my wife. We just had a daughter together. She left me because we argued a lot and that she felt the trust was no longer there, because of broken promises and stupid lies on my part. So...
A. 10 October 2005: Sounds like you are SOL buddy. Consider it a lesson learned. Stay a part of your daughter's life. If you do find another love, don't pull the same crap (whatever it was) on her.... (read in full...)
Is it time to dump my boyfriend?
Q. I cant deal with my boyfriend anymore. He always thinks I'm doing something wrong and picks out things wrong with me and won't let me have male friends, which isnt fair. Do you think I should get rid of him? ...
A. 10 October 2005: Yes.... (read in full...)
I'm happy with my life, but my parents think I should be looking to get married!
Q. HELLO. I'm 22, hard working and self employed, ie I'm doing well. I am interested to find a partner, but I feel that I'm not ready, in fact, I'm not interested. I'm happy with the way that I am, single. My parents are making me feel as though I...
A. 10 October 2005: Listen politely to their advice and concerns but stay your own course. You are doing just fine. Lots and lots of time for commitments.... (read in full...)
Neither of us have a lot of money, so why do I have to pay for our entertainment?
Q. My bf and I don't have well-paying jobs at the moment and sometimes I get angry or frustrated when he expects me to pay for our outings--I just feel like guys have the privilege to enjoy a girl's company and should at least make the effort to pay ...
A. 10 October 2005: Nobody can take advantage of you unless you allow it. Tell your boyfriend he has to split the costs.... (read in full...)
My husband's affair with a much older woman has been going on for 4 years!
Q. I'm 23, my husband is 25. I found out he was having an affair with a 63-year-old woman who lives down the road with us after a friend who worked at a hotel told me he'd seen my husband kissing an old woman in the restaurant. I feel disgusted ...
A. 7 October 2005: Always the question that needs to be asked is, "Am I better off with him or without him?". Which ever you decide remember that your son will be just fine if YOU are happy.... (read in full...)
Eight years ago, he thought I was "beautiful" and sexy. Now he says I just don't do it for him. Help!
Q. I've been in a relationship for over 8 yrs. I really love my BF but am a bit disappointed in the way he allows me to be the man/women in the relationship. I feel I do everything. I would like to take a step back and let him look after me for a wh...
A. 7 October 2005: If he is your boyfriend then walk away. If he is your husband then you'll need to go thruough a divorce. This guy is not worth your dragging yourself down. There are so many great guys out there that will love to treat you with love and respect. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my future husband will be turned off by my scar and stretch marks...
Q. I'm 16 years old and I am still a virgin. Well see, this is how it is, I'm saving myself till marriage. The thing is though, when I do get married I don't want my husband to see my body because I think my body is ugly. I have stretch marks on my ...
A. 7 October 2005: As a mother of three let me tell you about stretch marks! My loving husband calls them "battle scars" and always says I should be very proud of them. This will be no problem for you in your marriage, trust me!... (read in full...)
Want to do a threesome with another girl. Good idea or not?
Q. I had brought the idea of having a threesome to my boyfriend. I have been with girls before and it doesn't bother me. He said that it could be fun and asked if I wanted him to join or stay out of it. I told him to join. We have spoke to the other ...
A. 7 October 2005: If threesomes turn you on, I think you'd be better off just viewing a video rather than actually participating in it. It WILL come back to bite you in the butt, so to speak.... (read in full...)
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