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reader, spices  +, writes (24 November 2009):
yes it tis definitely time to dump him,eventually he will start acting psycotic and will control you and or even hurt you
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Hey. This is exactly what my last boyfriend did.. In the end I knew he was too paranoid. I had to get rid of him. Everytime I even walked past a boy he would make a comment like 'He just looked at your boobs' ... chuck him... He isn't worth your effort
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): i think you deserve way better. first try talking to him and telling him your feelings, and if that dose not work then you must dump him, hope all goes well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): if he is telling you that you can't have male friends then he obviously doesn't trust you. get rid of him girl its better to be single than with someone who knocks your self esteem and doesn't trust you. Hope this helps x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): If your boyfriend picks at negitive things about you or does not let you have certin friends [i.e males] then he obviously doesnt trust you.
I personally think you should better be single than be his slave or his dolly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): yes - he does not trust you and it sounds like you could do with a looooong break. dump him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Yes. This is the first sign of an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): He's asking these things because he cares more about you now them ever. He needs you to be happy with him for him to be happy with you, show him more cuddles kisses when you're out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): If your boyfriend is to patrinising you about your male friends leave him you need someone better in your life who can trust you and respect you for who you are you can do so much better.
He obviously doesnt trust you with the male friends even though he may not have a good record with them but it doesnt mean you have a bad record with them. Its not that he cant trust you its that he cant trust them!
Although think very carefully before you dump him if you do carry on the relationship he might become leaniant with you because he can trust you better because you have got to no him
hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): sweetie...no offense to you but you boyfriend sounds like an asshole. If he can't handle you having any other male friends then he is just insecure. It's not healthy to be in a relationship were he tries to control who you talk to. So just do yourself a favor dump him already!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 This doesn't sound like the healthiest relationship to be in. You asked should you leave him? Then your answer is yes, get out and move on to someone who treats you properly, trusts you and values you. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2006): Well...would he let you tell him to do or not to do the same things? Well, as they say all is fair and love and war...but I have the feeling you'd have a little war on your hands if you asked the same of him. now wheres the fairness in that? Unless you expect to be controlled and not in a mutually fulfilling relationship...I'd say yes its time to dump him. Or get ready to ride out the rest of your relationship in the backseat while he does the driving. (and everybody knows he wont be asking you or anyone for directions he will drive you backwards in circles till the car runs out of gas first)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2006): yes i think you should get rid of him because he needs to let you live you own life aswell yes it is tru e is in ur life n may be a big part in it but he has no right to make you feel less than you are it is time you give him his marching orders
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reader, blondieblue +, writes (23 January 2006):
Just from hearing how he treats you tells you enough to get rid of him. First of all if he doesnt trust you then he doesnt care about you. You deserve better so get out there and find someone who will love you for who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2006): I honestly think that it is ok to have male friends during a relationship. There is obviously a trust issue somewhere, and without trust in a relationship, there isnt any true love there. I would first lay down your feelings about the situation and if he doesnt care about your feelings, then dump him.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (11 October 2005):
Yes yes and yes! If he's treating you like that and not letting you have friends then YES! Get rid of him before he does worse!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 October 2005):
 Yes.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (10 October 2005):
Yes, you have doubts about him and you want to dump him however you want to make sure you doing the right thing...
...do what you feel so yeah get rid of him!
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reader, schlottjl +, writes (10 October 2005):
 You break up when you no longer want to date someone. There doesn't have to be a reason beyond that. That is what is great about dating. If you were married you would have to jump a few more hurdles. So don't marry until you know you are with a guy who will respect you. This guy is not respecting you .... dating is a method of determining suitable partners for the long run... he is not suitable and therefore, and extra time together is wasted time and only setting you up for a bigger heart ache later.
Don't feel guilty. You will break up with every guy you date until you know what you want and to know what you want means testing the waters a bit. So release your catch and get back out there- guilt free. ;)
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reader, missdee +, writes (10 October 2005):
If he don't trust you he doesn't love you. He thinks of you more as a possession. You deserve better. Find a man that loves you for who you are and trust you, regardless of what you are doing, or who you are talking to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2005): Trust is part of a relationship and without trust you dont have a relationship.... try talking to him and tell him how you feel be honest with him because he needs to hear what it is he is doing to you because he just may not have realised if nothing can change from this then maybe its time to walk away without losing any more than what you are being expected to give up.
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reader, pops +, writes (9 October 2005):
Yes. No one can abide someone who can't trust them. What he is or has been doing to you is terrible. Drop him like a rotten tomato. He doesn't deserve you.
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