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writes: I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years. I love him very much and would do almost anything for him. Lately we have been fighting a lot about the littlest things. The problem is I am 17 and he is 18 and compared to me he is really immature. I now feel like I'm his mother and not his girlfriend because of the way he acts. It irritates me and I would like him to grow up. He has ADHD or ASD so it makes it hard. I really want to keep on seeing him and can picture a long term relationship with him. I nag and whinge for the way he acts. If he just grew up I wouldn't have to! Please help me someone, I'm outta ideas!!
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (16 October 2005):
We girls will always be more mature than men. If he doesn't change his ways and you are really fed up then the best thing for you to do is to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2005): You need to do what is right for you..you have been together for 2 years and your only 17 now you might just be growing out of each other..it happens, you will always love him cos he is probably your first love.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (12 October 2005):
 We have all felt like this before: you're young and the guy you're with is gonna be the 'one' and you're going to be with him forever etc. etc. But this is not the case. There is so much out there, you can't tie yourself down yet. There's so many people you still need to meet and date, so many things you need to do and see before settling down.
I understand you love him but sometimes, you have to just let go. It will be hard, you've been together for a long time but it sounds like you already know it's time to move on. Good luck and I hope, whatever you decide, you are happy .
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 October 2005):
 You are only 17! Dump him and move on.
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reader, Stewart Terrace +, writes (12 October 2005):
I know exactly how you are feeling. i am 18 and my boy friend is 22 and i ack older than him. We both have to realise that men are not like us women but men have got to realise we are with them to look after us.
Sorry if that not what you need to hear
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2005): Maybe he is nervous about going out into the world and being a grownup. If he is 18 he is probably a senior in high school. Perhaps he is clinging to you and relating to you like you are his mother because he loves and trusts you and wants you to provide him with some reassurance that everything is going to be OK. Or, do you think that he is picking fights with you to test your bond, in a way asking you to accept how rotten he can act, wondering DO YOU STILL LOVE HIM anyway?
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