I have to work off my room and board with my girlfriend!
Q. Ok, I'm a 26 year old male. I absolutely despise my girlfriend though....and I live with her in a house she is paying-off. I constantly have to adhere by her strict rules. I mean just because it's her house and she lets me live there that I hav...
A. 3 November 2005: She's pay the bills who are you, Freddie the Freeloader? If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen. ... (read in full...)
I cheated with my ex a long time ago, but my current boyfriend doesn't trust me NOW...
Q. My boyfriend of a year does not trust me because when we got together I had an affair with him whilst with my ex-partner. We are very much in love and have great times together but he keeps accusing me irrationally even when he has proof of where I ...
A. 3 November 2005: Since he is the one you cheated WITH it makes perfect sense that he has some reservations about your honor and faithfulness. The only way you can prove your love is to stay true to him, and, over time he may trust you. Of course if you can't stay ... (read in full...)
I'm not over my ex and I want her back in my life. Am I just torturing myself?
Q. My girlfriend split up with me about 7 months ago, after an intense relationship that lasted for 5 and a half years in which we lived together for all of that time. She also happens to be my best friend (soulmate) and has been for the last 12 years ...
A. 3 November 2005: Sorry but I think you are just wasting your time. Stay busy and keep meeting other women. You'll find one that will make this exgirlfriend just a dim memory. Happens all the time.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's still seeing his ex. I know, because SHE told me about it!
Q. Hi Well, to cut a long story short, my met this man about a year ago and he spent 8 months pursuing me 'cos he said that as soon as he saw me he wanted to be with me. Well, eventually we got together and everything was perfect. I love him stil...
A. 3 November 2005: He's a player, dump him or you'll be in for a constant world of hurt. ... (read in full...)
The father of my child says I'm on my own, but what's best for the baby?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I dated on and off for about a year. I found out a few months ago that I am pregnant. Initially he said he was confused but he did know that he didn't see a future for us together and I would be on my own. We saw each other a ...
A. 3 November 2005: What's best for the baby is a least ONE parent that loves him/her wholeheartedly. The baby doesn't need a father who could care less about him/her. Move on with your life and don't look back. Take good care of the little one and maybe look for more ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of sexual contact with anyone after being molested by my cousins since childhood!
Q. This is something that had been bothering me for so long.... I grew up around my male cousins and nostly that's all i knew was boys because that's all i had been around. Well i guess i was a very attractive little girl because everytime i was ...
A. 3 November 2005: You need to have counseling to help you sort this all out and get it out of your system. Look for the social services available in your area and see if they can hook you up with a counselor. You'll be fine with a little help from an expert. Good ... (read in full...)
Why is life seeming so pointless?
Q. Hi, I'm 12 and I think I am depressed. I just feel life is pointless at the moment. I did feel like this a couple of months ago but I started to get a bit better, but now I have started to think it again and I could almost cry every day. I do not ...
A. 3 November 2005: Sounds like the begining of puberty to me and everyone has to go through it. You'll be having mood swings like this until things settle down a bit. Try to think of it as one life's adventures! You are becoming a young woman instead of a little girl ... (read in full...)
He cheated with someone else's partner. Will he cheat on me?
Q. I just found out that before we met, my boyfriend was having a sexual relationship with a woman who has a live-in boyfriend of 18 years. He obviously didn't care that he was having sex with someone else's girlfriend. And worse than that, he ...
A. 3 November 2005: Oh yes he's cheating on you, men who lack honor and integrity will continue to cheat. Dump him and don't look back. You will find a wonderful man who will treat you with the respect you deserve. You won't regret it I promise.... (read in full...)
My lover thinks too much is at stake. Should I let it go?
Q. I am a married man of 10 years with two children. Six months ago a woman started working with me. She is also married, but with no children. We have fallen in love with each other and although we have not been "intimte" we have kissed many times. ...
A. 3 November 2005: Listen Buddy, you are married with two innocent children. You are a total jerk to be doing this to them. Start thinking with your brain and not your johnson! Until you are divorced and single you have no business messing around with other women. ... (read in full...)
I feel great about myself, but my husband's attitude makes me want to be with someone else!
Q. I've ben married for 9 years. I had gastric bypass and lost 130 pounds. I feel great about myself. Some people say I could be a model, others are threatened by me. (I am 6 foot tall). My husband is extremely controlling, even more than he was ...
A. 2 November 2005: First of all you have to remember you are married and you also have a son. If you can't really talk to your husband about your needs then you have two choices only. You can separate from your husband and move on OR you can stay and put up with the ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend with my friend's husband and I'm so ashamed...
Q. I am nearly 17 and have been in a relationship with my partner, who is older than me, for about 8 months. Last week I went to my friend's party and ended up sleeping with her husband. He took me home in the morning and on the way he suggeste...
A. 1 November 2005: I couldn't help but notice that you don't mention your "friend" whose husband you slept with and how awful you feel about what you did to HER. Since we are talking about people you party with there is a good chance your boyfriend will find out ... (read in full...)
My ex is looking for a woman nearer to his own age, but he still wants me close, too...
Q. I have been seeing a younger man for 4 months. He broke up with me to find a more age appropriate woman. Yet he keeps calling me and wanting to see me and have me in his life. He says I am his best friend, that I am nicer to him, and that he enjoys ...
A. 1 November 2005: Younger? How much younger? It certainly sounds like you should call it quits anyway. Go your separate ways and don't look back.... (read in full...)
My husband has a double-life, another woman and another child!
Q. Hi, I am in the biggest dilemma of my life and need some help. I am 26, Indian, female. I had an arranged marriage 7 years ago when this really sweet guy from UK came to my house in UK and said he wants to marry me with his family. He seemed r...
A. 1 November 2005: Oh yes you should leave his sorry ass behind! He will never change and will only bring you down. Pack your bags and your daughter's little things and get out. A lawyer will be able to sort out the fiancial aspects. You will never regret your ... (read in full...)
My child's father doesn't want to know about the pregnancy. What should I do?
Q. I am 6 weeks pregnant. The child's father doesn't want to know and is married. I have 3 difficult teenagers and am a lone parent running my own business. My life is hectic and full and I am 40. I have absolutely no family other than my 3 children. D...
A. 31 October 2005: You don't believe in abortion, you couldn't handle an adoption so pray tell what else is there? Get on with your life and keep your mitts off someone else's husband. You are 40 years old, try to act like it.... (read in full...)
For 8 years I've kept breaking up and getting back with a married man!
Q. I'll describe a very sordid process at the risk of getting a humungous barrage of insults for being an idiot cus that's how I feel...... At 23yrs I was married to a chap who well kept me til he got a stay in the country. He then got violent I divorc...
A. 31 October 2005: Let me be the first to tell you that you feel like an idiot because you are acting like an idiot. Take control of yourself! Drop the married guy, you owe him nothing. You sound pretty unstable so get some counseling. Start acting like an adult and ... (read in full...)
She broke it off with me. What's my next step?
Q. I was just involved in a 4 month relationship with a female who I have been friends with and recently started to date me right after her divorce of 8 years. I knew I was taking a chance with her but decided anyways, she says she needs to mourn her ...
A. 26 October 2005: Hellfire Boy! I've got food in the fridge older than 4 months! Move on!... (read in full...)
He got drunk and cheated on me. How do I know it won't happen again if I take him back?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for 8 months now. He has cheated on me once before, we broke up for a while, but he put a lot of effort into getting me back. I recently found out that he has a child (he didn't know either),...
A. 26 October 2005: Trust me it WILL happen again and again and again. Dump him, nobody should put up with a cheater. Life is way too short for that crap.... (read in full...)
My 48-year-old woman says she'll wait until I turn 16. That's next week!
Q. Hi...I'm a 15 year old boy who has really strong feelings for a 48 year old woman, and I know that she feels the same, as we text and talk to each other every night. She's told me she loves me and I know that I love her. She's told me that if ...
A. 26 October 2005: Well for starters you best "bone up" on the lastest menapause therapies. Learn the phrases "I'll get your cane" "Don't worry I know where you left your teeth" "Hey, I really like droopy boobs, really I do" and such....... (read in full...)
My knicker fetish... Is it a problem?
Q. I think I have a knicker fetish problem. When I am at my girlfriend's house alone I keep sneaking into her mum's room and going through her panty drawer. I get off on the sexy feel and smell of her knickers. I like to put her silky ones on and stro...
A. 25 October 2005: You THINK you have knicker fetish problem? ... (read in full...)
My gf broke up over my anger management issues. I want to prove it won't happen again!
Q. My girlfriend is leaving me. I have an agression/anger problem that's been going on for years. Finally on the meal for her birthday last night I ripped the waiter to bits had a row with her sister because my main courtse turned up cold (in front o...
A. 25 October 2005: So go ahead and prove it to her...from a distance that is. If she is convinced over time, and we are talking serious time here, then the problem's solved. It's all up to you, good luck. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't his ex's child's real father, so why does he spend all his Saturdays with the kid?
Q. Ok I have a real problem. My partner of 4 months went out with a women who was pregnant when they got together - the child views my bf as his dad, and my bf regards the child as his son. I have never met the child. When he sees him every other Sa...
A. 25 October 2005: If I were you I'd go with them on the outings. You should get to know the child as well since he's going to be a part of your lives. Plus you may really enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
My soul mate is married to someone else!
Q. Help! I've been searching for a while and I've finally found my 'soul mate'. She's perfect! Only problem is...she's married. I know I can't tell her, (I shouldn't have told anyone really but there you go), but it's affecting my life pretty badly. I...
A. 25 October 2005: Keep on searching, Buddy. And work on developing some sense of honor, integrity, and decency. Married woman are to be respected not chased after by scumbags.... (read in full...)
I'm sick with longing for him, but he doesn't know how I feel. Or does he?
Q. I am married but about to separate. My marriage breakup started before I met someone else at work, but this person at work has taken over my thoughts almost 100% of the time too soon really, but we cannot help these things. He is nothing like the ...
A. 25 October 2005: I can't believe I'm saying this but...I agree 100% with Pops! Hands off, chickie. Married is married, single is single. You are in for a world of hurt if you take this any further.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend would rather break up than work on our communication!
Q. Problem started when we really just stop communicating with each other. We were talking, but not really communicating. I was pretty fed up with that so I confronted her and gave her two options: - 1. We work hard to try to revive our relationship...
A. 25 October 2005: She has made the choice you forced on her. Now you have to accept it and move on with your life. I think you have learned your lesson here.... (read in full...)
He cheated, repeatedly and with multiple partners, but now he wants to come back...
Q. My fiance just told me he's been cheating for the past year - off and on, no one in particular. His job takes him away for the majority of the year and definately puts him in the position to cheat, musician. I've kicked him out and told him it's ...
A. 25 October 2005: Cheaters rarely change their spots. If you want to live like that, never trusting him and wondering all the time if he is being faithful, that's up to you to decide. If you decide to go forward with the relationship at least you have had a heads up.... (read in full...)
He won't let me go out and have fun with my friends!
Q. I am thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend but.... I am 17 and my fiance' is 24, I do care about him but he is too possesive over me. I just want to grow up and go out with the girls and spend time with my friends but it will destroy him...
A. 21 October 2005: You think you feel sufficated NOW just wait until the MARITAL BANDS are in place. Then you'll really be trapped. Just tell him you need some space at this point in time. You can always decide what you want to do with this relationship at a later ... (read in full...)
Do I keep supporting my boyfriend, even though he's done nothing to support me?
Q. I am having some issues with my boyfriend. We've been together going on 4 1/2 years and starting from 2003 to now he's been in and out of jail, not really working, and just not doing anything with himself. He keeps promising me that things will get ...
A. 21 October 2005: Where should you go from here? As far away from the deadbeat as you can get, do it fast.... (read in full...)
What kind of a Christmas present can I get my boyfriend?
Q. Heya, I know this may be a silly question but I was wondering what sort of Christmas present do you get a guy? I mean, me and my boyfriend are both 14 yrs old, and we love each other very much (yes I know, its only young love but this is for real) ...
A. 20 October 2005: When I was 14 I knitted my boyfriend a scarf and he loved it.... (read in full...)
We're trying to work through his cheating and my needing time on my own, but there's so much pressure!
Q. I just don't know what to do. I've been married to my second husband 13 years. We met when I was married to my first husband at the time. Things happened very fast and we married and had a child all within a year. I never showed him much affectio...
A. 19 October 2005: You cheated with him with your first husband so you knew he had no honor or integrity right off the bat. Of course neither did you for that matter. Cheaters are cheaters. You just prove you reap what you sow.... (read in full...)
My lover's wife is abusive and hateful, but he can't leave her because of the kids!
Q. I've recently started seeing a guy I met at work, we get on so well and just seemed to click the first time we met. The trouble is, he's not single. He desperately wants to leave his partner but he can't leave because of the children. He is their ...
A. 19 October 2005: You are a sucker and a tramp. Married men are off limits, period. You deserve your misery.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I get along really well. So why do I get sick when I go to kiss him?
Q. Hello, well I am 19 and I have been with my bf for about 13 months now and we get along really well, have a lot on common and I am attracted to him. Up till recently when we were in bed and he started to make me sick and I could not kiss him. I love ...
A. 19 October 2005: What did he do to make you sick? "Up till recently" does that means this is a new problem and you had fun in the sack before? You haven't enough information here.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my fiance when he continues to lie to me?
Q. I have been with my fiance for over five years. I found out that he had a one night stand and have forgiven him for it. However I don't trust him. He lies to me all the time. Mainly about stupid things, but it feels like I'm being an idiot forgiving ...
A. 18 October 2005: Once a cheater always a cheater, on top of that, he lies. Walk away and don't look back. There are men out there that can be faithful, you just need to find one. This guy is crap.
PS If Pops answers this and says it's YOUR fault, ignore him.... (read in full...)
It can't ever work out, but I'm in love with a married, older woman...
Q. I'm 17 and I have fallen in love with a 22 year old married woman with a 2 year old kid I used to work with. She has also fallen in love with me. We have seen each other quite a lot since I left my previous job. My heart constantly aches and so ...
A. 18 October 2005: She's married. End of story. Look her up after the divorce. Starting life as an adulterer is the pits, buddy.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the guy who cheated, just to make a point?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months cheated on me, and I can't move on or forget what happened, but I don't want this to end, I don't know what to do. Should I leave or stay?...
A. 17 October 2005: If you stay be prepared for the lying S O B to do it again and again. If you want to put up with that, it's your call. I'd give him the boot. Life's too short.... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and he's 19. We've been texting, but I want to move on to more!
Q. I met this boy who I really like at a fair that always comes to town. We each got other people to swap numbers. Anyway we have been texting for about a year now and both said we like each other, but we have been with other people. I see him every da...
A. 17 October 2005: You need to slow down, missy. You have the rest of your adult life to act like a tramp if that's what you want but in the meantime why not just enjoy being a 13 year old? Have fun and laughs with your friends and give yourself the luxury of growing ... (read in full...)
Both virgins, both agreed to have sex. Now she says she can't...
Q. I have met this girl three months from now. We love each other so much. The problem is that we have are all virgins. We agreed to have sex but she always say we are going to do it and now she says she can't. What do I do? ...
A. 17 October 2005: Back off Jack, a relationship comes first with lots of getting to know each other. Have some fun together that doesn't relate to sex. Build a solid foundation of love and trust. She will be ready when she's ready. Sex is only a part of a ... (read in full...)
Every weekend we spend together, my boyfriend "owes" a weekend to his mates...
Q. Ok, well I am 18 years old. My boyfriend says that he spends every weekend with me and needs time to spend with the guys. I had no problem until he told that that with every weekend he spends with me he has to make one up for the guys. Is he ...
A. 17 October 2005: Dump him and see if you can find a guy who actually wants to spend time with you. This guy is a freak.... (read in full...)
Keeping tallies on sex and orgasm...
Q. I told my wife that 3 of my ex girlfriends would write down on a calender everytime we had sex. They would put a check mark if they got off. They would put a circle if they gave me a bj. My wife things that was weird and thinks no girls do that, ...
A. 17 October 2005: This letter is too stupid, what a wasted space.... (read in full...)
Planning on meeting my online lover soon, but my husband feels lonely and left out
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 35 year old woman in a 12 year old relationship, 10 years of which I have been married. My marriage has been a happy one and I consider my husband to be my best friend. However, there is a problem. 3 months ago I met a woma...
A. 17 October 2005: Yes you are a selfish person. You also are immoral. You need to get divorced so you can pursue your "bisexually" wihout any victims. I pity your poor husband. Some woman is going to find a goldmine once you cut him loose.... (read in full...)
I discovered my husband in bed... with my Dad!
Q. I am 24 years old and from Wigan, Greater Manchester in the United Kingdom. I came home from work yesterday to find my husband having sex with my father in our bedroom! Even worse, I heard it has been going on for a year now and I never knew! I...
A. 17 October 2005: I'm willing to be the farm that your mum DOES know but is has decided to ignore it or maybe she's in denial about it. But I'd definitely have a chat with her. Then I would go and get myself a divorce so you can bring your son with your values and ... (read in full...)
My partner puts his family and his money before us, so I left. Now I want him back, so badly!
Q. Dear Cupid, My question I think is a bit complex. I have been married for 26 years, and 10 years ago my partner had an affair with a woman he worked with. We have 6 children and they were young at the time of the affair. Throughout our...
A. 17 October 2005: You need to get yourself to a lawyer ASAP. You won't get your husband back (which is probably a good thing) but you will get all the financial compesation that is coming to you. I think once the dust settles you'll have your self-respect back and ... (read in full...)
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