I hate her but I want her to move in with us for threesomes. What to do?
Q. I have a problem. my husband had a relationship with his baby mom behind my back for some time. Now they have two kids. but before they had kids all three of us had threesomes (they were having sex before we all slept together). I miss having them. ...
A. 9 October 2009: So tell us again why you'd want to have a threesome with the same woman you feel jealous over? You are just giving them a green light to continuing having an intimate relationship and watching it, no helping it unfold That sounds sadistic to me. Do ... (read in full...)
How can I find out the truth?
Q. I started a new job a few months ago and met a guy there who I got on really well with. I knew he had a girlfriend of a year and a half so I wasn't expecting things to go anywhere, but we started talking outside of work and eventually met up. He ...
A. 9 October 2009: A common mistake young people make is to tell their friends every detail of their relationships. This makes it very difficult to hear your own thoughts, your own feelings because you friends begin to "steer your boat" not you. The second problem ... (read in full...)
We never wanted this to happen...but now neither of us can bear to break it off.
Q. Hi, I am semi-happily married and have fallen for another girl. This girl is also happily married and she has fallen for me. Neither of us went looking for this since we were both in seemingly happy marriages. Now my marriage is under strain a...
A. 5 December 2007: Well techincally you are cheating even though you haven't had sex. You are having an emotional affair. Easier to fall into (because they seem harmless) but just as damaging because whatever you are sharing with the other woman, you are withholding ... (read in full...)
Why am I still thinking of her???
Q. Hey, I feel a little stupid writing this and I'm just really confused about it. About two years ago now I had, had a very intense relationship with this girl for about a year, it all went downhill about six months into the relationship, she had been ...
A. 15 November 2007: Relationships can be as addicting as drugs. Maybe you traded one addiction for another when you became involved with your old girlfriend, and this is why you cannot get over her. Also, it's possible that because you can relate to her due to your ... (read in full...)
Can we restore our family unit or even our marriage or is it only a matter of time before he builds up the courage to leave me?
Q. I have recently caught my husband having an affair, we have been married 14 years and have 3 children. I told my husband I still love him and want him to stay, he said he would stay only to be with our children who he loves more than anything and ...
A. 15 November 2007: This arrangment will never work out. Your husband has already confessed that he doesn't love you anymore and is clearly only staying for the kids. He has been seeing someone else behind your back and now has a child with this other woman. I do not ... (read in full...)
Will he ever leave his wife for me???
Q. I'm in a relationship with a married man 25 years older than me. I fell in love with him almost 3 years ago, and tried (clearly unsuccessfully) to forget him. Then I gave him a letter in which I said that I feel something for him, ie love. His first ...
A. 15 November 2007: He is really not making plans to leave his wife. But he is having his cake; being married, having a wife, a home, and the psydo-family, while also eating it too; having a fling with you, a young thing who adores him, (no doubt a big boost to his 50 ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new girlfriend - how he's ignoring me! I'm deeply hurt - what should I do?
Q. My ex is ignoring me! We broke up several years ago but have always remained friends, but for the past year or so, I know he's been seeing another woman. I've never met her but I hear she's beautiful and he's very much in love. The problem ...
A. 26 September 2007: I had this problem once. I felt sorry for my ex after I asked her to move out, so I tried to remain friends with her after our break up. I even used her for sex whenever she insisted that I come visit her. But I never had any intention on getting ... (read in full...)
My ex just split from his girlfriend after she cheated on him, he wants me back. What should i do?
Q. Right my Ex boyfriend is in the army and he had a habbit of picking me up and putting me down when he felt like it. We split in December last year (just gone) and he was going to propose to me on new years. We dated for 3 and a half years. However ...
A. 28 August 2007: This man sounds like someone who has serious co-dependent issues. He panics at the idea of being alone. He jumps from one relationship to another without ever really knowing what he wants or needs. I would not go back to him. He needs to spend ... (read in full...)
My wife has a low sex drive. How can we deal with this?
Q. Hi everyone, I am married and have been in a relationship with my wife for over 10 years (married 2000). We are both around 40 and have a 3 year old boy and 5 year old girl. We have a problem where my wife has a low libido and is unwilling or...
A. 28 August 2007: Make sure she isn't clinically depressed, and doesn't have any medical conditions that could be zapping her sex drive. Is she taking any kind of medication that could have a side effect like this? If it's none of those things, and you did mention ... (read in full...)
Want to lose weight by not eating.
Q. Ok well i'm 14 and i want to loose weight as im 9 stone which is like pretty bad for my age i'm fat really..i wanna loose weight by not eatin..but i wanna know what will happen to my boobs? will they shrink?? please answer thanks xxx...
A. 2 August 2007: Ooops, sorry I sometimes use my boyfriend's log in on this website when I'm bored. That advise came from a woman. Sorry for the confusion!... (read in full...)
Want to lose weight by not eating.
Q. Ok well i'm 14 and i want to loose weight as im 9 stone which is like pretty bad for my age i'm fat really..i wanna loose weight by not eatin..but i wanna know what will happen to my boobs? will they shrink?? please answer thanks xxx...
A. 2 August 2007: Number one, when you stop eating you body senses that it's going to starve and it will hang onto each and every little fat cell you have. Your metabolic system will slow down and you will have an even greater time losing weight...plus you'll feel ... (read in full...)
I'm having major problems with my ex at the moment, so much so that it has led to a breakdown in trust.
Q. I'm having major problems with my ex at the moment, so much so that it has led to a breakdown in trust. We have a child and he has already proven to me that he will use him against me and now I am really worried that he may not bring him back after ...
A. 2 August 2007: Do you need to change the vistation rights to "supervised" only? I guess it all depends on what's happening to cause you to worry about this. Talk to you lawyer about it and go from there.... (read in full...)
I slept with him on the first date, and think I may have ruined the long term value of our relationship
Q. I feel like a fool! After meeting up with a guy I met on a dating site I did something completely out of character.....I slept with him on our first date! He was a real charmer and kept flattering me telling me I was beautiful etc......he bought me ...
A. 31 July 2007: I'd be more concerned that he said he loved you so early in the relationship. It may have been a way of manipulating you into giving him sex. Since the two of you don't live in the same city, I would try to pursue a relationship with someone else. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt just glance at other women, he GAWKS
Q. Dear cupid, I have a question about men who gawk for long periods of time at other women. I understand that it is human nature for a man to glance. Is it a problem when it gets to the point to where my BF is spending the whole night at the pub gawk...
A. 31 July 2007: Slap him. That should get his attention. All men are guilty of looking at other women from time to time. I am dating this beautiful lady right now and every time we go out, she turns heads. It drives me crazy, so now I spend more time keeping an ... (read in full...)
My husband took another woman out on our boat while I was away
Q. My husband took a female friend/coworker out on our boat while I was away at a sporting event last weekend. He picked her up in her town (by water), met her at the dock of a hotel at the waters edge, took her for a ride approx 30 km north up the ...
A. 31 July 2007: You should be concerned. There is indeed something going on there. He could've invited a male buddy but he didn't. ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me - but it was 20 years ago
Q. I've been married almost 19 years, I have two boys (15 and 17), and my marriage is decent (not bad, but not heaven). I just found out that while we were dating, my wife cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend. I know this was over 20 years ago, bu...
A. 31 July 2007: Good Lord, that was eons ago. You weren't even married yet. She obviously still picked you. You were both young back then. People screw up. Forget about it. If you have a good marriage, then you need to remember that -- not what someone did 20 ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend mentioned the fantasy of a threesome and I cant get over it!
Q. My boyfriend said, that like any guy, a part of him wants to have a threesome, But he doesnt really want to do anything to the other girl, just me. Well Of course I made a really wierd face because I didnt know that he had thought of having a ...
A. 31 July 2007: Yeah, it's a fantasy of most guys. He asked. You said no. What you need to do now is drop it. The only thing left to say is that you don't want him bringing it up again because it's going to cause mis-trust issues for you. If he's smart and he ... (read in full...)
She is lying, hiding phone calls and wont speak to me!
Q. Im 38 years married with 3 kids my wife is 33 bye November 2007. we are married for 8 years now. we live happly before. till i decided that she should go back to classroom for further studies. Since , then she has developed bad behaviours , f...
A. 31 July 2007: Maybe she wasn't as happy in the marriage or being a parent as you are (or thought she was). I think she's having an affair with someone she met at class. Probably a younger man and she's trying to make up for lost years or having a mid-life ... (read in full...)
The love of my life went out of town and I had sex with his best mate!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 month...he's the love of my life, and I want to spend my life with him. We've talked about Marriage, and moving in together. Eric is the best friend anyone could ever have, and its not in his character to ever-EVE...
A. 31 July 2007: I agree with Ms. "Xx" about how you should handle this situation but, you're young - things like this are going to come up again in your life. Hopefully you learned a valuable lesson. Boredom is a dangerous place to be when you're alone, and you ... (read in full...)
He keeps changing his mind about our relationship
Q. should i finish with my boyfriend as he never wants to spend time with my children and always changes his mind about our relationship? one minute he tells me we should move in together, and the next that he needs time to get his head around the ...
A. 31 July 2007: Yeah, I'd move on. He's either in or he's out but the back and forth thing is not good for you or your kids. It will make them feel rejected and responsible for your happiness.... (read in full...)
I have been sleeping around, but wonder if this will turn off the guy I really like
Q. Hi. I'm 16 years old and I have slept with 5 people.. All being within the past 3 months. 3 of which were on holiday, so they don't matter to me. However, 2 were in England, one being one of my good friends (we've discussed it and have decided to ...
A. 31 July 2007: Any girl who has that kind of sexual history at the mere age of 16 would be a red flag to me. What are you trying to prove? Do you have sex so quickly because you think it'll win a guy's love? It won't. Quite the opposite. We like to feel like ... (read in full...)
She teased me last night and now I have pains this morning!
Q. Hi Im new at this so bare with me. My girlfreind slept over at mine last night just the two of us (my parents have gone away for the week). As the night went on things got a little more steamy. We was both being turned on. But due to her being on ...
A. 24 July 2007: Can you say blow job?......The next time your g/f plays around with you like that, and can't perform the act of sex because of her period (or whatever) she could at least blow you rather than leaving you in a bad way. That would be my advise.... (read in full...)
We started living together and then plans to get engaged fell through! What happened here?
Q. I have been a relationship with my boyfriend for two and half years and since October we have been living together. He has rented out his flat and has moved into my house. We have discussed getting engaged and were planning a holiday to celebrate my ...
A. 24 May 2007: Talk to him. There must be a reason why he suddenly did an "about-face" in this relationship. Could his feelings really have changed overnight? Or were there signs that you were not paying attention to? At any rate, give him some space. He may ... (read in full...)
The girl I really want to be with keeps changing her mind about me! Do I go back to my ex gf who wants me back? Any advice?
Q. I've been seeing a girl for six months, but much of that time have secretly pined for another a girl, a shared friend. A month ago this friend told me she had feelings for me, and it was obvious to her I did as well. Shortly afterwards I broke up ...
A. 24 May 2007: Good grief, what a saga! You my dear, need to figure out which woman you truly want to be with and stick with her. If your "friend" told you she doesn't really want to be with you, even though you had fun with her and you apparently fell in love ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he answer my texts, even if it's to say he doesn't want to stay in touch?
Q. Hi I've wrote a couple of times before about me and my ex being friends. Anyway a couple of weeks ago we had a conversation he said that he sometimes got the feeling that I didn't think he'd stay mates and I said that I got the feeling he thought ...
A. 24 May 2007: Sometimes the answer is not so much what is being said, but what isn't being said. You're ex is speaking volumes by simply ignorning your persistant questions. He may not mind the idea of being friends but it doesn't sound like he wants to be that ... (read in full...)
He has a new gf and can't see me as friends, anymore. What should I do?
Q. My best friend, who I went out with 7 years ago, for 2 years, and then have been friends with him for the last 5 years, is not talking to me. He has decided to not be friends with me since he has a girlfriend. I am in love with him, and want him ...
A. 24 May 2007: You do not have a chance with your old b/f. For one thing it's over between the two of you, regardless of the friendship he offered you afterwards. He now has a new g/f and has moved on with his life. You should do the same. If you care for him ... (read in full...)
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