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writes: I've been with my current girlfriend for the last 5 and a half years. Throughout these last few years she has been very jealous of my female friends. Over the years she must of accused me of having affairs or being attracted to almost all of them. I seem to make friends easier with females. That's just the way I am, perhaps because I was brought up by women. Anyway every time I've made friends with someone new, my partner would see their phone number and always assume that something was going on. So after the last time this happen I vowed I just wouldn't bother telling her of any new friends as it wasn't worth the hassle. So anyway I made friends with a girl at work who I would sometimes go for lunch with this was purely platonic. After a while my girlfriend found a text from this girl and thought I was having an affair. I managed to get her to see sense, I'm not that sort of guy. But ever since then she has become obsessed with this girl and has starting demanding that I shouldn't have my lunch with her anymore...I say that one partner shouldn't be telling the other what they should be doing. I don't do this to her, but although she tells me what I should be doing she does as she likes...How can I get her to see sense that its only her I want??? Is there any future for us??
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006): ur g/f is extremely jealous. just tell her about new friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2005): You know what I have the same problem, on the oppositte end...My Fiance constantly makes new "friends" that are girls... Now I can understand having friends that are girls....but they should at least know me... or me be aware of when my fiance hangs out with them....I got so enraged about it once that now he hides it from me, Which is causing less trust in me, which is causing anger in him and then sadness in me.... ITs a horrible circle... If it upsets her, IT does...and you shouldn't have to give things up but maybe bring her out with them... Get her to be friend swith them, Get rid of the secrets.. Lord knows what Im going to do because my Fiance doesnt hear what Im saying... I hope you can..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2005): If you love your girlfriend so much, maybe you should show her how much you love her by listening to her.. Maybe she's just uncomfortable with you talking to other women. A lot of women get the wrong idea when men talk to them. They may think more would come out of your relationship that you have when you're spending your lunch with them. If you love your girlfriend and she don't want you to have female friends, then let it be that way. Show her that your friends aren't as important as she thinks they are. She's the one that should be important to you and the one that you should be trying to please.Do these other women matter as much as your girlfriend? If they don't, then please your girlfriend. Maybe she does have low self-esteem and gets jealous easy, love her for how she is... There are men out there that will forget about their friends that are girls and go with their girlfriend. You probably don't need to also be making new friends that are girls especially. If you have some already and you know that your girlfriends uncomfortable with those.. why make it worse???If you are not willing to make things better and more comfortable for her, then let her know this, don't keep it from her, that only makes things A LOT worse. TRUST ME!!! Hiding new friends is no way to go. It's either please her or leave her. She could probably find someone that wouldn't care not to have female friends if that's what she wants. Good luck and make the right choice!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 October 2005):
 Shower her with attention and keep it up, she'll realize after time that you are faithful and that she is the only love of your life. It sounds like she has low self esteem and just needs some reasurance from you.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (10 October 2005):
Well, she must really like you if she's so worried about you like that. Tell her that you love her and only her. Maybe if you tell your other female friends that your partner thinks your cheating then maybe they can talk to her about it and they can tell her that they are your friends and nothing else. Just because you're friends with girls doesn't mean that you are attracted to them, well, most of the time anyway.
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reader, AuntieChrissy +, writes (10 October 2005):
If she's just not listening to you, maybe you should call it a day. A good relationship requires both of you to listen to each other. Tell her that she can pull her act together, or you can leave. I'm sorry to seem tough, but that's how it seems to me. Good luck!
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (10 October 2005):
too many doubts for a serious relationship, she doesnt trust you one bit.
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