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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 October 2005):
 Gee whiz lady! What a mess people can make of their lives but you have involved an innocent child (well 3 actually) and that is just wrong. You and your husband should have divorced if he wouldn't fulfill his husbandly duties. You should have made sure you had effective birth control if you were going to sleep around. You owe your lover nothing in my opinion but you owe your children BIG TIME. And one more thing, get a vibrator and quit acting like a slut.
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reader, lady yab +, writes (12 October 2005):
I honestly believe that you should tell your friend because if he's such a good of a friend like you say he is he has the right to know. As for what other people think there is no need to be embarrased because you haven't hid anything from your husband. People are going to judge you no matter what you do in life. Even successful people are talked about. But most people who always have something negative to say are just lonely anyway. Just think people judged jesus. You and your husband had an agreement about you seeing other people so basically he was wrong for telling you that and you guys are supposed to be married. But even though the child maybe your friends child your husband still accepts full responsibility so really that's all that matters is that the child has a father figure. Or you can even let your friend be the child's godfather.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2005): I feel you should never deny a father the right to know about a child that is theirs it would then be there choice what part they want to play in the childs life..can you really bring up this child knowing you are denying him/her their real father in their life??
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