It looks like we like each other, but how do we make that next step?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need some advice. I think this happens to everyone but I'm not sure how others go about it. There is a beautiful lady that I see almost every day at a local coffee shop. I've gotten to where we say hi and wave. She smiles when she ...
A. 17 December 2005: Yep, you need to get her talking. First you have to find out if she is available. Then ask her to join you for coffee somewhere and talk some more. You may be on the verge of finding the love of your life or maybe just a new friend but either way ... (read in full...)
Am I just too nice to my girlfriend?
Q. Is it possible to be too much of a nice guy...(wishy washy)? Could that drive a girl away, even if she says that all her exes were assholes compared to me?...
A. 17 December 2005: As long a you are sincere there is no way you can be too nice. Wishy washy means somthing entirely different. You sound like any woman's dream. I hope she appreciates the goldmine she's found!... (read in full...)
I had a sexless marriage until my sexy scrabble playing webcam girl turned up... But now she's found someone else!
Q. dear cupid-I've been married 23 yrs to a good woman.however we are mostly :"freinds" now.About totally sexless. @ yrs ago I was playing games on the net when a woamn asked me to paly w/ her & freind.it was "dirty scrabble".had a blast. I was ...
A. 17 December 2005: What can you do? How about for starters you quit your whining and get a backbone. Show some respect for your wife. If you can't show any honor and integrity then do her a favor and grant her a divorce so she can find herself a decent man who will ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my long time bf but he insists we only live together. What should I do?
Q. I am a divorced 45 year old women. I have been dating a 48 year old man four 4 and a half years. I feel we are at a juncture in our relationship as to whether we are considering marriage or not. I have also a 12 year old son. My boyfriend just ...
A. 16 December 2005: I agree with Irish, it's time for him piss or get off the pot. You are probably right about his never marrying you if you move in a live together. If he feels your relationship is solid he doesn't have to be worried about another divorce anyway. ... (read in full...)
Any help for my girlfriend's sore vagina?
Q. my girlfriend's vagina is always sore the morning after us having sex, despite using lubricant. this in turn is leading to a decrease in our sex life. is there anything that can be done for this?...
A. 16 December 2005: That is what doctors are for and why they make the big bucks. Have her go see one.... (read in full...)
Will my messed-up boyfriend *always* be negtive to my teen daughter?
Q. My bf (43) does not get along with my teen (17). He is very negative to and about her. We live in seperate homes and we been dating 3.5 years. He has no children or contact with other teens or children. My teen hates him for what I believe to be ...
A. 16 December 2005: Dump this guy and leave him to his porn. You have a wonderful daughter and will find a wonderful man who will treat both of you like queens. It happens all the time.... (read in full...)
He gave me a sexually transmitted disease..twice! Why do I still love him?
Q. I am 18 and have been seeing a 22 yr old man for 7 months now and think i may have fell for him. i had known from the beginning that he was still living with the mother of his child but it was not till 6 weeks later that he told me him and her were ...
A. 16 December 2005: Wise up and dump this lying, cheating, germ-infested loser. Ther is no future here except a constant trip to the clinic.... (read in full...)
Are my boyfriend's crazy problems down to his drug-habit?
Q. My live-in boyfriend doesn't seem to care much at all about having sex with me. However, he DOES like to partake in coke or meth and demand that I give him oral sex for 16 to 72 hours straight! He's a messed up freak and I plan on dumping him ...
A. 16 December 2005: All I can say is that you wasted precious time writing that letter. Time would have been better spent getting the hell away from this loser.... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can have a bigger penis??
Q. This may sound dumb but, my girlfriend has had sex with alot of guys (like 30) this dosen't bother me that much (well it does but I'll deal) She had a couple guys with huge penis's like 10 inchers I have a 7incher and want a bigger one has anything ...
A. 16 December 2005: This is a non-issue to the majority of women. Get yourself beyond it. Women love big hugs, big kisses, your penis is just fine.... (read in full...)
He seems too busy to return my messages...should I just wait for him to contact me?
Q. hi i like this guy a loooot....i met him with my friends at a club...he made the move actually ...then he invited us over to his place...i didnt show much interest then ....now i want him badly he is a very busy guy ....really really busy ...i...
A. 16 December 2005: If he were interested, he'd call. Get busy with your life.... (read in full...)
I met another guy..how do I split up with my current bf peacefully, with no hassles?
Q. hi everyone. i dont really know what to do. i am 22 and i am in a relationship of 5 years and have cheated on my boyfriend. i have never done this before. a new guy started at work and we both knew we had chemistry straight away. so there was ...
A. 16 December 2005: If your new friend is distancing himself from you so soon makes me think you were probably no more than a fling. And since you don't really think you love your boyfriend anymore I guess the answer is very simple. You break up with him. It's not as ... (read in full...)
He hits me..he controls me.. so why do I beg him to stay with me when he threatens to leave? Help me!
Q. Im 19, having a bf for nearly 5 months now. Although I wouldn't consider it a very long relationship, I have seriously fell for him like I have never before. Overall, he is a person who treats me nicely once we meet. However, once I leave for home ...
A. 16 December 2005: The only option with a control-freak/abuser is to get the hell away from him, but if you say that's not an option then stay with him and in enjoy the bad treatment. You're sure to get plenty of it. ... (read in full...)
My wife left and I still love her...can we get back what we once had?
Q. Hi - My question is this..... My wife and I were happily married four years ago. We had some small problems (as you do) but most of the time we were able to work around it and keep things moving along and retain our happy marriage. About a year ...
A. 13 December 2005: What exactly do you mean by massage palors? I assume you didn't just get your back rubbed or you wouldn't have the guilt, right? If you were unfaithful to your wife you need to tell her. I'm thinking maybe she's got something she may want to confess ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this flirtatious female who flirts constantly with my husband?
Q. i have been with my husband for about 18 years and i have a problem with some mutual friends , we have been friends with these people for about 5 years from the beginning i could sense a attraction between my husband and the my husbands friends ...
A. 13 December 2005: You need to distance yourself from these "friends". They are not worth the problems they are causing. A couple of moments of fun are not a trade for the anguish they leave behind. If you value your marriage please heed these words.... (read in full...)
Can you explain about bleeding when losing virginity?
Q. My girlfriend says i took her virginity away but she didnt bleed, she said her boyfriend masturbated her and she bleed, for some weird reason its tough to beleive, is that common? what do i do?...
A. 12 December 2005: Jeese Louise, get beyond this buddy, it's a non-issue.... (read in full...)
My parents said it's okay for us to have sex...but my bf is afraid he'll go to jail
Q. ok im fifteen and my boyfriend is 19 and we had to sex and my parents said we could and he is afriad to go to jail and i to talked to the sherif and he said he couldnt but he wont beleive me could u help me make him beleive that he cant go to jail ...
A. 12 December 2005: Save your boyfriend some grief and wait to have sex, it's that simple. And for crying out loud use birth control when you finally decide the time is right.... (read in full...)
My current gf told me to choose between my two daughters! What can I do?
Q. I have 2 children to different mothers! one child is 7 one child is 7 months. I met my girlfriend 3 years ago. Our relationship was great and i looked after my 7 year old child every second weekend, but as soon as my other child was born my ...
A. 8 December 2005: Well it certainly looks like everyone is in agreement here..lose the controlling bitch and start pursuing custody of the little one. You owe it to yourself and your daughters.... (read in full...)
I want to rebuild my marriage but my wife refuses to talk to me.
Q. Hi i have recently split up with my wife,i realise where i have gone wrong and would like to be with her again, but she wont speak to me. I love my wife very much and would love to her to give me another chance. If you think you maybe able to help ...
A. 8 December 2005: Not enough info here. What caused the separation?... (read in full...)
He's my landlord, he's married and he's 30 years older that me-but I had sex with him...now he's ignoring me!
Q. i had sex with a married older man, try 30 years older and he's my landlord, now it seems like he's pulling away from me. he was supossed to call on saturday and well now it's monday. i called him today twice one time i left a message about he ...
A. 7 December 2005: He's not pulling away from you...he was never WITH you to begin with, sheesh! It's the oldest story. You are yesterday's lunch. If you ever want to hold your head up like Irish says then you have to walk away from this a**hole and STAY way from ... (read in full...)
I'm male and I'm 15...curious on how to masturbate?
Q. I'm a 15 year old male, and have never mastubrated before. I was curious on how....
A. 7 December 2005: I think you are looking for material for it right now.... (read in full...)
Why do bright attractive women fall in love with married men? Help me understand
Q. I am a 38 yr old attractive, intelligent woman. My problem is that I am in love with a married man. His marriage is loveless there is no physical contact and has not been for 3 years. He has 2 children 11yrs 4 yrs owns his own business and ...
A. 7 December 2005: The first response is crap. This is hardly a "mostly perfect" relationship. Not only does an affair: crush and humiliate the wife, it devastates innocent children; it turns the other woman into a sluttish home wrecker, and finally reveals the ... (read in full...)
I like him him-even though he called me a slut
Q. Hi there I need a bit of help this was this guy that I met on holiday he was a big flirt but he's in a different year to me and he has not spoke to me. he once called me a slut cause I won't listen to what he said he told me to get out of the ...
A. 6 December 2005: Focus on your studies and forget about boys until you can write a coherent letter. ... (read in full...)
Does my gf have feelings for my best friend in prison? How do I know for sure what's going on?
Q. Dear Cupid, My ex and I dated for about 4 years but about a month ago she broke up with me because I accused her several times of having feelings for my best friend who is currently incarcerated in a Illinois State Prison. I didn't want to o...
A. 5 December 2005: Well I can guarentee they aren't cheating on you physically. ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old bf is sleeping with my grandmother! What do I do?
Q. I am 16 and my boyfriend is 16 too. Recently I found out that he has been sleeping with my grandmother and has been having an affair with her for 3 months - and I didn't know until now! I feel sick, disgusted, jaded.... what do I do? Katrina...
A. 2 December 2005: Hey we just had a letter from a guy whose girlfriend was sleeping with his grandfather. Coincident? I think not. You guys should all hook up.... (read in full...)
I get so drunk, I don't remember anything-my bf is fed up with it all
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and after a year of being really happy together we decided to move in to his flat together, now all we do is argue especially when I have been drinking. Everytime we go out I get blind drunk and ...
A. 2 December 2005: Lay off the sauce, sister. Not a drop, you are showing every sign of alcoholism. Find the nearest AA group and start attending before you destroy your life.... (read in full...)
My son-in-law dumped his sex problems with my daughter-in my lap. How do I talk to her about it?
Q. My son-in-law has placed a problem on me with regard to my daughter not responding in bed. I have no idea how to bridge this as in October she went through a bad bout of depression which ended up in her trying to take her own life. I was under the ...
A. 2 December 2005: Whoa...the last thing you want to do is get mixed up with their sex life. Tell your son-in-law he and your daughter need to have a meeting with a marriage counselor. Stay away from this hot potato, go on your holiday.... (read in full...)
Help! I love my husband but my friend's hubby makes me feel like a real woman!
Q. i have deep feelings for my best friends husband and have had a affairs seen about july of this year and i just got married what do i do i love my husband but her husband makes me feel like a woman again what do i do please help me i dont know what ...
A. 2 December 2005: If you don't feel bad about it and in fact like it, then what's your problem? Some people are amoral and marriage vows are meaningless to them. Hope your husband and your "best friend" find out.... (read in full...)
Some of my husband's family members were upset we didn't include them in the wedding party!
Q. we got married 5 years ago and at our wedding, which was very small and intimate, we had one bestman, my hubby's best friend, and one maid of honour, my teenaged daughter. my husbands brother has a daughter, who is my husbands godchild, which was ...
A. 2 December 2005: Don't sweat the small stuff, dear. Enjoy your husband and your family, ignore the brother.... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't understand that his new girlfriend is trouble and that I'd treat him better!
Q. Please help me. I just dont know what to do.Im still in love with my ex. We were only together for 5 months and we split up 6 months ago, because he suddenly decided that I wasn't his type and not the girl for him. I was very hurt but I could ne...
A. 2 December 2005: You need to get a grip, honey. The guy is history and you need to move forward. Go out and meet people and try to have some fun. Eventually you'll find that you are thinking less and less about him. There is someone out there for you so start ... (read in full...)
He loves me but I don't love him...but I don't want to hurt his feelings...
Q. I've been with my so called boyfriend for about three years It started out good but i took him to a family event and he acted stupid ,he had too much to drink i decided to leave him so we took a break for three weeks in those three weeks i started ...
A. 2 December 2005: You know what you should do, so why are you asking?! Dump him and get on with your life. Sheesh!... (read in full...)
He's cheating-but I'd go to hell and back for this man
Q. My fiance and i have been together 8 years and have a 3 year old son. We are from very different backgrounds as he is asian and due to this we have had to overcome many obstacles. From day one everyone has been against us except for a few close ...
A. 2 December 2005: Your child is suffering and you don't know what to do? You need to focus on what's best for your son. Any child is better off with one loving parent than two miserable ones. You may be happier than you think once you get away from the cheating ... (read in full...)
The man who loves me is married. He says he's never fallen for anyone else, not even his wife!
Q. I have fallen head over heels with a married man. I've known him for years, and always fancied him but never ever thought he would feel the same. Only a few weeks ago did he tell me that he loves me. He honestly said he didn't fall in love with his...
A. 1 December 2005: Unless he divorces his wife then you keep your hands off the guy. Married men are off-limits. He's probably just saying what he thinks you want to hear in order to get into your drawers anyway. Tell him to look you up after the divorce and mean it.... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend's husband out of my mind??
Q. I think I am a happily married 41 y/o woman. My husband is attractive, caring and loving. We communicate openly about everything. One of my close friends has been having marriage troubles. She has admitted to having feelings for another man and has ...
A. 1 December 2005: Try harder...there are too many people involved here that you could possibly hurt very much. It's most likely just a crush and you'd regret taking any actions anyway. Just focus on your loving husband and children whenever your thoughts start to ... (read in full...)
Should a 40 year old man want to date a 19 year old woman and then get her pregnant?
Q. Is it normal for a forty year old man to want a relationship with a nineteen year old girl and then get her pregnant?...
A. 1 December 2005: no... (read in full...)
My 14 year old son lets food pile up in his bedroom-the stench was foul!
Q. I am worried about my 14-year-old son. In his bedroom I had found a load of uneaten sausages and McDonald's burgers, and the stench was so foul I felt sick almost! I asked him why he collected sausages and fast food, and he said that collecting ...
A. 29 November 2005: Food hording is a sign of anorexia nervosa. It is a control issue. I suggest you talk to his physician and get the name of a psychologist who specializes in adolescent eating disorders and make an appointment for your son. It's a difficult disorder ... (read in full...)
Physically abusive bf wants me to move with him-away from my family!
Q. right now i am really confused with my relationship between my fiance and myself, we have been together for a while now but with alot of problems and alot of arguing,just recently, i had to get a restraining order against him because he started to ...
A. 29 November 2005: This line in your letter "and most of the stuff that he has done to me in the past wasn't to hurt me, but to try and make me see how much he really does love me." is the usual line abusers give their victims. And it is a lot of crap! He does get off ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my relationship is over?
Q. How do I know if my relationship is really over? Should I just give up?...
A. 29 November 2005: How do I know if my relationship is really over? ASK HIM.
Should I just give up? IF HE SAYS YES...THEN GIVE UP.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would be perfect, except that he feels I'm not good enough for his family!
Q. My bf and I have been together for almost 6 months. I am 29 and he is 27. I have three children from a previous marriage, he has never been married and does not have children. He lives about 30 miles from me, and works about 5 miles from me. H...
A. 29 November 2005: Hummm it sure sounds like he's using you and just stringing you along. If he were even remotely thinking of marrying you don't you think he'd be upfront about your relationship to his family/friends/coworkers? Think about your kids and yourself and ... (read in full...)
He's 27, he's immature-we break up but he keeps contacting me!
Q. We broke up 2 months ago. It only took me 4 days of ignoring him for him to miss me and come back.This is the 4th time we had broken up. He always dumps me because we argue about stupid things because we are both stubborn. But the real reason is ...
A. 29 November 2005: Yeah, you sound like the epitome of maturity yourself! You both obviously enjoy playing juvenile games with each other so what's the problem? Tag...you're it.... (read in full...)
My duaghter's unhappy and crying about her relationship. Should I help?
Q. I have a 22yr old daughter living 1000km away, with her boyfriend. They are having major relationship problems, she comes crying to me every time they fight, via phone call or email. I am so stressed over this. What can I do to help? Should I ...
A. 29 November 2005: Just being there to listen is about all you CAN do. Just remember not to say anything negative about the boyfriend. If they do manage to work things out and stay together, your words may come back to bite you in the butt.... (read in full...)
My husband wants a DNA test done on our child-I feel humiliated!
Q. What should I do if my husband goes ahead with a DNA test? Based on a joke years ago, now my husband wants to do a DNA test on our child. I feel a biggest insult/humiliation in my life. I know I can not prevent him to do the test. But if he goes a...
A. 29 November 2005: Apparently your husband doesn't think this is a joke and must have some basis for his doubts as to whether this is his chld. If it is his then great, but if he finds out differently then "Lucy you have some splainin' to do". I feel sorry for the ... (read in full...)
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