Want to do a threesome with another girl. Good idea or not?
Q. I had brought the idea of having a threesome to my boyfriend. I have been with girls before and it doesn't bother me. He said that it could be fun and asked if I wanted him to join or stay out of it. I told him to join. We have spoke to the other ...
A. 7 October 2005: If threesomes turn you on, I think you'd be better off just viewing a video rather than actually participating in it. It WILL come back to bite you in the butt, so to speak.... (read in full...)
Could my partner really have been blackmailed into sleeping with another woman for 6 months?
Q. My partner and I have been together for 5 years and we have a 17 month old daughter. I love him very much but I recently found out that my partner has been cheating on me for the last 6 months. He says that it didn’t mean anything and that he was ...
A. 6 October 2005: Blackmailed? Noooooooooooooooooo! If he doesn't stop sneaking around and start being upfront with you, you'll have to give him the boot.... (read in full...)
I'm planning to meet my lover for sex, but I don't know why I'm doing it!
Q. I'm with a partner and I was always happy to stay at home and be housewife and mother. Then my life changed. I had a affair which only lasted a while until I finished it all. He was married. Now I don't feel the same anymore, as if i'm a differen...
A. 6 October 2005: Don't you have any sense of responsibility? Do you realize what your wanton behavior could be doing to your husband and children? Sneaking around and having sex with married men and guys you pick up on the internet is inexcusable. It's not "all ... (read in full...)
When we met, we told each other all about our pasts. It turns out he didn't tell me even half of his!
Q. Hello agony aunts, I have a problem. I can't deal with my boyfriend's past. Well, we've been together for 3 years and it's been a happy 3 years. I was a virgin when I met him. He wasn't which wasn't an issue in the beginning. Before we had sex we a...
A. 6 October 2005: The past is past and all of it happened BEFORE you came on the scene. You should try harder to bury it and move on. He loves you that's all that matters now. If it is absolutely impossible for you to deal with this then you have no choice but to ... (read in full...)
We're no longer doctor and patient... so would it be OK?
Q. I would like advice about a tricky situation ! I am a professional writer and actor in my early thirties , and started to see a doctor specialist of the same age after having glandular fever. From the beginning we found it easy to talk , a...
A. 6 October 2005: What part of MARRIED don't you understand? You have no rights or business concerning this man especially now that he is no longer your doctor. Leave him alone and go on your way.... (read in full...)
I've been reduced to sneaking around to find out if my partner is cheating...
Q. I suspected my partner was cheating on me earlier in the year. What happened recently though was the person I thought he was cheating with told me he had been cheating - but with someone else. Anyway, he has (predictably) denied this. He knows da...
A. 6 October 2005: I EMPHATICALLY DISAGREE with Pops, there is NOTHING worse than a cheating spouse. But you just said "partner" so if you aren't married, walk away and find someone else you can trust. If you are married then get the dirt and and use it when you ... (read in full...)
I've told my boyfriend the truth now, but he still thinks I'm hiding things and lying to him!
Q. I just met my boyfriend about three months ago. We met on-line on a singles dating service. We started dating seriously after two weeks but before we started dating I told him that I had lied to him about the number of sexual partners I had in my ...
A. 6 October 2005: Run and don't look back.... (read in full...)
I'm not supposed to have a boyfriend, so I have one behind my dad's back...
Q. Well see my problem is complicated. I have this ex-boyfriend that i was seeing for about 2 months before he left for Louisiana, and me and him only saw each other 2 times before he left. Well me and him were on the phone and emailing each other. One ...
A. 5 October 2005: Nobody can truly give you any help with this without knowing just how old you are. If you are 30 then move out if you are 10 then listen and obey your father.... (read in full...)
Nobody's really good enough for me!
Q. OK, so you're so gonna hate me for saying this but I'm genuinely in distress. My problem is that I've never had a boyfriend, not because I'm ugly or weird, but quite the opposite. I've never met anyone who I feel is good enough for me. To say I'm ...
A. 5 October 2005: Hey chickie, forget about finding a guy. Just take yourself down to the closest HomeDepot (or the like) and buy yourself lots and lots of mirrors, cover the walls and ceilings! Or you could pay someone to bust up your perfect face and solve that ... (read in full...)
I don't want my son's father spending time at the Carribbean Fest!
Q. My Son's father goes to South Beach each October during Carribean Fest. He goes with a few of his friends (majority married men). I am totally agianst this. Married and committed men should not be hanging out in South Beach! Even if I have total ...
A. 5 October 2005: Ask him to take you with him. If he says no then go down there yourself with some friends. Not to spy on him but to have a good time at the Fest. Maybe it's not as bad as you envision.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my girlfriend might prefer porn to me!
Q. Recently my girlfriend found porn that has been in my junk drawer for years. We have been going out for 2 years and now she has decided she wants her own porn. Am I right in saying this is bad, as it means she will be fantasizing over other me...
A. 5 October 2005: I have to agree with the previous answer. Sorry Buddy, but it was your porn she found. She might have decided to give you a taste of your own medicine. I love the shoe being on the other foot, ahem, so to speak.... (read in full...)
Is sex always this... messy?
Q. Me and my girlfriend had a very active sex life. We decided to change from using condoms to her going on the pill so there would be no delay when we were in the mood. Unfortunately it seems to have had the opposite effect. The main reason is f...
A. 5 October 2005: It amazes me that you would even consider this a problem at all. We've got war, famine, hurricanes, and you're upset 'cause sex can be "messy". Think of all the people who would like that to be their only concern!... (read in full...)
No more joking and fun, my boyfriend's gone all obsessive about me...
Q. Help me. I have been with my bf for 1 month now and I feel like he is suffocating me. Everything was going really well until last weekend. He said he loved me. Ahhhh... I feel he has changed and he is no longer jokey with me and he is all ...
A. 5 October 2005: 1 month? Dump him and move on to next guy who can be "jokey" with you, whatever that means.... (read in full...)
Am I too dependant on the man I love?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend David for 5 1/2 years. We are high school sweethearts and soul mates. I feel like this is rather pathetic that I am bothering someone else with my problems but I need help. Like I said, David and I love each other. We ...
A. 5 October 2005: I think Irish hit the nail on the head. You are draining him dry. This vampire behavior has to stop. But you have the answer in your own letter. Yes, you do need to grow up and seek therapy. I think you've known this all along. Now do it.... (read in full...)
My man promised that he was going to leave his wife, but he went back to her! Is it me?
Q. I have just broken up with the love of my life, whom I have been with for 2 years. He is married but he promised he would leave, which he has done several times. He always goes back for the children. This time I confronted his wife and he now says...
A. 5 October 2005: You are the one living a lie. There is never a future with a married man. Hands off chickie, I'm glad you got left in the dust, learn your lesson from it. Go find someone to have a life with but hands off the married men! And try to set a good ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to ditch the "toxic" friend who hates my boyfriend?
Q. I have a bit of an issue. My boyfriend, N, and I have been together a little over a year and we are very happy. However, my (male) friend, R, does not seem to be happy with our relationship. R seemed supportive at first, but would do toxic things ...
A. 4 October 2005: Ditch that psycho! Sheesh what a creep!... (read in full...)
Why is this bloke winking at me? Is he interested?
Q. Is it normal for men to wink at you or are they trying to catch your eye because they fancy you? There is a bloke I see around from time to time and each time he sees me he always winks at me. He's a good looking guy but I wouldn't want to make an ...
A. 4 October 2005: Better make sure he doesn't have some sort of facial tic before you do anything!... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with thinking about someone other than my partner when I'm pleasing myself?
Q. I need to know if it is normal for me to have sexual fantasies about men other than my fiance. When I am alone, and *ahem* pleasing myself, I sometimes think of someone other than my fiance. It's not someone I know well or see all the time. I don't ...
A. 4 October 2005: I thik if you can't get off fantasizing about your fiance and NEED to think about other men then that's a red flag signaling future problems. You should not marry him unless he is everything to you and the two of you are one. You need some more ... (read in full...)
How can I control the thoughts about my husband's friend?
Q. I have a problem in that I have become extremely attracted to my hubby's friend and cannot stop thinking about him (I know its stupid). This has never happened before and every time I try and forget about him little things remind me of him (I do ...
A. 4 October 2005: Gee whiz what can you do to take your mind off your HUSBAND'S friend? How about knitting, sewing, gardening, crossword puzzles....or maybe just using some common sense. Maybe if you didn't live in a fantasy world you might be able to get to the ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to come back... but I've met someone else. What do I do?
Q. My husband fell in love with someone 700 miles away and carried on his relationship with her for 5 years. I only knew about it the last 2 years. He left me and my 2 kids a year ago. In March of this year they broke up. He now tells me he wants to...
A. 4 October 2005: He left you once and he'll probably do it again. He's a liar and a cheat. I'll bet that's why he split up with his little chippy. Let him see the kids while you make yourself busy doing something else; like spending some time with your new friend. ... (read in full...)
My husband's mum and son are controlling our relationship, making him choose them or me!
Q. My husband of 6 months has left me. I am a mother of 3, 17,16 and 12. My husband has a child also at 12. I had an hysterctomy 4 weeks ago, which didn't go well as ended up in theatre again due an internal bleed, ending in ICU. Then my husband ...
A. 3 October 2005: Yep I agree with all the aunts here. You are going to be strung along by this clown forever. Tell in no uncertain terms what you require. You and your kids deserve a happy secure existance. Settle for no less.... (read in full...)
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