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i don't have all the answers but i have lived a good life with lots of love, lovers and adventure.
i am an expert fisherman, and go fishing at least twice a week.
i have a fox terrier dog named sami spratt.
she is the love of my life,( after my wife)
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Should I be happy that he won?
Q. I played chess with my boyfriend 3 times and I lost all of them. My boyfriend is dyslexic (although he is one very talented guy, he loves arts and plays the guitar and piano like a pro) and in school, he's placed in the last class. Me however, I'm ...
A. 17 January 2011: well, i too am dyslexic.....and failed at school.
but then discovered i have an i.q. of 153.
i never loose at chess either...but i cant do maths, or spell correctly. i cant see transposed letters. thank dog i'm normal!... (read in full...)
Why is it wrong for the woman to make a decision about marriage?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 2.5 years. We have a house together that we bought about a year ago. I have been ready for marriage since about our 2 year mark. I started discussing this with him a couple months ago. I know many people s...
A. 24 December 2010: whats wrong is for ONE person to make the decision to get married without the full co-operation of the other.
you need to both sit down and LISTEN to the other person.
it took 4years before i was ready so i understand this issue.... (read in full...)
Is the invitation really to watch a movie, or is it something else?
Q. I went on a blind date recently. It was great. There was a second date, a couple of days later. At the end of the date he finally kissed me for the first time. The guy seems to be very respectful and gentleman like. For our third date , he invited ...
A. 24 December 2010: go ahead and watch the movie, and if he wants more then tell him exactly how far your'e willing to go.
as you have already kissed he may well be thinking he likes you and wants to keep seeing you.
relax and enjoy the date.... (read in full...)
After two and a half years he's still not "ready" to get married??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 2.5 years. I love him and want to marry him and he says the same....BUT he is not ready right now. WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN?!? I really do not understand, he says he does picture me as his wife and ...
A. 24 December 2010: well i think it means he;s not ready to have kids. its not you its him, he's being honest and telling you how it is for him. he's not mature enough. ... (read in full...)
Lonely and hard of hearing
Q. ok I'll be 23 in a few days and I've never had a boyfriend. I go to work and then come home. I'm not sure about going to bars or clubs because I'm half deaf and it's really hard to hear in loud places like that. I've also had the problem of guys not ...
A. 24 December 2010: deafness is one of the least understood disabilities, as there are no signs of it.
i have been deaf for most of my adult life, following a misfire when i was in the army.
i have a lapel badge now and when i tell people i show them my badge, i... (read in full...)
I'm not sure why I can't leave him!
Q. hi, i'm in a relationship with a guy, who most of the time, is very affectionate and loving, but whenever we argue, he becomes quite aggressive, i.e. pulling my hair, choking me, kicking slapping etc. Despite this, I love him so much, that I cannot ...
A. 13 December 2010: this is a criminal act when he slaps or kicks or punches you and is punishable by a few years in prison. dont wait for the next time. got to the police now and tell them what he has been doing and get him locked away where he belongs. no wonde... (read in full...)
Are there a lot of people who are open-minded where sex is concerned?
Q. I was just wondering.. are there lots of people who are quite open-minded when it comes to sex? I've only had one boyfriend before, we were together for a few months but never had sex (I wanted to wait before I lost my virginity to him but we en...
A. 13 December 2010: a lot of people confuse love and sex.
you can have lots of good sex without love, but finding the right guy could be a problem. there are a lot of weird guys out there waiting to prey on an inexperienced girl like you, so take care.
but don... (read in full...)
I'm worried that if I keep texting him he'll think I'm a stalker!
Q. 3 nights ago I slept with a guy I met in a bar. Its the first time ive ever had a 'one night stand' sort of thing. Anyway, he asked for my number in the morning and we were texting for the next couple of days, but now he's stopped replying to my ...
A. 13 December 2010: yes, you had a "one" night stand, and thats it.
keep the shirt and get on with your life.
if he comes back, take it one night at a time....who knows?.... (read in full...)
Why does he prefer me over other students?
Q. He's mighty handsome, but we both know what's at jeopardy here. At least I hope so. Okay, so, here goes: -Whenever we have a class discussion, if I'm not talking, my teacher will look at me. When he's reading the paper and no one's talking, ...
A. 11 December 2010: sorry but it think you have got this all very wrong.
some teachers use the technique of talking to one student as a means of communication to the whole class. its much easier to pick a kind and pretty face out of a room of twenty, and see the reac... (read in full...)
She's playing hard to get!!!
Q. I'm in the friend-zone with "Veronica", who lives with her sister, "Betty". "Veronica" sets me up on a blind date with "Betty". I call, I drive, I pay, I entertain, I think of things for us to talk about. "Betty" doesn't lift her precious pinky ...
A. 11 December 2010: sheeesh! no way give betty the big boop!.
and at your age you should know better.
or maybe you could "treat her mean and keep her keen", a taste of her own medicine, as it were.... (read in full...)
Sex with an older guy!
Q. I want to have sex, but it'd be illegal? I'm 16 and I don't know how much longer I can hold out. These hormones can't be tamed for much longer, I can feel it. Except, I don't want to have sex with some young guy my age. I don't find them attractive ...
A. 11 December 2010: in my country 16 is the legal age for consent, but thats not the case for you. and sex with a 40 year old would be no different than with a 16 year old, legally.
i can understand your desire for an older guy, they seem much more experien... (read in full...)
We always called each other best friends but I'm not sure anymore?
Q. This girl and I have been best friends for nearly seven years. We met in elementary school, and have since then called each other best friends. We've been through so much together, know each other so well, hung out too many times to count...you get ...
A. 11 December 2010: best friends forgive each other no matter what they do.
best friends dont have to see each other for a while.
best friends understand when the other friend dosnt ring for ages.
but when they do meet up its like they just met yesterday. ... (read in full...)
What is the perfect penis size?
Q. OK, so I know there are a lot of penis size questions on DC, and most of the aunts are honest and offer reassuring advice on this sensitive topic. And we get that size is not everything, and bigger is not always better and it can hurt, etc. And ...
A. 26 November 2010: my penis is the perfect size, and shape and its all mine.
i share it with my wife and she loves it.
its the only one i have and i dont worry about other guys, or if it would be better if it was smaller or bigger etc.
so why are you asking this ... (read in full...)
Is staying friends after dating a good idea?
Q. So me and this guy I was dating for two months broke things off because he was given a job offer back in his hometown in Chicago. Although I knew it was coming, the break up hurt nonetheless. He suggested staying friends. Is this a good idea?...
A. 25 November 2010: i can't see why not.... (read in full...)
100 reasons why I love him, 90 down 10 to go!
Q. Ok so im dating right now, its been like 8 months and coming up is Christmas, im totally gonna like write him a book of 100 reasons why i love him but its not working out, i have no clue what to write, im at like reason 90 but cant think of anymore, ...
A. 25 November 2010: well.....you could try writing him a book called the 90 reasons why i love you.... (read in full...)
Anybody want to share ideas on being freaky?
Q. So i'm new to this site, anyways... i'm 20 and me and my girlfriend have ben going out for 2.5 years :) and we've done or talked about doing just about everything sexual, and she and i are actually worried that if we last that we will run out of ...
A. 25 November 2010: i'm so sorry your'e bored.
lots of sex can do that to a guy, yawn!.
you could try going without sex for a couple of years, or going out for the evening, or going for a bike ride etc. etc. etc.
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How do I get him to kick the nic?
Q. hi how can i convince this boy i really like and get along with to quit smoking , i tell him its disgusting but he just looks at me and laughts but he should'nt be smoking how can i convince him to stop help please.x...
A. 25 November 2010: well your right, its disgusting and selfish bad habit. ditch the dude now and find a guy with some brains.
good luck.... (read in full...)
Is fingering supposed to hurt?
Q. I got fingered for the first time the other day and he went right in and it kinda hurt but in a pleasurable way, is this normal?...
A. 25 November 2010: the first time anything is inserted into the vagina, there could be some pain. the good thing is it may not hurt next time.
but what worries me is that at your age you dont know your own body and dont know why it hurt.
go onto the net and read abo... (read in full...)
My insecurities keep slapping me in the face!
Q. I can't get over my insecurity. I've always been a bit insecure because I'm not pretty enough and ever since I was in like 6th grade, when other girls started getting some attention from boys, I was left out. The thing is, I recently broke up with ...
A. 19 November 2010: most women have some flaws. women with big breasts have one bigger than the other, suffer from back and neck pain. etc. etc.
you need to be happy with what youve got and get on with your life.
if you want to know how to get over this go and... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 19 November 2010: you need to hold your head up and get on with your life.
you really have done nothing wrong. this was consensual sex and was enjoyable for all parties. why should feel dirty?. all three of you done this, not just you. it dosnt matter in the sche... (read in full...)
Do guys like it when girls get really wet during sex?
Q. Hi. This is my first time on this site, and I can't believe how helpful it has been! My question is: Do guys like it when girls get really wet before/while having sex? I ask this because I tend to get very turned on during sex, and get really ...
A. 18 November 2010: we love it, thats why we dance dirty, to get the girl wet.
it means she feels great as well. there is no hiding how a girl really feels when she juices up. i just love it....its the biggest turn on ever. you go girl!.... (read in full...)
With whom do I live my life with? My Husband or this other guy?
Q. I'm 18 year old married girl from Mumbai and studying in second year at commerce and my husband living in Allahabad doing post graduation from Arts .i'm ALSO DOING JOB.my husband don't like i'm doing job and he also want I'm settled in villa...
A. 13 November 2010: i find this hard to follow. are you having an affair with anish?.
why are you apart from your husband?.... (read in full...)
Do guys accept small breasted girls?
Q. I am a very petite girl with small breasts size cup A. My boyfriend told me he love me for who I am and always kiss and fondle with my small breasts but I feel so sad for him as I think that he loves bigger breasts. I start to feel ashame of ...
A. 7 November 2010: i like small breasts.
big breasts never attracted me, i love the shape of small breasts and the way they feel in my hands. they are more sensitive when making love.
give me a woman with small breasts, please.
you need to see how some women with ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with both of them, why cant we just have a 3-way relationship!
Q. I am new to this site so please don't laugh at what I am about to say. Almost 8yrs ago I met and got involved with a woman who is 10yrs older than me. Everything was going well until like the fool I am I cheated on her with a woman 8yrs older than ...
A. 5 November 2010: well i wont laugh at you. but you really should read your own question and see how stupid it is.
neither of these woman deserve you. they should be thankful you are out of their lives for good.... (read in full...)
I love a woman 11 years older than me
Q. Hello. I am 18 years old. For several months, I had a Japanese woman stay at my house when she visited the united states. She is 11 years older than I am. She is very sweet and cute. We enjoy long talks and find that we have many things in ...
A. 5 November 2010: sorry but there is no future here for you. sad but true. she is way too old for you.
it's not what you want to hear, i know but thats what i feel.... (read in full...)
Its the drugs or me!
Q. I'm 20 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and few months. I feel like my boyfriend is choosing drugs over me. I've asked him to stop but every single morning he wakes up and smokes it. He isn't at work atm either so he's just at home ...
A. 5 November 2010: get out now, he's got no future with you. he's using you to fund his drugs. stop the cycle and leave.
your mum will take you back. why would you try for a baby with this looser?.... (read in full...)
His reasons for wanting just FWB don't really make sense
Q. I like this guy, i have liked him since the day we met. He says he likes me so much he doesnt know what to do, then one night he asked me if i would rather date him or be friends with benifits. My heart sank, i said i wanted to date him rather then ...
A. 2 November 2010: at his age he dosnt want to be tied down to one girl. he's playing the field and why not, there;s plenty of fish in the sea, so to speak.
he has told you he's not looking for a long term thing.
move on, and good luck.... (read in full...)
Did I screw this up by moving too fast?
Q. Well after being in a marriage for over 20 years to a men 20 years my senior, it terminated abruptly due to his stupidity, and it hurt me a lot, 10 month had passed and even though I was still vulnerable I decided to go on a blind date with a men ...
A. 2 November 2010: so, why are you waiting, get in touch with him at once. he will be pleased to see you again. go for it.... (read in full...)
What is a good height for men?
Q. What is a good height for a man?, I'm 5 10 or 5 11, and i'm 25 years old.. i have always wanted to be tall. Sometimes i ask my self whether im tall or short. i never seem to get the right answer.. my dad is well over 6 feet and my brother is 6 or ...
A. 2 November 2010: 4foot six is a really good height, anything above that is wasted. lol.
be happy with what youve got....some people have no legs!.... (read in full...)
How can I just forget the fact that her male-friend likes her?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are celebrating our anniversary, and I make it noted to everyone. Write it in my facebook status and im proud of her and i for coming this far. She drops the "so my friend told me he likes me" bomb and i dont know how to deal ...
A. 1 November 2010: i think shes looking for a ring on her finger.... (read in full...)
She wants me to cum in her face but I respect her too much to do that...
Q. Ok guys dont give me hell or call me a pansy. My gf asked me to cum in her face while she was giving me a blow job last week, and I totally froze up and couldnt do anything. I have watched it in porn and I dont see it as a turn on at all. Honestly...
A. 29 October 2010: i dont think its disrespectful if the girl asks for it, quite the opposite in fact. she sounds fine with it, so do it.
while its o.k. to put limits on each other, sex is about fun and enjoyment. its rare to find a girl who knows what really t... (read in full...)
My friends always say the teacher is staring at me
Q. hey :) I know I have asked this before, but I got no help :( thank you to the people who did comment though, I just need more help please I don't know what to do im really sorry its so long, but please I need your advice .... I'm a littl...
A. 29 October 2010: well i dont condone teachers flirting with their students, but sometime people see things differently.
your friend seems more worried over this than you, and she may be winding you up. you dont move your hand and didnt object when he played w... (read in full...)
Pregnant and no one knows but me
Q. Okay so I'm pregnant and the guy doesn't know It and neither do my parents. Help me please?!!...
A. 29 October 2010: tell your mum first. then have her take you to a doctor.
it's not the end of the world, and your'e not the first young girl to get pregnant.
it's sad to see this happen but you will get through it. you will have some very big decisions to make, an... (read in full...)
Should I take the chance and borrow from him or file bankruptcy to get a fresh start and rebuild my credit??
Q. This is a financial question that involves my current boyfriend of two years. It will take some explaining so stay with me..... THE UNEMPLOYMENT: I am one of the many people who lost their job and haven't been able to find another. I've been...
A. 28 October 2010: well dont borrow more money to pay off the debt. thats just creating more problems.
and dont pay off someone elses debt.
get legal advice asap. good luck.... (read in full...)
My friend's husband is starting to compliment me and I don't know what to make of it
Q. Hi would like some advise please. My friend's husband seems to like me. He told me the other day that he thinks i am beautiful, he doesn't make me feel uneasy normally and i have had the impression before that he likes me but i thought no more ...
A. 28 October 2010: tell him in a nice friendly way that your getting signals from him and that your'e not interested.
keep it light and friendly and dont make a big deal about ti.
if that fails then really give him the message and tell your husband. that should ... (read in full...)
Threesome lead to wife giving something that I had always wanted
Q. Awhile back, my wife and I got drunk and lost our inhibitions and did something we always fantasized about, but should have left as a fantasy. We had a threesome, with a complete stranger. We picked a stranger, because we thought the chances of a...
A. 28 October 2010: why not thank this guy, for opening up a whole new world for you. one you had given up on, and now lays at you feet, so to speak.
your wife didn't plan this to happen but in the heat of the moment did this to please you, and your other part... (read in full...)
My LDR guy is coming to visit and he wants to have sex with me, but I have no idea how to do it!
Q. well im from NZ and im having a LDR with a guy from Australia. we've met once when i was in Australia, well he is comeing to visit me in 2 days and he'll be staying in a hotel and he wants to have sex with me. im ready to have sex with him but the ...
A. 27 October 2010: stop worring, this guy will show you how it's done. you are about to embark on a great adventure, and another phase of your life. good luck. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible there is no pleasure in sex?
Q. Is it possible for a promiscuous person to not enjoy sex? Why sleep around if there is no pleasure? ...
A. 27 October 2010: most people sleep around because its pleasurable for them but there are some that cant find much pleasure and keep trying to find some pleasure. does that make sense?.
sex is pleasurable if done right. it can be so pleasurable that it takes ov... (read in full...)
Why does he keep asking "what are you thinking"?
Q. Recently me and a guy friend met up for drinks and i ended up staying over at his place. He has a girlfriend and nothing happened between us that night. The thing i find a bit odd is when we got to his we were a bit worse for wear me more so than ...
A. 27 October 2010: he wants to know how you feel about him and would you like to take things further. but he wont make a move till you give him the green light.
tell him how you think about that, do you want it to go further. if you don't want it, then don't pu... (read in full...)
Was my wife just joking about us becoming swingers?
Q. my wife and i were talking about our sex the other night and i said maybee we need to spice things up. she says maybe we should be swingers. i asked if thats what she wants she said yes. a min later she says she was just kidding. i just dont know if ...
A. 27 October 2010: if it's what you want, then ask her again. if not, don't go there again.
the swinging lifestyle is full of danger to so called happily married couples. most couples get into this because there is something missing in their own relation... (read in full...)
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