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I've fallen in love with my best friend's ex!!!
Q. Well, I'm in love with this guy... but my friend dated him and they broke up over a year ago, she kinda still likes him. So, I've been talking to him, and I've fallen in love, same with him, he's in love with me. I haven't been this happy in ...
A. 22 February 2008: Well I have always had this rule that you dont date or sleep with your friends ex's and vice versa. But if youb really do feel strongly for him talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. tell her nothing has happened yet but you wanted to check... (read in full...)
My partner tried to choke me and I'm wondering if I should give him another chance... he says he'll never do it again.
Q. My partner tried to choke me on one occasion and I am wondering if I should give him another chance. He says he loves me more than anything but he panicked and he's so sorry and says he will never hurt me again. He wants to get married - we were ...
A. 22 February 2008: Hello, I am sorry to say this but you cannot give this guy another chance. He might be deeply sorry but whats to say he wont do something like that or worse again? You can advise him if you care about him to get proffessional help to cope wit... (read in full...)
If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin?
Q. I've got one curious question to ask you. If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin? Please tell me, I asked my mum, she said ask your dad so I did but he said ask your mum etc etc. I can never get anywere with my famil...
A. 22 February 2008: Hello, No you are not a virgin if you have sex using a condom. If a mans penis enters inside you protected or not you are not a virgin.
Wearing a condom is very intelligent and will prevent STDs and nasty infections it also minimises the chan... (read in full...)
If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin?
Q. I've got one curious question to ask you. If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin? Please tell me, I asked my mum, she said ask your dad so I did but he said ask your mum etc etc. I can never get anywere with my famil...
A. 22 February 2008: Hello, No you are not a virgin if you have sex using a condom. If a mans penis enters inside you protected or not you are not a virgin.
Wearing a condom is very intelligent and will prevent STDs and nasty infections it also minimises the chan... (read in full...)
If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin?
Q. I've got one curious question to ask you. If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin? Please tell me, I asked my mum, she said ask your dad so I did but he said ask your mum etc etc. I can never get anywere with my famil...
A. 22 February 2008: Hello, No you are not a virgin if you have sex using a condom. If a mans penis enters inside you protected or not you are not a virgin.
Wearing a condom is very intelligent and will prevent STDs and nasty infections it also minimises the chan... (read in full...)
Now i'm about to date someone new, she wants me back.
Q. ok listen this problem is starting to get annoying.... look i have made a huge mistake..... i am male of 15 but this happened when i was 13....a year and a half ago....anyway.... i like this woman alot and she liked me back.... well after awhile of ...
A. 7 August 2007: The first girl does not deserve you she only wants you now because you are with somebody else. She enjoyed you chasing her she enjoyed the attention, It made her feel good whilst it made you feel bad. She wants you back because she is scared of ... (read in full...)
She was my first love.
Q. We met a year ago. She was (and still is) the only person outside my family who ever accepted me for I am. We quickly became very close friends. We would spend the whole day just enjoying each other's company. What we had was something special. I ...
A. 7 August 2007: Your mum is just looking out for your best interests, she doesnt realise how much she is hurting you. Sit her down and have a heart to heart ( not a tantrum ). Explain how you feel tell her how you feel nobody outside your family really excepts you ... (read in full...)
Can we make it last a long time?
Q. I've been going with my boyfriend for a year and 1/2 (since I was about 2 turn 13) and I love him so much and I know he feels the same but I think I can only love him 50/50 percent because there's no promise that we'll be together for a long tim...
A. 7 August 2007: I am afraid thats what life is all about hun taking chances. You never know what is around the corner or what is going to happen in the future.
Enjoy life for what it is, be happy and stop worrying. Enjoy your relationship with this boy and if it d... (read in full...)
His friends take their girlfriends.
Q. My boyfriend is always going away with his mates for weekends every three or four weeks. Sometimes some of his mates take their girlfriends. When should I start putting my foot down and how do I talk to him about this and explain my feelings ...
A. 7 August 2007: I think you should put your foot down. How would he like it if you went away all the time with your girl mates and they took their blokes but he wasnt invited.
He wouldnt like it. Try and make him see your point of view. Ask him if you could come... (read in full...)
Feeling like I don't love my girlfriend anymore!
Q. i've been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half now and she's my first serious relationship ever and i've been feeling like i dont love her anymore, but i dont know if i'm just having doubts or if this is really the end for me. i've bee...
A. 7 August 2007: I think that you have a lot of respect for this girl, but you are feeling like you havent experienced enough of other things before settling down.
Maybe you are too young to be in a relationship this strong, you need to experience life have fun ... (read in full...)
Totally in love with my girl of one year, except our relationship has a problem... she never (ever) wants sex and we've not yet made love!
Q. Hi I've been with my girlfriend since the start of the year. I love her very much and she's everything I'd ever want in a partner. The only thing I'm unhappy with though, is our sex life (or lack thereof). She told me a long time ago that, before...
A. 7 August 2007: I think that you should sit your girlfriend down in a nice private place and tell her how you feel. You have listened and understood her feelings, ask her nicely to listen to yours.
Tell her how much you love and appreiciate her, tell her how beau... (read in full...)
She's lazy, overweight and we have nothing to say to each other!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for over a year. And things lately have become a bit tedious. Because of her money restrictions and transport we find it hard too go out. We end up just staying in and not doing nothing, watching TV. I feel ...
A. 27 December 2006: Hi hunny,
There are a lot of things that you can do that dont involve money. Why not go for a nice walk? That can be romantic and plus it usually sets a good atmosphere for a nice heart to heart. Also it gives you chance to excersise so y... (read in full...)
I feel so lonely and want kids... but how to approach my boyfriend!?
Q. I'm 25 and my partner is 37, My family have all deserted me, this being my mother, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles and last remaining grandparent. I feel so lonely at times, I have no friends and my boyfriend's parents split on my birthday this ...
A. 27 December 2006: Hunny,
I think that you should think about it properly first. Are you wanting to start your own family for all the wrong reasons?
Then sit your partner down and explain how you feel, tell him you love him and you want his babies. Lets fac... (read in full...)
He said we would be together forever. What should I do?
Q. hey my name is whitney and im 13 and my b/f Evan is 14 and moved to phili and he hasnt talked to me for 1 1/2 days and he said he would call me like everyday and he said we will be together 4 ever and im so sad cuz when i dont talk to him i get sad ...
A. 24 December 2006: bless your little heart Whitney.
It has only been a day and a half since you last spoke to him, I am sure he has just been busy. I do think that it is hard to keep a long distance relationship going, it causes too ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me and I'm alone this christmas!
Q. i'm alone this xmas. MY Girlfriend of 15 month's get's up and dump's me over asking her " do u still fancy me? " 2 weekend's ago she went out and stayed out and that when i think Things Changed. i'm 25 she's 20. she keep's saying how she's no...
A. 24 December 2006: Basically I think that you should give your ex some space. I think that it is most unfair if you keep watching her, plus if you give her space she will have a chance to miss you. Let her try and live a single life, once she realises that its not ... (read in full...)
Went to a party and kissed someone else. "love" my boyfriend though!
Q. i wen to a party and kissed aguy i ddnt know... i have a boyfriend and i love him and wouldnt do anything to hurt him but it just sorta happend i didnt think to stop it.Should i tell him or keep it to myself there are 5 people that know and they are...
A. 24 December 2006: I suggest that you tell him. Let him make his own mind up about what he wants to do. Just explain to him that it was a heat of the moment thing and you never meant it to happen. Tell him that you love him and you will never be unfaithful again.
... (read in full...)
I moved to Spain with my nasty second husband. I want to move back to England, but all my ties are in Spain.
Q. I live in Spain with my second husband and all my ties are here. My husand turns very nasty when he has had a drink. He dos´nt hit me but he says very horrible things about me and my two daughters. I am now getting to a point I am so fed up of it. I ...
A. 20 December 2006: Hi hunny,
I feel for you I really do, it must be so horrible feeling isolated like that. You should talk to your husband and tell him how his drinking is affecting you. If he loves you he will try and stop.
Some people cannot handle t... (read in full...)
I feel like he doesn't care, it's really upsetting me. I'm not sure he misses me at all.
Q. I met my boyfriend in my first term at university and we spent every day together for the past 7 weeks before having just gone home for the holidays. However towards the end of the term I started feeling like he was taking me for granted... he ...
A. 20 December 2006: Basically you need to get hold of him and have a chat. He cannot lead you on like this, its not fair he is playing with your head.
Ask him what he really wants, whether he wants to be with you or not. If he does then tell him that you are feel... (read in full...)
Why is it that men split with women and don't really give them a reason why?
Q. Hi Cupids, Why is it that men split with women and don't really give them a reason why? I am 25. It doesn't happen to me often but it has done recently. I really liked a guy and he tried to avoid me for nearly a month then we did meet up he said ...
A. 20 December 2006: I think men do this because they are scared of commitment. He may have sincerely liked you but then realised to himself that he was rushing into things. Maybe he just needs time to sort his head out and figure out what it is he really wants.
Try ... (read in full...)
How can I get him back without it being obvious?
Q. A guy split up with me and was so rude. Is there any way I can get him back that is not too obvious?? Thank you....
A. 20 December 2006: Hunny,
Why do you want this bloke back? I know people say treat them mean to keep them keen but if you want to really be happy you should move on. Nobdy deserves to be mis treated.
He is obviously an ignorant person that has no respect ... (read in full...)
After getting back from his holidays, he sudden;y became distant and won't tell me why? What should I do?
Q. Ive been in a long-distance, on-off relationship for a long time. My guy just moved closer, but still not in the same city. When he just got back things were great. But he went on holiday with a friend for 3 weeks, and when he got back he's now ...
A. 13 December 2006: Hi hun,
I am sorry to say this but I think that your man has realised whilst being away that he is not ready for commitment at the moment. He probably had so much fun having his freedom for three weeks that he feels like being single is the ... (read in full...)
I'm stressing out about what he's really doing online!
Q. Hey, everyone. I’ve been w/ my bf for 4 yrs now. He lives at home w/ his parents and so do I. He’s not the party type; he’s the type of guy that works and goes straight home and once in blue goes to his buddies house and hangout. He and I talk a ...
A. 5 December 2006: Hello Hunny.
Technically your boyfriend is doing nothing wrong because you have told him that it is okay to do what he is doing.
I suggest that you sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you are feeling. Tell him that you love him... (read in full...)
I didn't know my BF of 4 years was looking at naked girls, he said he would stop but he hasn't!
Q. hi i am looking for some advice. I've been with my boyf for 4 years, lived together for 1 year. When i noticed that he was going into our bathroom for an hour with magazines, at first i thought it was just normal mags, but then one da...
A. 9 November 2006: I think that you should count yourself lucky that he is only lookin at pictures and not cheating on you. I understand how you feel, I would feel jealous and betrayed if my boyfriend were to look at pther women, but we have to accept that all blokes ... (read in full...)
Im really happy with my first BF of 8 months, but My mum keeps telling me to get out and date more!!
Q. Hi. I've been dating my bf for about 8 months now and things between us are great. We love each other and we're happy together. However, my parents, my mother in particular, is always saying that i should get out there and date more to see what ...
A. 17 October 2006: I can understand your parents point but I also think you should ignore them.
If you are happy then continue your relationship. If things do go wrong then try something new. Until then good luck... (read in full...)
Does this mean that I am related to the guy I've fallen for ?
Q. I don't know what to do, I think I may be related to this guy that I've fallen for. So if you can understand this, please tell me if we're related or not. He is my: Dad's uncle's wife's sister's son. So, my Dad has an uncle named "...
A. 17 October 2006: I do not really understand the family tree so I cannot help you. What I do know though is that you are only related through marriage, if anything at all.
So I dont think there is a problem with you seeing this person. Goodluck and ignore what othe... (read in full...)
I met the love of my life before finding out my wife had cancer. She is now clear and I want to leave her. Do I go or stay?
Q. I have a wife who has had cancer but it is now clear. She has a 40 to 60% chance of the cancer reappearing. I met the love of my life 1 month before the diagnosis. If I go I will feel very guilty, if I stay I will loose my dream relationship. Do ...
A. 6 October 2006: I think that you should leave her, you cannot stay with someone out of pity. A relationship should be happy not force.
I think that you should be honest with her, but promise to support her as a friend in the future. Please do not put this othe... (read in full...)
I did things on webcam at the age of 12, now I regret it. How can I forget it?
Q. since i was 12 ive done bad things i used to show boys on cam myself naked, now i really regret it. how can i forget about it? was it illegal? i used to do it cos i was ashamed with my body and they used to say they loved it even tho i was flat c...
A. 6 October 2006: Hi hunny.
Alot of people have done things that they regret. God I have done enough myself!!!! I also used to do similar sort of things when Iwas young because I too had insecurities about my body, I guess it is all part of growing up.
... (read in full...)
My ex was asking me to do things with him, ever since he was with someone else. What do I do?
Q. A long weekend's ahead and part of me is happy, but part of me is dreading it. My sort-of-ex boyfriend had been asking me to do things with him more than ever since he divulged his interest in someone else. I don't even know when he has time...
A. 6 October 2006: To be honest he is using you! Tell him where to go. He is being selfish and is loving the fact that he has two women. Just blow him off. He needs to be taken down a peg or two.
Honestly hunny you are worth more than this, find a man who will trea... (read in full...)
What is the quickest way to get over a boy?
Q. hey, i need help! im a 16 yr old girl. i was in love with a guy, proper in love, we had soo many gd times together bt now all ive got is a broken heart. he used to tell me he loved me and that i was 'the one'. and i believed him and fell for him. we ...
A. 6 October 2006: Hi hunny,
I promise you that you will find someone one day who will completely sweep you off your feet and you will laugh at this bloke now.
For the time being though I suggest that you spend as much time with your girlmates as possible... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with my boyfriend, but he has moved on. How do I win him back? Please help!!
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up beacsue I thought it would be awkward with me going to a college far away and I thought i wouldnt see him anymore so we decided to break up I no its crazy because I still really love him but hes moved on and is ...
A. 6 October 2006: I think that you should tell him not to get involved with this other girl until he knows what he really wants, as it is unfair to lead her on if it is you he really wants to be with. I then think that you should spend a whole weekend together or ... (read in full...)
My girl cheated, I really love her! Was it really a genuine mistake ?
Q. My girlfriend has cheated on me and I dont know what to do coz I luv her and I cant let go despite what she has done. She says she luvs me and she does not want this to end thats whats confusing me. my question, can one cheat on someone you really ...
A. 3 October 2006: My personal opinion is that once a cheat always a cheat. If she really did love you she would never have done it in the first place.
If you did decide to forgive her the thought of her cheating will chew you up inside. You will always be worr... (read in full...)
My bf left saying I complain too much! Is he really finished with me or doe he just need space?
Q. My ex boyfriend just left me saying he dosent want a relationship if it is that hard. he has lived with me for 2 yrs, and we dated 2yrs before that. He also works with me, so its hard to see him and know hes not comming home. he says i complain too ...
A. 25 September 2006: I think he thought you would keep chasing him and now you have stopped he is beggining to panic. I dont think he really wants it to be the end, I just think that he needed his breathing space for a bit.
I dont really agree with playing games but ... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my girlfriend massages another man?
Q. Should I be jealous if my girlfriend massages another man? My girlfriend has just started a massage course. This might at first seem like a dream come true. In the course they practice on each other. Most of the students are girls which is just gr...
A. 25 September 2006: I can understand your jealousy as I would feel the same if my man were doing a course like that. At the end of the day though you have to realise it is all proffesional and it is something she is keen on doing.
I am afraid you will just have to b... (read in full...)
How can I respond to a letter from a girl? I don't want to bore her.
Q. A girl has wrote a letter for me. It was really long and enjoyed reading it... the thing is i have to write back now and i have never writen a letter before - and i don't want to write anything that she will find boring! i like this girl and i think ...
A. 25 September 2006: Why dont you tell her what is going on on England and reply to some of her questions in the letter. You could talk about some of the things that you enjoy doing, also suggest meeting up when she comes to England and suggest a few things to do.
I kn... (read in full...)
My bf is upset that I need some time to concentrate on my studies. What can i say to him?
Q. Hey guys.. well, im dating this guy called pete..and i spoke to him recently about how i cant concentrate on my studies because im spending too much time with him. Petes already left college but im in 6th form/college and im doing my A levels thi...
A. 25 September 2006: If he has been to college himself he should understand how important it is to you. I think that he is being pretty selfish myself and at the end of the day your studies do have to come first. Boyfriends come and go but this is your whole life and ... (read in full...)
What do men really think of women that are good in bed?
Q. What do men really think of women that are good in bed? Recently, I heard that a couple of my ex-boyfriends had told people that Im good in bed and while my friends say I should be flattered I actually feel quite embarressed. Does it not mak...
A. 25 September 2006: Hi there, I dont think that it makes a woman slutty unless they sleep around, or they flaunt the fact about themselves.
You are good in bed but keep for your relationships only. Your ex's are just making themselves look stupid and immature whic... (read in full...)
My and my guy have just had our first major argument. I apologised and he says its fine, but I feel like I have let him down. How can I get him to forgive me?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now, and we've just had our first major argument. When we met we clicked instantly and have spent every possible chance together. He's the only person who I feel truly understands me. I've been hurt by ...
A. 25 September 2006: Hunny every relationship has its ups and downs. It doesnt mean that it is the end! All you have to do is think about what caused the argument and how you can prevent it from happening again.
You have been with this guy a month now so you are prob... (read in full...)
I am falling for my online guy, but dont want to rush things. Advice please!!
Q. Theres this guy i have been talking to for abit on the internet he lives in the next estate but we've never met. I think im starting to fall for him. He is abit older and very good looking so i dunno if i even have a chance. I would like some tips ...
A. 25 September 2006: Hi there I think that you should just be yourself! He thinks your pretty and you think he is nice, you live close to eachother, so it sounds to me like you could try and take things further.
I mean what is stopping you?
Dont worry about sc... (read in full...)
I have a lover at Uni, another at work, and one from the net, I like them all but one has asked me to marry him!!
Q. Hello, I am a confused girl about men. I cant decide who to stay with. my problem is I like men, and I like more than one. I loved one before for nearly 5 years. never cheated on him, he then left me to marry someone else. after him, I met nearl...
A. 20 September 2006: I am sorry but this is going to sound really harsh, I dont think that you are ready for a relationship at all.
To be honest I think you are being extremely out of order! You are messing with these poor blokes minds and hearts. I think you shou... (read in full...)
My ex wants to see me as a friend, but he wont accept we are over, is it possible to be friends in this case ??
Q. I ended a relationship with my lover because i felt it wasn't going anywhere and i told him that.We couldn't agree to compromise so i walked away.Trouble is my ex will not accept this and says he misses me alot.He wants us to remain friends and just ...
A. 20 September 2006: Hi hunny I know that it will be hard in your ex but you have to be firm with him. Tell him that you would like to be his friend but you feel it is best that you dont get in contact witheachother for a while. This bloke needs time to get over you, ... (read in full...)
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