Why do I hate my boyfriend's ex and kids? He doesn't even see them any more!
Q. My long-term boyfriend was married with 3 kids before he met me. When he met me, he left his wife and kids for me, because he was unhappy with her, and knew straight away that I was his soulmate. This was 19 months ago... The thing is, I feel...
A. 24 March 2008: Look at the date! Please leave old psycho posts in the dust! This one was truly a pain in the butt, trust me!... (read in full...)
I think my friend is just being used by her younger, gay friend. Am I the only one who thinks the relationship is weird?
Q. A close (intimate) female friend-53- has a relationship with a younger gay male- 40- which upsets me. She is in the US, he in Europe.They met on a trip a year ago at a resort and seem to have developed a relationship where they communicate almost ...
A. 23 January 2006: Uh John99? That was supposed to be: Good Luck with the LADIES. My Bad.... (read in full...)
I think my friend is just being used by her younger, gay friend. Am I the only one who thinks the relationship is weird?
Q. A close (intimate) female friend-53- has a relationship with a younger gay male- 40- which upsets me. She is in the US, he in Europe.They met on a trip a year ago at a resort and seem to have developed a relationship where they communicate almost ...
A. 23 January 2006: You are very welcome John99. I think her loss will dawn on her in a very short time. Stay the class act that you are and good luck with the laddies!... (read in full...)
My husband is cold, tetchy and always has to have the last word. I'm so unhappy!
Q. I am very unhappy in my marriage. My husband is cold and we have no physical contact, not even a hug from him. He is hardly ever in the wrong. He seems to take great delight in outwitting me in conversations and always has to have the last word. ...
A. 20 January 2006: If you are so unhappy why don't you get a divorce? Life is too short to live in a constant state of misery. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I need to cheat on my boyfriend. It gives me a thrill!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. We started going out with each other when I was 13 and he was 16. We are very happy together. We moved in with each other when I was 16. In the first year of our relationship I cheated on him, because ...
A. 19 January 2006: Personally I think you have really poor self-esteem. You need counseling to prevent or deal with the lonliness your actions are going to bring you. And do the boyfriend a favor and cut him loose so he at least can get on with his life.... (read in full...)
We're both 13 and we want to experiment with sex more. Any suggestions?
Q. I'm 13 and my boyfriend is also 13.We have been together for a couple of months now and really want to do more. We've thought about sex(and condoms)but i wouldn't really feel comftable. I do wanna do more sexual stuff but i don't know what?...
A. 19 January 2006: Gee Whiz Youth IS wasted on the wrong people! You and your boyfriend need to lighten up. There are some really great suggestions here. Enjoy yurself with these youthful pastimes. Plenty of time for sex later on. Make it something to look foward to ... (read in full...)
He is with someone else so there is no future but how do I let go?
Q. Hello, I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've been seeing a man who is involved with another women for the past 2 years. The worst part being he is the Managing Director of the company I work for. When we first starting dating he worked in another office ...
A. 19 January 2006: No future here. Bite your lip and let go, you'll be allright in a bit and you'll realize you did the right thing. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Is it unusual for a man to go to a health spa??
Q. I want both male and female opinions on this question. Do you find it "STRANGE" if a man goes to a health spa, for a full body, head massage, foot massage, manicure and pedicure that are included in the whole experience? I'm a modern 21century...
A. 19 January 2006: All that stuff makes a person feel good. Whatever could be wrong with it? Enjoy yourself!... (read in full...)
I think my friend is just being used by her younger, gay friend. Am I the only one who thinks the relationship is weird?
Q. A close (intimate) female friend-53- has a relationship with a younger gay male- 40- which upsets me. She is in the US, he in Europe.They met on a trip a year ago at a resort and seem to have developed a relationship where they communicate almost ...
A. 19 January 2006: I can see why this would be important enough for you to end your relationship with her. If you have explained all this to her and she still feels she wants to go on vacation with her little friend then you have no other choice. Get out there and ... (read in full...)
I still love him but he's distant and sex is a no-go. Is it time to end it, despite my love?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend now for almost two years- he is 10 years older than me. Over the past month or so, he's been very distant with me, bringing his work home with him, having little digs at me and generally not the man i fell in love with. ...
A. 19 January 2006: After you two have a nice long chat about your relationship you'll know what needs to be done. Start talking.... (read in full...)
My ICT teacher is so sexy... but his behaviours are confusing me!
Q. I really fancy my ICT teacher; he is the sexiest loveliest man I have ever met and I want to be with him. But he confuses me. You see one minute he's tender and warm and he gets very close to me and touches me hesitantly and shyly and then another ...
A. 19 January 2006: He doesn't. Now start enjoying yourself with the other kids.... (read in full...)
I feel jealousy while my man is spending time with his wife (who he's divorcing). Any coping strategies?
Q. My boyfriend and I are very much in love with each other. It's one of those things when you know you know, but nobody else knows or understands. I've been told nasty things, like he will end up breaking my heart. But I've chosen not to listen. Even ...
A. 19 January 2006: How often does he go to Alabama? Are you sure he is in the process of a divorce? Is it possible he's getting the best of both worlds? Mighty strange that he isn't free to say whatever he wants to you in front of his "soon to be ex-wife". This whole ... (read in full...)
He broke off a date with me after "commiting" to someone else. So why is he texting again?
Q. Hi, I went on a couple of dates with a guy and he made plans with me for another date. A few days before the date, he called to tell me he decided to make a commitment to someone else he was seeing. That was the last time we talked. Then a m...
A. 18 January 2006: You've wasted too much time on this loser, ignore him.... (read in full...)
I fell in love with him first...then I found out he's married He's also underemployed and addicted!
Q. My heart is in turmoil because a few months ago I met a man I love very much, but the circumstances of our relationship are causing me great emotional pain. Before meeting him I had been alone for many years raising my son on my own. After falling ...
A. 18 January 2006: Looks like a rather bleak future ahead for you if you stay in this "relationship". I'd tell him to clean up his act and when he's drug free and divorced to look you up. By then you may not be the slightest bit interested and be on your way to a ... (read in full...)
She and her new boyfriend don't talk. They just ring up and sit there, not saying anything!
Q. My friend's boyfriend and her are all shy around each other. And it bothers me when she comes over and calls him on her cell phone and she just sits there with the phone on speaker. She just began talking to him at school yesterday after a 3 month ...
A. 18 January 2006: It is TO funny! Lighten up! I think it's a hoot!... (read in full...)
Why do I have to explain my financial expenditures to my fiance, but he doesn't have to return the favour?
Q. Hello... I've been with my fiancee for over a year now, We have a wonderful relationship, but money is a huge topic for us, and we always end up fighting about it. I have Cerebral Palsy and am on Supplemental Security Income. This pays half t...
A. 18 January 2006: All I can say here is that you had better get this straightened out and both of you be in total agreement as to the finances BEFORE you go ahead and get married. Other than kids, money is the biggest reason married couple fight and end up divorcing. ... (read in full...)
My 19-year-old partner still sleeps with his mum and sister. Are they just a close family... or what?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 and have been with my partner just over 2 years. My partner's 19 and still lives with his mom and sister, 18. He has told me how sometimes they all sleep in the same bed because they get lonly it makes me sick at the thought. When I go...
A. 18 January 2006: You've been with this guy for 2 years? That is one sick family, I'd have flown the coop long ago. If you really are into this guy I'd tell him straight out NO MORE SLEEPING WITH MOMMY OR SIS NO MATTER HOW LONELY HE IS!!!!! Sheesh! that's so sick and ... (read in full...)
My ex's new boyfriend is violent and abusive. She got beaten up just because he saw me driving from her place!
Q. My ex-girlfriend is having problems with her current boyfriend. At the moment she is still having post coming to my house which I am relaying to her by meeting up with her. I have moved on since we split up and got a new girlfriend but her boyfrien...
A. 18 January 2006: Tell her to go to the police and get a restraining order against him. Then she should change the locks if he has a key to her place. She should avoid going any place that he might go and she shouldn't go anywhere alone if possible. ... (read in full...)
I'm madly in love with the son of one of my first cousins. We're both adults, and we want to be together...
Q. In October of 2005, I visited my parents' hometown to see relatives I haven't seen in several years. I met a cousin who I never knew before. He's actually the son of one of my first cousins, so that would make him my first cousin, once removed (kind ...
A. 18 January 2006: Well the Roosevelts were cousins. You may or may not upset some family members but your happiness hangs in the balance. I say you two should go for it. However you may want to speak with a specialist before you decide to have a baby since the gene ... (read in full...)
She is with someone else but should I take her back?
Q. I was in a beautiful lesbian relationship (or so I thought so), then about a month ago she broke up with me. She is bipolar and currently not taking her meds. She says that she was unhappy for the past three months but i know that it is because we ...
A. 18 January 2006: Doesn't sound like she wants back. If the other relationship doesn't work and she wants to start up with you then it's a decision only you can make. I suggest you keep moving on with your life, however.... (read in full...)
Is my wife seeing someone else, and just using me as a "fix it man" when she needs something done?
Q. My wife and I separated 3 months ago and I think she is seeing someone else but am not sure. When I asked her about it she said they were mostly friends. I know she has known him for a long time because they work together. I still love her and ...
A. 18 January 2006: I don't see a problem here. You are separated, are you planning to divorce? Once you are divorced you don't have to fix anything if you don't want to and that goes for giving her money as well. Of course the daughter must be al taken care of always. ... (read in full...)
We can't be together because of his insecurities...so who will want to be with me if I'm successful?
Q. I'm a successful 26yr-old who's actually done really well in school/career stuff. Everyone tells me I'm very smart, and I have good marks to show for it, and I'm happy about that. I always figured I was lucky to have been born with some great ...
A. 17 January 2006: Those little lines on your face are the cracks in your character showing through. Sounds like it's all about you 24/7. Love is a two way street and you appear to be a road hog. Next time you find someone try to focus in on them and their dreams as ... (read in full...)
No money and another baby on the way! I just don't have the money to do things to feel good about myself!
Q. I have this problem that is really affecting me now. I just don't feel that I am good enough for the bloke that im with. We have just got back together after breaking up and now I just don't feel good enough. He says that I'm just being silly an...
A. 17 January 2006: Sounds like the baby blues to me. They will pass. As a mother of three I certainly have been there. Try to keep your weight under control during your pregnancy and once you have the baby start the situps and floor exercises, they cost nothing and do ... (read in full...)
Things are great, except... he "forgot me on NYE, and he'd rather sleep than have sex!
Q. I have been with this guy for about 3 1/2 months now. We get along great but strange little things have been happening. We didn't spend any time together New Years eve because he "forgot" to call. He says he isn't seeing anyone else and that he ...
A. 17 January 2006: This guy would be better off getting a poodle than having a girlfriend. You need to decide whether he's going to be worth all the work to get him more interested. Tell him how you feel and what you want. If you don't get it, move one.... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out??
Q. Hi, help me please. I really fancy this girl in school and we are both in our last year. I think this girl knows i fancy her and I want to ask her out but i no she likes another boy. People still say i have a good chance with going out with her and ...
A. 17 January 2006: Go for it or you'll always wonder "What if".... (read in full...)
I have sexual feelings for my twin sister...
Q. Somebody please help me. I don't know if it's normal but i have started to have sexual feelings for my twin sister. My bedroom is being re-painted and i have been sleeping in her bedroom, i can't stop staring at her when she is asleep. She is really ...
A. 17 January 2006: You need therapy like yesterday. Find a good one and see them frequently. And as far as telling your sister, best put a cork in it.... (read in full...)
I am having sex with the new CEO of my company...and loving it! But I'm married, and I think my husband has caught on...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 45 y/o white married female. Six months ago my company hired a new CFO who is African American. After one month of working with him we have some type of sex almost every day. I love it from him and can not get enough of IT from ...
A. 17 January 2006: Calm down Mr. Ed! Just chalk it up as another slut letter.... (read in full...)
He always cheats so I left him. Am I right to leave or are his relationships acceptable? Am I insecure?
Q. 2½yrs ago I found e mails between my husband and a female friend declaring their love etc. Also lots of calls in the middle of the night to his cell phone. He denied any sexual relationship and said it was a silly fantasy world he was in at the ...
A. 13 January 2006: You did the right thing. You won't regret it.... (read in full...)
His ex gf stays at his place off and on! How should I deal with this?
Q. I am an intelligent 27 year old (never married) female. I've been spending a lot of time with a man (31, never married, has a 7 year old daughter) lately. He has been wonderful. Last night he told me that one reason we haven't gone to his house (in ...
A. 13 January 2006: I don't know about this, it sounds kinda fishy to me. I'd tread very softly with this guy until you can verify that he truly is being honest with you. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why do I hate my boyfriend's ex and kids? He doesn't even see them any more!
Q. My long-term boyfriend was married with 3 kids before he met me. When he met me, he left his wife and kids for me, because he was unhappy with her, and knew straight away that I was his soulmate. This was 19 months ago... The thing is, I feel...
A. 13 January 2006: You are a psycho home-wrecker who badly needs medication and a straight jacket and that's just for starters.... (read in full...)
So I get friendly texts from a few women friends... I can't understand why my wife makes a big deal of it!
Q. My wife and I just separated and I can't make sense of it. We had the best relationship but a couple of years ago I got close (not sexual) with someone else, mainly lots of sexy texts/e mails and a couple of dates- when my wife was pregnant and ...
A. 13 January 2006: "Is there a way we can save our marriage without me giving up my friends?" No, and you are a jerk for asking. I wish your wife the best of lawyers and the best of luck. ... (read in full...)
If a husband has cheats more then once, will he do it again?
Q. Dear cupid,if a husband has cheated on me more then once, will he do it again?...
A. 13 January 2006: Most likely.... (read in full...)
He calls me fat, then I hit him... And now I have my eyes on the scaffolding guy. What should I do?
Q. hello im 22 and ive beeen with my boyfreind james for 4 years we have a lil boy together but he calles me fat and i nasty to me then i lose my temper and hit him.recently ive anouther lad called jason who i really like and he asked me for my number ...
A. 13 January 2006: Do you have a spell checker on the that computer?... (read in full...)
My mom treats me like a naughty schoolgirl... And I'm 21! And not naughty (usually).
Q. Help! My mom won't talk to me anymore. She hasn't spoken to me in nearly a week. She is angry because I am 21 years old and I'm tired of being treated like I'm 13, so I told her what I thought about her practically oppressive parenting style....
A. 13 January 2006: The last time you wrote us we told you the same thing...get your own place. If you can't afford it on your own get some friends to move in with you. Nothing is going to change as long as you live in your parent's house, it's that simple. Get moving.... (read in full...)
Don't know what to do for the best... My ex has "social" issues
Q. I have recently seperated from a 12 year marriage and my X is in the police force. He is still coming around on his days off and we have been trying to sort things out as I know how much he loves me. My delemia is that even though I still love him ...
A. 13 January 2006: See what comes out of the counseling but don't feel pressured to stay with him if things aren't changed. You can't let yourself be in a marriage that doesn’t allow you to live in the manner you want. Being such an outgoing personality, you will be ... (read in full...)
Is oral sex intercourse? Did my buddy lose her virginity?
Q. Why is oral sex considered inter course? This is a question my friend asked me after she had given a guy a Blow job. But isn't this kind of the breakipoint between fooling around and sex? I wanted to tell her,"Hun, I think you just lost your ...
A. 13 January 2006: For the record, obliviously oral sex is sex not just a "breaking point", hence the name, duh. But more to the point, you sound like a Nosey Nancy to me. Your friend’s sex life should be no concern of yours. Tell your friend about this column if she ... (read in full...)
We decided to just be friends... But now he is ignoring me. What does it mean?
Q. I recently came out a relationship with a guy, as we couldn't be together as he had a girlfriend. He always said he wanted to be friends and it was great for a while. Now we find it difficult to make conversation on his part and when we went out ...
A. 13 January 2006: He may be one of YOUR best friends but it doesn't appear to be visa versa. I suggest you just move on with your life and let him do the same. Good luck!... (read in full...)
We broke up a year ago. Now I found out he is in a new relationship and it has killed me... Why!?
Q. Well me and my ex went out for about 4 months. It's been a year since our breakup. In that year, I was totally over him...Until now. All of the sudden, I like him all over again. I found out that he's in a relationship and it kills me. It's been a ...
A. 13 January 2006: Humm...let's see...you went out for only 4 months and have been broken up for a whole year and now it's killing you that he has found someone else. Well I suggest you best start getting on with your life. Find a hobby, get a therapist, take a class, ... (read in full...)
I love a married woman...
Q. "am in love with a married woman and she show me that she also loves me what can l do to bring her more close to me ??...
A. 13 January 2006: Nothing, leave her alone.... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that my girlfriend had sex with a real sleaze before me. How do I get past this?
Q. This is really hard for me to talk about because I’d rather not even think about it. But I need to know how to cope with this, for the most part I’m over it but it always keeps coming back to play on my mind. My current girlfriend, whom I love dea...
A. 12 January 2006: What is past is past and there is nothing you can do about it so you just have to move forward and let it go. Everyone has something in their past they wish they hadn't done or said. If you dwell on this you may end up losing the love of your life ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and my parents don't want me to leave and live my own life! I want out of here...help!
Q. Howdy, need some advice, I'm too nice for my own good, I cant say no, I do everything I'm told, my mother is way too emotionally dependant on me, and when I want freedom to go out and travel to another country I cant because they wont let me go, i'm ...
A. 12 January 2006: I'm afraid you are going to have to cut the apron strings since your mom won't. Some women have difficult time with the empty nest syndrome but it is part of life and she'll get over it sooner or later. Be firm but loving and get the heck out of ... (read in full...)
How can I come to terms with the fact that I am 'not' my husband's type?
Q. How do I come to accept that I am not my husbands 'type' and that he married me mostly for personality and connection. Although I know he loves me Im having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that the type of women he finds attractive are ...
A. 7 January 2006: Has your husband said to you that you weren't his type or have you just decided it on your own? Sounds like you are just feeling a little low in the self esteem department at the moment. Buck up sweetie he married you because he wanted to be with ... (read in full...)
I'm going to list a dozen reasons I believe my partner is cheating... But is he?
Q. He says he loves me and never cheated on me. He gets upset when I ask, says I'm accusing. Yet we haven't made love for over a month. Has women friend and text messages them 15 and over times a day. Leaves late and says he has alot of work to do ...
A. 7 January 2006: You shouldn't waste any more time worrying about whether or not he is cheating...he sounds like a jerk anyway. Dump his sorry ass and start looking for a decent guy you can actually enjoy being around. Life is to short to waste on losers.... (read in full...)
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