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... Send *ichele21 a private message | | | *ichele21's profile:im 21yrs old bisexual female going through life is tuff at times but im strong and always seem to keep my head up but im a deep thinker ive grown up very fast and learned a lot about life so far and have much much more to learn in the future many more heartaches and stress im sure just not looking forward to it right now.....im a passive person i don't read into much of anything i just take it day by day min by min life is too short at times i do plan certain things in my life i mean you have too of course but anything else i just like sit back and enjoy my time on this earth...i love giving my advice to others as well as taking others advice it makes you feel good to know your not the only one out there with issues and concerns about loved ones or life in general you can always learn something from someone if you just lisen every once in a while if you don't like the advice let it go in one ear and out the other no harm done.....well think thats enough rambling about me for now if you took the time to read this i do appreciate it.... |
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How can I pursue things emotionally and sexually with her without losing it? I love this woman to bits!
Q. I've known this one amazing, beautiful, funny, intelligent woman for four years now and have never been able to stop thinking about her. We actually dated for four months back when we first met at the end of sophomore year but the timing and other ...
A. 21 April 2009: you know from everything you have expressed you seem like the perfect guy...u already have it all figured out you don't need advice...just give her time she was physically and mentally abused and its going to be hard for her at first but time heals ... (read in full...)
Will I get charged for taking hotel towels if I send them back?
Q. Hi there, I have just come back from holiday and have realised i have packed 2 of the hotels towels. do you think they will charge for this? if so do you think they waver this charge if i get in contact with them and post them back?...
A. 6 April 2009: well i work at a hotel and believe they will not charge you everyone takes things from hotels its like a ritual ya know...lol....so don't worry about it at all ... (read in full...)
When will I start?
Q. Well, Im 13 soon to be 14. Mainly for girls to answer, but I haven't gotten my period yet and im worried that theres a reason for it. Is there? Or does it just come slower for some people?...
A. 5 April 2009: yeah its no big thing some girls just mature faster than others i didn't start mine untill i was 16yrs old believe me its a good thing because once you get it you will wish you never did...lol no need to worry... (read in full...)
Am I completely hopeless?
Q. Dear fellow readers, I'm 24 years old and am well aware that at my age I should be confident in my youth to find dates but adult enough to have relationships. Well, I haven't had a serious relationship for over 4 years, and that wasn't such a si...
A. 8 March 2009: yeah if its causing you that much pain to where you need to tell them to stop i would suggest seeing a doctor as well.....have many time have you had sex? have they all been big guys?? i mean thats more and likely uncommon but you never know....i ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid g/f might be pregnant but don't want to scare her
Q. I'm worried that my girlfriend of 13 months could be pregnant. We haven't actually had sex but she is two weeks late for her period and we have done everything apart from sex. We are very careful and try and keep any come away from her, but I am ...
A. 8 March 2009: yeah pretty much when sperm his air its dead so you really don't have to worry about it if you havent had sex and if you do just be careful and use protection... (read in full...)
Is it true that if you are not sure if you want to be with someone it means you don't?
Q. Is it true that if you are not sure if you want to be with someone it means you dont? I am with my current boyfriend and although we get on very well, I am not sure he is the one that I want to settle with. Could these doubts mean that he is not ...
A. 25 February 2009: yes you would be sure if he was....everyone always asks how do you know he is the one for you how can you tell...believe me i asked myself that all the freaking time.....well untill i actually found the ONE for me and believe me you will just ... (read in full...)
Insecure when GF doesn't show me attention. Change or breakup?
Q. I am in a relationship where I feel my girlfriend has all the control. She is 21, and I am 24, we have been dating for 2 months. I feel like I love her, but its hard to be happy when I realize that I am soo needy in this relationship. My last ...
A. 25 February 2009: ok so she is a amazing girl and you "think" you love her but deep down you don't think its going to work...well i say if your having those feelings its probably not going to work...what you need to do is just sit her down and actaully tell her why ... (read in full...)
I really think I'm in love with him... but he has a girl...
Q. Hey, well I'm in LOVE with someone who has a girl. He's taken, but he never looks happy around her and I always notice him looking at me, I try to stay away and I do, but whenever I turn, his eyes are on me. When I found out that he had a girlfriend ...
A. 22 February 2009: it is a possibility you do love him but only you can know that for sure....how well do you know him?? if you ever could get him alone or slip him your number somehow i would do it what do you have to loose... i mean if he seems unhappy and he always ... (read in full...)
Should I stop weeping & be a man?
Q. dear users and thanks in advance, i've been with this wonderful lady for nearly 14months. we are both 20 and at university in the same course. we have a non-platonic relationship i.e. a sexual affectionate relationship however we do not consider ...
A. 8 February 2009: well you said in the beginning you werent together together not boyfriend and girlfriend you just kinda had a "Thing" whatever that means.....so technically she couldn't have cheated beause she wasn't completely yours right?? i mean i think if you ... (read in full...)
Men's biggest turn on that women don't know about
Q. Hi guys its blue kev from girls ask guys. Guys we all know about the kind of woman we dream about and the kind of woman we meet in real life. How many times have we dreamed of a girl saying three simple words. I Like you. And she kinda floats like ...
A. 8 February 2009: well thats really intresting to know...i was lisening to the radio the other day and it was saying how the number one turn off for a guy is when a gurl is too clingy...im the type of girl if i want something i go after it im upfront and honest ... (read in full...)
No affection this week
Q. so me and my man are going through a hard time right now. i am thinking about ending it with him, but i really truly want to contuine 'us', but aparently this week wasnt are week. he was sick, so maybe that has to do with it, but in the whole we...
A. 7 February 2009: more and likely i would say no....hes going to the marines your never going to see him and if hes acting like that now he seems to be ashamed of you because of how young you are anyhoo good luck... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 5 February 2009: yeah thats so exciting this site is awesome and has givin me good advice and i've learned a lot from others posts great stuff... (read in full...)
I like him but while drunk I kissed his friend
Q. Few months ago I realized that I have crush on my schoolmate. I've known him for about 3-4 years and this year is the last year before we go to the university. He has always seemed a bit attractive for me and I suspected he likes me too, but I ha...
A. 11 January 2009: Can you get drunk in bars there at 18?? Just curious... but I think you should just come out and tell him you like him, it sounds like he's trying to play hard to get with you like he likes you but tries to be mean with you because that's his way ... (read in full...)
How to chose between 2 guys
Q. i have been dating guy 1 for over a week and i do love him and i do want to marry him. but then again my heart belongs to guy 2. i have known guy 2 for 9 years and he is my best friend and someone who knows me best. i am so confused and lost for ...
A. 11 January 2009: well considering you only been dating guy 1 for a week how can you love him or really know him for the fact?? i think you should go with guy 2 you have known him for 9yrs so you know everything there is to know about him his in and outs and if you ... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm now!
Q. Okay this is rather weird to me. I have been helping myself, sexually, since the age of 12. I have always liked it and i still do enjoy it, although its becoming a bit of a problem to me. I was still a virgin when i was 17 i slept with my ex ...
A. 11 January 2009: its very normal to be like that when i first started having sex with guys i never would orgasm i mean i slept with probably about 4 people and i could never ever cum than i met this guy that was about 12yrs older and i just orgasmed like it was the ... (read in full...)
I want to get to know him better...
Q. November time me and a guy started talking and in about 3 weeks he invited me over... I went over and we ended up sleeping together this really made it awkward for us both but we are still getting on ok still talking and all that he just seems not ...
A. 11 January 2009: I agree with LOU, if he doesn't want to talk as much as he used to then that's what it was about... sex. Just one last fling I guess before he moved which is rather pathetic if you ask me but that's a man for you, they will try to do anything to ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to approach this in a way that's not embarrassing if he doesn't reciprocate my feelings?
Q. I've liked this boy from afar for about 15 months now, and haven't really spoken to him one on one. Last night, I was out at a club and we ended up speaking and spent most of the night kissing. I think it was just a few drunken kisses (we both kis...
A. 11 January 2009: Well did you get his number??? I would just say you know last night was fun we were both drunk.... I actually have had feeling for you for sometime wanted to know if you wanted to go out sometime more exclusive?? You have to be just upfront and ... (read in full...)
Am I sell out because I like white men?
Q. Well for the past 10 years now since I was 14 yrs old, I add an attraction to White guys. Something about them turns me on so bad. I can count on one hand and 1/2 of all the Black and Latino men that I've dated. My friends and family think I'm...
A. 11 January 2009: Well I'm a lesbian and I'm white and I'm with a black female, I don't think color has anything to do with anything, I love her very much. Of course my mom was a little skeptical about the whole thing but once she got to know my girlfriend and saw ... (read in full...)
His penis keeps slipping out... how can we improve on this?
Q. I have wrote this anonymous but I was wondering if anyone had any ideas what I could do. I have slept with 2 people in my life and the first person I have only slept with a few times and that was who I lost my virginity to but my boyfriend now, I ...
A. 4 January 2009: well maybe he is not getting hard enough to actually stay inside that happens to me normally when a guy gets soft the penis doesn't want to stay inside of me its very frustrating its nothing that you are doing more of what can you do to improve to ... (read in full...)
Best reputable websites to meet other gays?
Q. Hi Guys Sorry if this sounds stupid and long but recently I came out as a lesbian after my girlfriend dumped me. I'm okay about the break up what's confusing is that I want to start dating again but I don’t do the whole gay scene. I've been try...
A. 4 January 2009: dont know any gay websites but what state do you live in or town go to the gay clubs in your area lesbians will always come and talk to you....im a lesbian so i know what you mean its hard to meet others of our "type" is so hard im a fem. so no one ... (read in full...)
She always gets a nasty feeling after an orgasm
Q. So my girlfriend an I have been along the lines of 2nd base for a bit (touching below and above waist) I have made her orgasm by fingering several times, she has tried to jack me off but we're getting to that. That's not my question though, when I ...
A. 4 January 2009: Well actually I'm the same way after I orgasm, I just like to lay there for like 2 or 3 mins and recollect my thoughts but I get grossed out becuase of all the cum and wetness, I just like to wipe it off and go at it again, no foreplay though or try ... (read in full...)
What do women mean when the say "It's not the length, it's how you use it"?
Q. I'm not trying to offend any women,but when you say "It's not the size of his tool,it's how he uses it that matters" what do you mean? I also have heard that being able to perform oral well is also good,what's the best way or a good technique. ...
A. 4 January 2009: well that means if you have a under the average size penis its all about the motions the positions that you do it in its kinda like practice makes perfect nothing you can really teach you just gotta do trial and error babe.....oral sex well im a ... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife be impregnated by my best friend?
Q. I'm totally in love with my girlfriend for about 5 years! I love her and I always have all these years! She is a really sexy girl! very fair skin and blue eyes! However, she is a very sexual driven girl but yet very conservative. She wants to have a ...
A. 4 January 2009: umm i would say where did you come from?? you let her walk around naked in front of your friend geezzz i mean what kinda guy does that and what gurl would disrespect her self in that manner....i wouldn't do it i don't think i could let someone i ... (read in full...)
Possibly pregnant from affair
Q. where do i begin...ok im 22yrs old and i have a girlfriend i've been with off and on for 3yrs now whom i love with all my heart she is my sunshine she does anything in the world for me...meanwhile we went out one night and she is a big people person ...
A. 4 January 2009: what would be another way to go besides the invitro way??? she hasn't trusted me for at least a year and its put a major struggle on our realtionship expecially on my end becuase im the big screw up and she just stays around but questions my every ... (read in full...)
He checks out other girls and I try to be cool but it bothers me
Q. This is really typical and stupid, but it's causing me pain and I was wondering if anyone could help me. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. Before that, we were really good friends for about a year. Well a few weeks before he asked me out, he ...
A. 4 January 2009: ok your 120lbs thats skinny to me sweety depending on your height as well im sure if he is with you he must love something about you you are too young to be worried about stupid stuff like that you have lots of growing up to do.....im 5'7 135lbs ... (read in full...)
She was raped & sometimes I'm not sure how to help her!
Q. Here it is My girlfriend and I have been friends for 5 years.. we dated for a while and sometime in march of 2008 we parted ways due to the distance and some mistakes I made and are currently dating again soon to be engaged... thinking the sin...
A. 4 January 2009: well she needs your support and your love right now...you seem to be the only one on her side trying to help her through this hard time in her life...just be there for her anyway you can its going to be hard and tuff but you have 5yrs behind you ... (read in full...)
How's it feel to have sex with same gender
Q. hmmmmm how does it feel to have sex with the same gender....?...
A. 28 December 2008: well it depends....im a female and have been with my girlfriend for 3years you have to have the attraction and that sexual vibe to wanna be with a woman in order for it to feel good or else you going to feel very awkard while doing it....pretty much ... (read in full...)
My bestfriend became my lover and now he ignores me!
Q. I have known this guy for years and over the summer we became great friends, then we became more than great friends and he became ever so lovy dovy and often said that he loved me. But recently he has become distant, he never says that he loves me ...
A. 30 November 2008: well you are in a weird situation....if you have talked about it and he says it has nothing to do with you guys than maybe it doesn't but it seems kinda odd that all of a sudden he would stop doing all the things that he use to...if he really loves ... (read in full...)
Where do I start with finding a girlfriend?
Q. i haven't been with a women for about 5 years and want to get back in the dating scene. with my ex-girlfriends, i met them through friends. but how do i find a female these days without going to find them in nightclubs? for me, it's hard to find a ...
A. 27 November 2008: hey well i don't know where you live but there is always gay clubs somewhere you just have to go find them theres more than you probably think...im a lesbian too its very hard and im girly so no one ever knows that i am that way and when i tell ... (read in full...)
Are condoms still necessary even if I'm on birth control pills?
Q. I was just wondering if I was on birth control should my boyfriend still need to wear a comdon so we don't get pregnant? Thanks for all the help....
A. 18 November 2008: yes i know lots of ppl say they are on birth control and they still get pregnant so yes you need to still wear a condom unless you plan to have a baby........ (read in full...)
Does she truly love me or is she just obsessed?
Q. I've been in a relationship with this girl for 2 years now. It is long distance, we dont see each other as often as we would like but we still have managed to stay together this long. Don't get me wrong we break up a lot because I believe it is the ...
A. 18 November 2008: Oh I can make perfect sense of this, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years, she is extremley jealous. She has hit me before and we fight all the time she goes through my phone, won't let me text anyone if I do it in front of her she asks me 50 ... (read in full...)
He NEVER has his cell phone out of his hands and I'm getting fed up with it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for about 1.5 years, and things were very rocky in the beginning. He is always texting on his phone. He becomes very annoyed if I always ask him who is talking to. It started off when I learned he was getting n...
A. 16 November 2008: Well have you had trust issues with him before?? if so you have a bit of a right he is your man and what can he possiable talk to these girls about all evening long...im a lesbian and my girlfriend is the same way we been togther 3yrs but we have ... (read in full...)
He's going to jail for 3 months. Should I wait for him???
Q. Hey! Me and my boyfriend have been together for a month now and we care about each other a lot. But he is going to go to jail for about 3 months and he wants me to wait for him. I want to wait for him but I'm afraid I might get over him just lik...
A. 16 November 2008: well how old is this boy?? why is he going to jail?? well your profile age says 13-15 so i think your too young to even know what you want right now you don't need to go down the path of hanging with these losers sweety once they go to jail once ... (read in full...)
Girls, what are some questions you'd want to be asked by a guy that would make you feel good?
Q. Hello. I like this girl, blah blah blah, you've heard it before. I'm hanging out w/her as much as I can without seeming too clingy, but the problem is, is that most of our time is silent. Girls, what are some questions you'd want to be asked by a ...
A. 16 November 2008: Just ask her what does she do when shes home alone?? or when she gets home from school. does she like to read?? she more of a mommys girl or daddys girl?? does she wanna go to college?? where does she see her self in 5 years.... I'm sure you can ... (read in full...)
In love but lost in love... does this make any sense to anyone?
Q. I wrote about 3 weeks ago about this girl after 5years she wants to be with me we were high school lovers but becuase of our age and doing what my friends thought i should i lisen to everyone else and not my heart what i truley felt inside and i ...
A. 13 November 2008: well funny thing i after i wrote this question i got a phone call from the high school old girlfriend i wanna be with that her girlfriend checked her voicemail and there was one i left on there about how i missed her and wanted to see her and ... (read in full...)
Is my friend considered a slut?
Q. My friend just turned 18, had a party and made out with 3 people that night. Yes she was a little drunk but she was fully aware of what she was doing. She's still a virgin but isn't that slutty?...
A. 7 November 2008: yeah i don't think its considered slutty making out when drunk it does happen i don't think with 3 different people in the same night is cool but they are at least she didn't sleep with all of them because that would be a totally different ... (read in full...)
My first true love after 5 years wants me back... but what to do, I'm soooo confused.
Q. Ok im 21 i've wrote to this a couple of times for a couple different reasons you might reconize my name.....anyways i have a new delima..the first girl i was ever with in high school when i was 15 the one i experimented on...i haven't spoke to in 5 ...
A. 7 November 2008: oh and meanwhile the ex she is unhappy with her girl right now that she is with so maybe im a scape goat for her to leave and start over new something different not to mention i live over 3,000 miles away from her so she would completly have to ... (read in full...)
How can I let him know where I stand without scaring him off?
Q. Please advise me on what to do - I met this guy a couple of weeks ago who told me that he really liked me. I completely believed him and like him too so one night while drunk I slept with him way quicker than I normally would. Since then this ...
A. 7 November 2008: well have you heard the saying honesty is the best policy?? thats all you need to do just be up front with him let him know where you stand if he feels the same then its all good if not than the worst you could be is just friends....you seem to be ... (read in full...)
Did his sister spill my secret?
Q. ok i have this guy friend and we have been friends 4 three years. one night i get a text from his sister asking if i would ever go out with him and i trusted her not to tell him. i dont know if she did so i missed school that day but when i got back ...
A. 7 November 2008: well if he is hanging out with you more than he use too i would say that he knows that you like him and apparently he likes you too or he wouldn't try to be hanging around you so much.... i would just ask him if he did like you or not and then let ... (read in full...)
Do I go after girls my own age or girls the same age as I look?
Q. I'm 24 years old but I look like I'm 15. Never had a serious relationship. My question is, who am I supposed to be targeting as a potential partner here? Girls my own age aren't interested because I look like a kid. Girls who are my age but ...
A. 7 November 2008: Well yeah as you said don't go after gurls who look your age if you look that young you would be a perve.....i would like go to a bar so that way they know your of age at least and you could conversate and at least get friends out of it if ... (read in full...)
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