I'm dieting but have started to get spots
Q. Hi! I'm having some health issues - I'm in the process of losing weight and I've noticed I have started to develop spots, more white head zit type things on my body. Is this in any relation to the weight loss? It started I had one on my chest near ...
A. 16 August 2011: There's only one sensible answer to this - make an appointment to see your GP and get a professional opinion.... (read in full...)
Should I trust my instincts? If so, how do I tell him I like him as more than a friend?
Q. This is a short one. I have fallen head over heels for a good (male) friend... and I am not sure if he feels the same. I am not going to painstakingly discuss situations we have been in as dissecting our interactions drives me nuts and never helps! ...
A. 16 August 2011: Trust your instincts.
You could say something like "Well dude, we've been good mates for a long time now and the longer we've been mates the more I like you. In fact, I fancy the arse off you and I'd like to be more than just a mate. If you don'... (read in full...)
How can I get him to climax faster?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much and dont want to offend him but he takes a very long time to reach orgasm... can anyone give me advice on making him climaz quicker? thanks ...
A. 15 August 2011: Aunt So Very Confused has hit the nail on the head I think.
Have you ever felt so tired that you're about to fall asleep on your feet, but you force yourself to stay awake and the next thing you know you're wide awake and can't sleep?
That's ... (read in full...)
Am I living in fantasy land and he's in reality?
Q. I am in a very difficult situation and the stress is taking its toll on me! Ive been with my boyfriend 9 months and I would say up to 5 months things were great. I have a 7 yr old and he has a 3yr old boy who get on great together. The thing is im ...
A. 15 August 2011: You'd better believe that if he's said he doesn't want any more children he really doesn't want any more. I wouldn't say you're living in fantasyland exactly but it's obvious to me that he doesn't want the things you want - at least, not yet ... (read in full...)
It started as a joke but things have changed
Q. Hi guys. so I have a problem and really need advice because its eating me up completely! so im 21 and im a student. and me and a friend were on an online dating website about a week ago just looking and we decided to make me a profile. I gave a f...
A. 15 August 2011: There's a very good chance that he isn't being totally truthful about his details either.
Just tell him the truth, it's not going to make much difference to any possible outcome is it?... (read in full...)
My bf wants to do oral on me, but I am afraid it will be too salty for him down there. What can I do?
Q. how do i explain this. my boyfriend wants to do oral on me soon, but i have only recently found out that the juices my vagina makes are salty (i had to taste it). im scared and i know it will put him off! i only got a matter of a couple of days ...
A. 14 August 2011: If you don't have an infection and you wash frequently, what you're left with is your natural aroma / taste. It may not seem all that pleasant to you, but believe me, it will smell and taste like the nectar of the gods to him.
Stop worrying... (read in full...)
Is there a time limit for how long I can keep a sugar Daddy interested?
Q. I turned 29 a fortnight ago. I will be 30 next year at this time. Throughout my 20s I have had several sugar daddies, older men who supported me financially whilst I was pursuing my musical aspirations. They've been good chaps over all, tho of cour...
A. 14 August 2011: I'm quite sure that from the sugar daddy's point of view there's no time limit - just as long as you remain 29 years of age and don't go beyond 30!... (read in full...)
I believed him when he said they were just friends...but now I don't know what to think!
Q. Rite so my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, he has an iphone 4 and I was just having a nosey through it because he doesn't care if I look at it or not. However the past while, he has changed his password and hasn't told me it, but I ...
A. 14 August 2011: Trust your instincts. I'd say that what you imagine to be happening is actually happening and he's not being altogether truthful - but then, he *would* deny it wouldn't he?... (read in full...)
I really don't want to be with somebody who treats me like this but am shocked and numb!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are 35. When we dont agree on things I prefer to agree to differ but he gets verbally abusive and swears and calls me a f*ing idiot. I find that so offensive. None of his family swear. He gets angry when he dr...
A. 14 August 2011: I think he's the one who is a f*ing idiot, treating you like this. You may be numb and in shock, but if this is the way he behaves I think you're better off without him. Thank the lord you've got your own place to go to. There are better men... (read in full...)
I missed a payment, I'm in tears I'm so worried.
Q. im very worried as im in an iva which ive been paying 3 years and in july missed a payment because my sisters had extreme cancer and her work stopped her pay so i helped her out. i didnt know what else to do but now the iva place has emailed me ...
A. 13 August 2011: Further to my last reply the following website gives current rates:
http://msangusbranch.co.uk/benefit_rates_poster_2011_2012.pdf... (read in full...)
I missed a payment, I'm in tears I'm so worried.
Q. im very worried as im in an iva which ive been paying 3 years and in july missed a payment because my sisters had extreme cancer and her work stopped her pay so i helped her out. i didnt know what else to do but now the iva place has emailed me ...
A. 13 August 2011: I doubt any of the previous answerers know what an IVA is, but don't worry - it's not a hanging offence. Whatever you do don't seek the 'help' offered by all those adverts about debt management, which will cost you a fortune for no actual ... (read in full...)
Do guys mean it if they say they love you back?
Q. If you tell a guy you love him amd he says back' I love you too' does he mean it? or do some guys just say it for the sake of it? I told my BF this, and he said he loves me to, but I;m not sure how to take it. Do I take it he means it? or else he ...
A. 12 August 2011: In answer to your question, he could well be losing interest in you - but only because of the reasons I've already stated!... (read in full...)
My gf is really not reassuring me!
Q. My girlfriend is not reassuring me! She deletes stuff from her phone, deletes messages. When asked why, she tells me because she doesn't want me to know, or she doesn't want me to overreact. But... she does not seem to be doing an effort to reassure ...
A. 12 August 2011: I don't think she's making you jealous - not intentionally anyway - you're making yourself jealous by imagining all sorts of situations that she *might* be in, all in your head.
I have no idea what messages are in my partners' phone and I have no ... (read in full...)
Do guys mean it if they say they love you back?
Q. If you tell a guy you love him amd he says back' I love you too' does he mean it? or do some guys just say it for the sake of it? I told my BF this, and he said he loves me to, but I;m not sure how to take it. Do I take it he means it? or else he ...
A. 12 August 2011: I get the feeling he's feeling smothered and backed into a corner. He wants some space and you're trying not to let him have any. He probably looks at his phone and thinks 'Jesus, not her again'.
Let him have his space and some time with his... (read in full...)
Why did he list me as a sibling on facebook? We aren't related
Q. If someone adds you as sibling on Facebook (and you are the only person they’ve listed,) what would you read into this? The guy I like just randomly listed me as his "brother" on Facebook today without saying anything to me. We are close friends ...
A. 12 August 2011: Am I right in thinking that if your gender on facebook is listed as male, you automatically can't be listed as anything female?
Technology baffles me sometimes.... (read in full...)
Should I have kicked out my boyfriend for yelling at my son?
Q. Should I have kicked my boyfriend out for shouting at my son? I'm torn by what's recently happened and don't know whether to defend my son and throw my boyfriend out or dissipline my son? He's 6 years old and a bit boystrous at times. Yesterday...
A. 12 August 2011: Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, and your son needs to know what the difference is between right and wrong. Too bad if he does wrong and cries when he's told off. If I had been in your fella's shoes I would probably have given the boy a ... (read in full...)
We cant go anywhere because he used to go to these places with his ex!
Q. My bf and I live in a small town, so there is only one cinema, one shopping cnetre etc. Now his ex also lives in the same small town (whereas I am from another city). Because him and his ex used to go to the cinema, shopping centre, coffee s...
A. 12 August 2011: It could be that he's using this as an excuse for something else. Have you considered that he may suffer from agoraphobia or some other phobia about being around other people?... (read in full...)
Do guys mean it if they say they love you back?
Q. If you tell a guy you love him amd he says back' I love you too' does he mean it? or do some guys just say it for the sake of it? I told my BF this, and he said he loves me to, but I;m not sure how to take it. Do I take it he means it? or else he ...
A. 12 August 2011: You can't possibly get a yes or no answer to this question that applies to everyone. Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't, maybe he likes you a lot or a little, not a lot or not at all.
Speaking for myself, if you told me that you loved me but I di... (read in full...)
Why has he gone off sex completely?
Q. Hi, I really dont know where to start, and I know there are so many simular questions posted on here, but if someone has the time to answer I would be very gratefull. I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years, we are planning to get married s...
A. 3 August 2011: There may be many reasons, or causes, depending upon how you perceive the problem. Stress is certainly one of them; if so it's a matter of finding out what's causing stress and alleviating it if possible.
Performance anxiety maybe? He could be... (read in full...)
Baby dreams at the age of 16?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and i really want a baby I'm an honour student and I'm responsible.I have thought about this so many times before, about how am i going to work with school. My friends say that I would make a great mother because I'm caring and sweet ...
A. 1 August 2011: You say you've been saving for a great few years. Trust me - you haven't even LIVED for a great few years yet!
Bad idea. Very bad. You and your baby would be yet another burden on the poor hard-pressed taxpayer who would have to fund you by w... (read in full...)
Why does he pin my legs down to the bed, during sex?
Q. Hello Just a quick question really so thatnks for reading Ive just started sleeping with a new guy everything is going good and sex life is fab, but my one question is during sex he holds my leg down like he pining it to the bed when hes i...
A. 31 July 2011: Exactly how does he pin your leg down? Just the one leg?... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you ever approach an average looking girl?
Q. I am wondering if there is anything that an average looking girl could do to grab a guys attention? Is there a (non-slutty) way she could dress? A specific perfume? Any behavior? Something she could say? Have you ever developed an attraction fo...
A. 29 July 2011: In my experience all women are average looking first thing in the morning before the hair is sorted out and the make-up applied. True beauty comes from within and is visible to most males above the age of 30 once their hormones have died down.
... (read in full...)
Do emo boys go for non-emo girls?
Q. I'm not emo and find some emo boys attractive. Do you think straight emo guys would go for a non-emo girl?...
A. 27 July 2011: I'd say it would be doomed to failure if you're an upfront kinda gal.
Emo's are an entire subculture of people (usually angsty teens) with a fake personality. The concept of Emo is actually a vicious cycle that never ends, to the utter failing ... (read in full...)
Should I be specific and let him know that I'm looking to finish what we started the other night, sexually?
Q. Went out with a guy twice (but kind of knew him through mutual friends before that). First time, he was a perfect gentleman and only hugged me at end of night. A few days later, he invited me impromptu to hang out at his house w/a few guy friends ...
A. 27 July 2011: He calls you from a bar at 1am and you go running? Something funny about that for a start! I'd call that most inconsiderate of him, waking you at that ungodly hour and if I were you I would have told him to call at a more reasonable time. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Should I stop watching porn?
Q. Can anyone tell me of any reasons that they can think of as to why I shouldn't watch porn? I watch it every couple of weeks, or so - just when I'm in the mood to. But then I feel sort of guilty, like I shouldn't be watching it. Do you think I should ...
A. 27 July 2011: Some people get off by watching The Sound of Music whilst others get off by watching Debbie Does Dallas. You might think them weird whilst they might think you weird. It takes all sorts to make a world - of which you're part of.
You carry on... (read in full...)
He's slapped me during sex. Do I need to be concerned about this sort of behaviour?
Q. Do men who like to slap women during sex have an anger issue? my boyfriend is a loving caring man but sometimes he likes to slap my backside which i don't mind during sex as i find it a turn on,but a couple of times he has just up and slapped me a...
A. 20 July 2011: I doubt it has anything to do with anger, probably more like the result of seeing this sort of thing done in porn films and such like. Personally, I don't think it's acceptable behaviour; I'd never hit or slap a woman under any circumstances.
... (read in full...)
Why are so many women so selfish? Even the great ones we love dearly!
Q. MY question is why do women expect us men to give them everything and anything they want that makes them happy, but they won't give us the simplest thing to make us happy; a blow job!? We go to all sorts of lengths, taking an interest in your...
A. 20 July 2011: You don't come across as being much of a 'real man'.
A real man would show some respect to a woman, and if she doesn't want to give you a blow job that's her prerogative.
My woman would do just about anything for me but she doesn't enjoy giving... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is making me feel like a prisoner.....what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend is too controlling.i got a new job as a cabin crew but my boyfriend want me to be pregnant and leave the job if not he will leave me alone.what shall i do?... I am 29, i am living with my boyfrend for 2 years he is 43 and he is separ...
A. 17 July 2011: I'll tell you what to do - pursue your career and forget about getting pregnant. You'd regret giving up your job, a very glamorous job at that, where far better opportunities will present themselves in future.
Whether you take my advice is entir... (read in full...)
Random Chat-Ups - What does they mean?
Q. This is just a bit of a general questioning and open for discussion on the topic of being chatted up.. As a female when men 'hit on you' in the street during the day or in a bar, do you think these types of men are ever genuine or are they the type...
A. 17 July 2011: Maybe it's your perfume? That 'Impulse' stuff allegedly works like that, much the same as 'Lynx', the male equivalent.
You've obviously got that certain something that attracts the men and the attention. If I see a 'Pippa Middleton' backside... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy does that?
Q. me and this guy have been on and off and he always said he cared about me, wants to be with me. but one time i was realy frustrated and hurt by his lack of seeing me and i asked him to just tell me he liked me, he liked sleeping with me but he didnt ...
A. 17 July 2011: He didn't want you to get his shirt wet. I believe it's as simple as that.... (read in full...)
I think he fancies this lady neighbour!
Q. hi i have a parner i been with for 3 years but there is a lady living in the same block of flats as him she use to always be in his flat untill i got very angry about this i think he fancys her but he keeps ...
A. 16 July 2011: You won't allow him? If there's one thing that will make me want to do something more than ever, it would be someone telling me I'm not allowed to.
You're trying to control him in an unacceptable manner.
Don't kid yourself that he's having n... (read in full...)
Is it possible that someone hacked my phone?
Q. Okay this isn't about relationships but someone please give me a semi explanation for this!! So my friend and I were texting and all of the sudden she Gets a text from me that's says "boobity boo" over and over again like 5 pages of it...so she asks ...
A. 14 July 2011: No two phones have the same number. Get her to check which number sent the message and compare it with yours.
If she doesn't believe that it didn't actually come from you, invite her to text back and see if you get her message. Chances are you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says I have communication problems, but I don't know how to work on it
Q. Well, Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year. I had just ended a 23 year marriage were I was misrable. When we started this relationship she told me that I have a communication problem. I have been trying to work on this problem but ...
A. 13 July 2011: For 'communication problem' read 'not as talkative'.
Women seem to be able to talk to their friends on the phone all evening after being with them at the coffee shop all afternoon. They never finish saying all they have to say. Women can talk non... (read in full...)
The sex is sooo good but no orgasms!
Q. I just can't figure out why i can't orgasm with my boyfriend. The sex is SO good!! But I've only come close a few times, but just haven't got there. I can orgasm by myself pretty easily. It's really frustrating for both of us! It's been months s...
A. 3 July 2011: If an orgasm is that important to you, and you can manage it on your own easily, why not fiddle with your 'bean' while you're getting it on with your partner? He would probably get quite turned on by that.... (read in full...)
Can I make my man's penis bigger?
Q. hi am a 21 year old woman and i have a problem my fiance have a small pennis and i real love him so much we are getting married by december what am i suppose to do?is there anything that can help to grew up his pennis?please help me....
A. 3 July 2011: Have you had sex yet? If not, when you do, you'll see that it'll grow bigger when he gets an erection. Other than that, he's got what he's got and you'll have to make do with it. Unlike breasts, there's no surgical procedure to enlarge it.... (read in full...)
I think my man is gay but not sure. What do you think?
Q. when we first got together i just knew he was my husband sex was never an issue but everything changed when we moved n together he was super controlling we argued everyday we only had sex once a month n if i wanted more sex he would say i was ...
A. 27 June 2011: He's just a control freak and you're better off - and a lot safer - having nothing to do with him. If you didn't get rid of him you'de end up being his slave. You made a wise move getting rid.... (read in full...)
How would you handle it if your mother hated your girlfriend?
Q. i just have a question for all the men on here, if you dating a women who you really love and plan to marry and spend the rest of your life with her but your mother doesnt like her and because of that issue that she doesnt like your girlfriend, she ...
A. 26 June 2011: Your mother is not a very nice person is she? What have you got to lose by cutting her out of your life altogether - which is what I would do if my mother had ever said things like that to me.
I would not waste any more breath on your mother i... (read in full...)
What should I do about my drunken mistake?
Q. Okay, so I don't really know how to explain this, so I'll just jump right in. About a week ago, I met the guy one of my friends is talking to. We all hung out with some of our other friends one night. Since me and the guy(let's call him Dave) w...
A. 26 June 2011: Don't kid yourself that he doesn't remember! No man I've ever met ever failed to remember getting his end away the previous night no matter how drunk he was. If he was THAT drunk he wouldn't have been able to get it up. As far as he was ... (read in full...)
I think my man is gay but not sure. What do you think?
Q. when we first got together i just knew he was my husband sex was never an issue but everything changed when we moved n together he was super controlling we argued everyday we only had sex once a month n if i wanted more sex he would say i was ...
A. 26 June 2011: You simply weren't compatible. You told him to leave. He did. He didn't try to come back. Why would he want to after being told to leave? Move on.... (read in full...)
Do guys shave their pubic hair or not? And why?
Q. Im a 15 Year old male and i would like to know if I should shave all of my pubic hair off or just trim down there?...
A. 26 June 2011: It's ok for all you ladies saying 'shave it', but have you ever tried shaving a pair of prunes? It's not easy I can tell you! The only time I ever did it was when I had a vasectomy and I've never done anything quite as uncomfortable. ... (read in full...)
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