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writes: Me and my boyfriend has been dating for 3 months and we have broken up about 4 times. I dont really want to be with him, and every time I break up with him he like stalks me and will not leave me alone. I have tried dating other guys, but he scares them all away and they won't talk to me any more since then. How do I get rid of him for good? Please answer me soon...a/s/a/p
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): omg!!i got the same problem too!!! itslike really really scary!! my ex like idk today he like grabbed me by my hipps infront of my boyfriend...him and my ex r friends and everytime im with him he like gets al over me and david "my boyfriend" kinda gets mad but he understands that he still likes me...my ex keeps tellin him to brek up with me...and he like blackmails him but he ignores him all the time...i need help too...
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (15 October 2005):
Oh my god! What's the matter with him? You should go to the police as soon as you can. You can't have this guy following you for the rest of your life. Who knows what he might do next? This is really serious, tell the police that he's been stalking you and that you've had enough.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (15 October 2005):
 Stalkers try to convince themselves that you're actually asking for it, that you're actually still interested. They read every little move, every comment and every action as "proving" that you're still desperate to be with them. So when you say Hi and try to be polite, a stalker thinks, "See, she can't resist me! We're meant to be lovers for all time!"
That's why you need to cut off ALL contact with this guy. Don't talk to him, don't answer his phone calls, don't read his texts. If he tries to corner you, RUN - as fast as you can - until you're somewhere there there are a lot of people.
Ring and speak to your local police about an apprehended violence order. Explain that you keep telling him to go away and that he won't leave off. Tell them that you're frightened of the way he's keeping after you. The police will advise you of what your options are.
Hopefully, his being served with an AVO will discourage him, but if not, the police are there to help you. You're not a burden to them, and you're not bothering them when you ask for protection. That's what police are paid to DO. So ask for protection if you think it's necessary.
Don't assume that you and this guy can be friends, because the behaviours that he's showing are not those of a calm and orderly mind. He's acting like he owns you, and like he might do something unexpected. Keep friends around you and don't be afraid to ring the Police Emergency phone number if you feel threatened.
And whatever you do, don't talk to him and DON'T be talked into getting back together with him, because that just starts the cycle all over again.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 October 2005):
 You best get yourself to the police and get a restraining order against him. This is a serious problem. Do not hesitate this kind of guy is dangerous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2005): Try talking to him and explaining how you really feel..try telling him the more he wont leave you alone after you two split the more you dont want to be with him because it is driving a major wedge inbetween you both.
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