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writes: I'm 16 years old and I am still a virgin. Well see, this is how it is, I'm saving myself till marriage. The thing is though, when I do get married I don't want my husband to see my body because I think my body is ugly. I have stretch marks on my sides, not that you can really see them, but they are the dark ones, and though they are fading, I'm still embaressed. I see people on Tv and they dont have them and people in bikinis and stuff. Also, I fell through some glass about 3 years ago and have a big scar on it, that's the main reason I'm scared to let my husband see me. Should I have them removed or something?If my husband sees my stretch marks do you think that he won't like me anymore?
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (16 October 2005):
It's what's on the inside that counts, not the outside. If the guy you love only loves you for your looks then don't bother with him. Many people have had worse then falling on glass, some people have had their faces permantly burnt, and still have a perfect relationship. No one is perfect so don't beat yourself up about it.
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reader, kt  +, writes (9 October 2005):
 i was told once that when you love someone nothing else matters. this is the same. when you get married to someone you love them, your hustband wont care about the scars or anything he will only care about you. besides you are abit young to be worring about this by the time you get married they will have faded alot more or even gone and if not it doesnt matter, so dont worrie about!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 October 2005):
 As a mother of three let me tell you about stretch marks! My loving husband calls them "battle scars" and always says I should be very proud of them. This will be no problem for you in your marriage, trust me!
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reader, wishes +, writes (7 October 2005):
 Oh sweety! If your future husband is the one, he wouldn't care if you had a saucepan for a head! Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to look beautiful! The marks on your body, and especially that scar, make you different and unique to everyone else! Cameras can do wonderful things for both still shots and video shots by erasing these bits of yourself that dont fit the "model shot." This is why you will never see people on tv with any marks like that. As for people at the beaches without marks, well everyone is different as I said earlier. Stretch marks definately dont mean that you are fat- just that you had a big growth spurt at one stage- And Im pretty sure that everyone has them- just maybe not where you can see them! Try to stay confident about yourself, have people around you that makes you feel good about yourself and if anyone ever tries to make you change- ditch them! Best wishes hunny. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2005): No, your husband shold love you no matter how you look. True love looks at what's on the inside, not the outside. There is nothing wrong with stretch marks, alomost everyone has them, it's not just you. I'm glad your saving yourself for marriage, I am too. Just because you think your body is ugly, doesn't mean that your husband will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2005): Hun, don't worry about this! This is the real world and real women and real men ALL have imperfect bodies. You may be comparing yourself to the images you see on TV and in fashion magazines...way too much. What will count more to a future husband is WHO you are on the inside..your heart, mind and soul. When the times comes, and if you choose carefully..you will find a wonderful man who will see a woman who adores him-one who is funny and enjoys life. He will see a woman who looks toward the next day as if it is a blessing. And because of who you are you will have a husband who loves and supports you. A husband who thinks you am the most beautiful woman on earth. And truthfully, who else will need to think you are beautiful, except him.
I really don't think you should have to endure a removal process..but if you think it will help your self-esteem and your body image-then go for it.I wish you luck, dear
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