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writes: I found out recently that my 16-year-old son is dating a 44-year-old woman.I worry about him - the age gap is 28 years - and I fear he will have a lot of problems.He's talking about marrying her too - and she wants to marry him too!What do I do? This worries me a lot recently.Caroline from Leeds, England Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): As tough as it might be for you, you need to put your foot down. And keep watch of him; because with a 44 yr. old woman he could easily run away with her. Well maybe thats a little extreme but still, anything could happen.
As for the woman I would have a serious talk with her and ask her of her intentions and feelings.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (24 October 2005):
Seriously? That woman is probably the same age as you! I'm sorry but, is he really that desperate? Aren't there any good looking girls his age around? You are his own mother therefore I think you should stop him from seeing this woman. I mean, he's 16!!! What's he thinking???!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2005): Poor lad! Young, infatuated, and most definitely very confused! At 16 I had a bit of a secret infatuation with a friend of my mother's who was about 35 at the time, as I recall she was quite encouraging too, but neither of us were ever stupid enough to actually consider it real or do anything more serious than a bit of harmless flirting. He needs two things:
1. To see a picture of a naked woman of 60... and told that it is what he will see on the morning of his 32nd birthday
2. To spend a bit more time with teenage girls!
My wife and I have a 10 year age difference (she is younger), before I met her I was dating a woman 6 years older than me. In both cases our ages were/are close enough to enjoy common interests and memories, what can someone (male or female) of 16 really have in common with someone (male or female) of 44? If it lasted at all (I don't believe it would) she would make him middle-aged long before his time.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 October 2005):
 Pops has a point about contacting the authorities but before you do, better search his bedroom and stuff for drugs. A 44 yr old woman...gotta be drugs!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2005): I'm still worried about the problems he might face if he marries her.
What problems will he face exactly?
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reader, pops +, writes (13 October 2005):
I am from the colonies, as you British like to remind us Americans, so I am not aware of the laws in England. Is he even old enough to marry without your consent? Talk to a Solicitor and get his advice on what you can do. This woman is close to being a pedophile. There has to be something wrong with a woman that age who wants to marry a 16 year old boy. As long as your son is a minor, you should be able to get a court order requiring her to stop contacting him. And, then, get him to a mental health counselor. He should be listening to you about these matters, even at the rebelious age of 16. He needs help.
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