Should I have sex with him even though he wont wear condoms and I'm not on birth control?
Q. i've been with my bf for 1year. hes my first love and im his he's two years older than me.. we are both vigins.. and homecoming night b4 his big game.. i well lets just say i wanna have sex with him.. he gave me i ring and we are getting married ...
A. 5 August 2010: I want to jump off a bridge but I don’t want to wear a parachute should I?
OF COURSE NOT!!
If you thing you are old enough to have sex than you are old enough to firmly state your terms.
NO condom, NO sex... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship and she wants to move in with me...how do I tell her it can't happen?
Q. ok i am a 16 year old guy who is goin out with this 13 year old girl but we are in a long distance relationship for the past 3 months we have talked on the phone web cam and texted each other all the time i am really in love with this girl the ...
A. 16 July 2010: Tell her that there is no way your parents are going to allow her to come live with you. It's out of your hands. ... (read in full...)
What are my rights here???
Q. I have been living with a man for 10 years, he was separated from his wife 3 years before me, the family was informed about us, i worked with him in his business, he had kids and i never had kids, he died, he did not leave a will, what are my ...
A. 16 July 2010: If he had a legally wed wife (separated or not) then it would seem that she would have some say in that happens to his estate. Also the kids will play a big role being the next of kin if the wife is proven to be ineligible for some reason.
Y... (read in full...)
What are my rights here???
Q. I have been living with a man for 10 years, he was separated from his wife 3 years before me, the family was informed about us, i worked with him in his business, he had kids and i never had kids, he died, he did not leave a will, what are my ...
A. 16 July 2010: If he had a legally wed wife (separated or not) then it would seem that she would have some say in that happens to his estate. Also the kids will play a big role being the next of kin if the wife is proven to be ineligible for some reason.
Y... (read in full...)
Why cant he just tell these other women he is married to stop them flirting with him?
Q. Hi, My husband's exes are getting in touch with him, calling and sending texts even though he doesn't answer them. I do understand that he is committed now but the problem I have right now is that this line they are texting and calling he got afte...
A. 14 May 2010: The next time they call answer the phone, and say "Hi this is -husbands name- WIFE speaking how can I help you."
As for the texts, you can explain that "MY HUSBAND -insert husbands name- doesn't use this phone anymore.
If they didn't know he was ... (read in full...)
Why is the man I am having an affair with behaving this way?
Q. Could someone please explain what this guy is doing to me,by the things he is saying. Well for starters he is married and we have been having an affair on and off now for 30yrs, with some breaks in between. I know his wife but only on a very cas...
A. 11 May 2010: He did it because you allowed him to do it. He took the cakes that YOU made home to his WIFE to enjoy. Then had the nerve to give his WIFE the phone number of his MISTRESS so that the WIFE can call you up to say thank you. And you did exactly ... (read in full...)
Is my brother in law just trying to rub my nose in it?
Q. I went through a very painful breakup with my ex a couple of years ago, and was left feeling very hurt and betrayed. The ex just happens to be a friend of my brother in law who keeps dropping the ex into conversation (telling me how he is doing ...
A. 5 April 2010: You are not being rude, your brother in law is being rude by bring the ex up after you specifically told him not to. The next time he brings the ex up just stop talking to him and start a conversation with someone else that happens to be around ... (read in full...)
Question on conceiving...
Q. Do you concieve on the day of ovulation? Or before of after? Confused!...
A. 19 January 2010: Actually the best day to conceive is the day before ovulation. If you have sex the day before ovulation the sperm is sitting there waiting when the egg is released and ovulation occurs.
The next best day is On the day of ovulation.
All three... (read in full...)
Relationship woes at the hands of his daughter...do I stay and fight or walk away?
Q. I am a mature, very attractive, independent woman dating a professional, very sweet man (M.D.). Four years now. He makes excuses for not having me meet his two children, both very needy in their own ways. They both live out of state. Both in ...
A. 7 January 2010: The daughter is not 'winning' he is choosing to spend time with her instead of you.
Honestly he sounds married to me. all this cloak and dagger stuff. why won't he let you meet his grown children. he travels the country with his daughter... (read in full...)
Where can you turn with almost impossible problems?
Q. I know it is hard to describe ,what I'm trying to tell. I'm not even hoping for full understanding. But ,I'm hoping someone maybe familiar with such an issue. My problem is ,that my life has sooo much horrible things in it, that even the therapi...
A. 11 December 2009: I know it can be hard when you feel like there is no one you can turn to. Do you have a church you attend? I'm not trying to preach here but honestly I find in times like these I just tell GOD and it all seems to work out; and HE won't go blabbing ... (read in full...)
Should I resign myself to my current unhappy life or pursue the new relationship...it's just so hard. Is there an answer?
Q. I don't know where to begin, so I will start with some background information. I have been married for 20 years, have a child in college, 1 in high school and 1 in 4th grade. I got married at age 26. When I dated my wife we had a lot in com...
A. 9 December 2009: I totally aggree with Angzw.
It may help to put yourself in her shoes.
She works all day (whether outside or inside the home)
makes dinner, does homework, wash clothes, clean house, etc. doing for everybody else. then at the end of the night... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend my friend is coming to see me (us) in a few weeks time?
Q. Hi, I moved to London with my boyfriend earlier this year, everything is great, i just miss my friends! my best friend in the whole world is coming to london in December to visit her family and me too and she has assumed we will do something tog...
A. 30 November 2009: You tell your "friend" that if she can't treat your boyfriend with the respect that he deserves then you will not be able to spend time with her. Period.
If you were to write in here and say that your boyfriend allows his friends to treat yo... (read in full...)
Are they husband and wife?Cousins? Or brother and sister?
Q. My son married my best friends daughter a few yrs ago and have a kid. 5 months ago i hooked up with my friend and now she is expecting our kid. How do we figure this out. The new baby will be both our kids half sibling making them not only related ...
A. 19 November 2009: I think PeanutButter has said it all. Wow good job!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps saying he has sex for my benefit, even though he is always initiating it!
Q. my boyfriend always iniates sex and then afterwards tells me that he didn't want it and only did it for me. i don't care whether i get any or not and he is the one who gives all the signals and leads me to the bedroom so why does he keep saying ...
A. 5 November 2009: That's the biggest load of hogwash. If he didn't want to do it he wouldn't get aroused. He can't fake that, a man is either ready for sex or not.
The next time he initiates it tell him that you already finished on your own, because you didn't w... (read in full...)
Who do I chose? He divorced his wife to make me his.
Q. please help..to make this story short here it goes..i had a relationship with a married man...we parted went our seperate ways painfully he broke it off...he said that i deserved better and that if he got divorced he would come back to me because he ...
A. 30 October 2009: You need to find another man altogether.
Don't feel sorry for the ex-married man I mean really how do you know that he divorced her. She probably found out that he was a low down cheater and kicked his butt out. Now he's running back to you - do... (read in full...)
On the second date would you rather be asked before he kissed you, or just kissed?
Q. Hi, this question's to the ladies. Imagine you were out on your second date and the guy wanted to kiss u. Would u prefer it if he looked into your eyes and asked "would u mind if i kissed u?" and kissed u only if u said 'yes' or would u prefer it if ...
A. 30 October 2009: Just set the mood and do it. I don't need a bunch of chatter. I think the element of suprise is better, its like - I think he's gonna kiss me, I think he's gonna kiss me. Yea, we're kissing!!
For me if you ask me and then I have to reply it... (read in full...)
I will leave my husband as I have been living a lie, what is your advice?
Q. When I married my husband I was so in love. I trusted him but recently found out he had betrayed me by spending thousands and thousands of pounds not only on gambling but on other women. I found text messages from a girl, called Claire... and I ...
A. 22 October 2009: I don't think you need much advice. You're doing the right things. Bide your time, get all your ducks in a row and when he least expects it -wham- hit him with it, right between the eyes. And while he's trying to figure out what happened to his ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to pursue my major or give up?
Q. ok so i know this isnt a relationship question but i really need help. right now i am studying to get my BSW degree. but im conservative. i am constantly surrounded by liberals that attack me for my beliefs. all i want to do is get this degree and ...
A. 20 October 2009: NEVER let anyone dictate your life.
If they don't like your chosen profession, just look at them and say "sorry you don't agree, but this is what I have chosen to do" and then walk away. You don't owe them any explanation.
If you quit these sa... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 15: how do I tell my parents?
Q. hey there. I'm a 15 year old girl and I just found out that I'm pregnant. I'm preggers with my ex boyfriends baby who my parents forbayed me to see a long time ago. my ex boyfriend want anything to do with me or a baby. I've decided I'm going to ...
A. 20 October 2009: There really is no easy way. You need to either tell your parents straight out or tell a trusted adult that can intervene for you and talk to your parents with you, like an aunt.
At this point you need to start getting pre-natal care for your... (read in full...)
Should I try to bury the hatchet and send my daughter a card for her 21st???
Q. My daughter's birthday is coming up Monday October 26. She will be 28 years old and she and I don't talk, her decision, not mine. She moved out June 08 and only speaks to my sister. I'm torn whether to send her a birthday card or just ignore it. ...
A. 20 October 2009: Absoulutely send the card. A birthday is not only the day she was born but also the day you gave her life. Maybe this step on your part will be a new beginning also.
If all else fails, at least you tried.... (read in full...)
Is it unusual not to have your father give you away at your wedding and have your brother do it instead?
Q. I'm getting married soon (yay!) and I'm worried about that tradition where the father of the bride gives her away. You see, my dad was never around...I think I've met him on 3 or 4 occasions and never had more than a superficial conversation with ...
A. 11 September 2009: You do what you want to do. You can ask the mailman to give you away if you want to. Go ahead and invite your cousins they are still apart of your family regardless of him. And don't feel bad for not inviting him to the wedding. Was he... (read in full...)
I hate my life, I've ruined it!
Q. here goes i hate my life ! why ? well because im a complete and utter idiot ! 6 years ago i made the mistake of leaving my ex fiance. he was a nice person but didnt really show me any love or affection and i found he let me pay for stuff rather ...
A. 4 September 2009: You left your ex fiance for a reason. Just because your most recent relationship didn't work out dosen't mean that the first one would have. It just means that you need to get up dust yourself off and get back out there in the dating world and try ... (read in full...)
How can I show my daughter that her fiance is an ass?
Q. My daughter is 23 and has been dating "Jason" 25, since high school.I always looked at him as a good kid,a little inmature but figured he would grow up to be a respectful guy. Three weeks ago my daughter came home in tears saying that she she found ...
A. 4 September 2009: If a buck naked video of him having sex with another women just weeks ago didn't do it, I'm afraid there may not be much you can do except support her when she finally gets the "picture". Unfortunantly, she'll have to get it the hard way - ... (read in full...)
My partner broke up with me because her daughter doesn't approve! Should I stick around to see if things change or let go?
Q. I've been seeing a wonderful woman for almost 7 years. We are in love. Her teenage daughter has broken us up as a couple, and says she doesn't want her mom seeing me anymore. My girlfriend basically told me that has to make sure that her daughte...
A. 20 August 2009: It seems to be that she is using her daughter as a scapegoat. If the daughter lives with the father there is no reason why she would have to stop dating you completely. She could see you whenever the daughter is not with her which seems to be most ... (read in full...)
Distance was the problem but I have my license now, should we try again?
Q. Okay well I was going out with this girl for about 8 months and then we broke up because we didn't get to see each other enough. I do still like her however. We still hook up at the discos and stuff but sometimes I just get jealous when I see or ...
A. 20 August 2009: If distance was your only problem, I think you should definitely try again. I would find it sweet that I am still on your mind and I'm sure she would appreciate it too. Drive Safely.... (read in full...)
Christians: is it a sin to have sexual feelings?
Q. as a christian,having feelings of sex when growing up,is it sinful?...
A. 19 August 2009: Having sexual urges is normal for all human beings and is not a sin. But as Christians we must learn to control those feelings until marriage.
Talk to some trusted members of your church, you will see that ALL of them have these feeling. Youn... (read in full...)
My married lover went back to his wife when he said he wouldn't!
Q. I'm in love with a married man. he was thrown out of his home on several occasions. 4 out 7 times he came to live with me. so the last time he said to me he wasn't going back. he did!!! I'm so hurt over it but knows I got to move on ! please help me ...
A. 10 August 2009: He was thrown out of the house and 4 out of 7 times he came to stay with you. Where did he stay the other 3 times? Maybe with his other mistress?
Also, the only reason he stayed with you the times that he did was because his wife kicked him out ... (read in full...)
Why does he always cheat on me?
Q. Six of you kindly replied to my question dated 31st july 2009 about my cheating husband, while i write this my so called loving husband is in bed with the woman who has caused most of my problems. I thought i was just being paranoid about his ...
A. 5 August 2009: Glad to hear it sister!!
You're not going to take it anymore! Good Job.
... (read in full...)
Why does he always cheat on me?
Q. Six of you kindly replied to my question dated 31st july 2009 about my cheating husband, while i write this my so called loving husband is in bed with the woman who has caused most of my problems. I thought i was just being paranoid about his ...
A. 4 August 2009: I'm not really sure what to say. I replied to your last question and advised for you to divorce him. I still say the same thing. I really feel bad for you. You will never be happy with your life until this guy is completely gone from it.
H... (read in full...)
We do 'stuff' and I get an erection. How do I prevent it?
Q. Hi everyone, so ive been dating this girl for a little while now and have decided to not have sex or anything until we're both 16 in october. Anyway, the question is about other stuff....basically we make out, cuddle and stuff and most of the time...
A. 3 August 2009: If I were in a makeout session with a guy and he didn't get aroused, I would think there was something wrong with him.
As it is you are perfectly normal, and most girls would take it as an ego boost that they could get a "rise" out of you.
You w... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm excited about my girlfriends pregnancy?
Q. Hi people, Just found out my partner is 4 weeks pregnant. I was just researching about tips for fathering, I researched about males thoughts on pregnancy and alot of it is negative! Some of them say my husband is not excited about our pregnan...
A. 3 August 2009: I believe CONGRATULATIONS are in order.
And NO you are not weird. Babies are a priceless gift from God. And create awsome experiences in life and abundant joy.
Enjoy being a new Daddy!!... (read in full...)
Spooning sex
Q. Alright, so my friend and I are thinking about having sex. She loves it when I hold her tight around the waist and hug her. I've come to the conclusion that we should try spooning. We're both first timers. I heard that this is a very comfortable and ...
A. 3 August 2009: Missionary is acutally the best for first timers. It is more intimate and easier to Maneuver.
Spooning sex actually takes a little more experiance with the person you are with. She has to be in the correct position to receive you, you have to b... (read in full...)
He's leaving to go back to the USA but I want him to stay here with me!
Q. How would i describe the something in my mind. It just happened last week. I met a guy from USA and i am Asian girl i think i love him. At all first met every thing so easy and happy. Miss, love and always talk on phone when we away from each o...
A. 3 August 2009: I'm sorry to say you really only have two choices.
You could move to the US with your BF and do some environmental and human rights work here.
OR
You could say Bye,Bye to the BF it doesn't seem like he's going to change his mind.... (read in full...)
I've done everything so why does my husband keep cheating?
Q. i have been with my husband 23 years and married for 18 years, in the past ten years he has had three affairs and he has always come back to me, but this last one has really got to me. he has been staying at his mums as she has mental health issu...
A. 31 July 2009: You've done everything except take his lying, cheating, lazy, cheap, no count behind to Divorce Court!
I can't tell from your post who assulted you, him or her but whoever it was, you take them to court too. Criminal Court for assult and battery,... (read in full...)
I'm dying with guilt! I feel like I cheated...
Q. Ok this is kind pf complicated but ill try my best to put it in writing ….I was in a long distance relationship and we were totally in love .We meet and after a past abusive relationship I never thought id ever feel for some1 like I did now. His ...
A. 31 July 2009: If I really cared for someone I would do anything in my power to see them and be with them. This guy has turned you away 2 times already and is now coming back for a 3rd try. Live your life, don't feel guilty, and don't put your life on hold ... (read in full...)
Why is life so hard when you've found your soulmate?
Q. What do I do???? I am 45 and in a relationship with an 18 yearold!!! Where do I begin? Well for nearly a 10 months I have been seeing a woman/girl whos is nearly 27 years my junior!!! at first we knew each other as we live close and saw each other ...
A. 30 July 2009: This is not really that hard:
1st - she is 18 years old, an adult (no problem).
I was really feeling for you until I got to your last paragraph and then all sympathy went out the window. I also feel for her parents. I can understand w... (read in full...)
We want to have sex with another couple, is it fair to go ahead without the other husbands permission?
Q. i am 35 years old married person and my wife is 29 years beautiful and charming lady. actually we both like sex very much and we have sex almost daily. now we are feeling to change some the partner for sex not permanent just for change only. we both ...
A. 29 July 2009: What happens if you do just switch without completely convincing him; and you are over there having a merry ole time with this mans wife and he says no to your wife?
Well now you've slept with this mans wife and your wife got nothing. She's pi... (read in full...)
If our ages were reversed, would it be such a problem?
Q. Hello. I have a big question! Last week end i went to a friendly/family reunion for my friend. There was someone really interesting there. We had good conversations over the fire, some lafing, connecting... he is single and so am i... We fond ...
A. 29 July 2009: You are both concenting adults. I say go for it!! Why not?
You've convinced me now you have to convince yourself.... (read in full...)
Should I say goodbye... or should I stay?
Q. In three more days my boyfriend and I are going to be together for one year, we have been living together for about 11 months now and I have a 2 1/2 year old child that is not his. When we first got together we were so happy but here lately there ...
A. 29 July 2009: Without the particulars of what your are fighting about etc. its kind of hard to give good advice. but I will say that ALL relationships are going to hit rough patches and if you love this man like you say, I think you should try and work it out. ... (read in full...)
Women only: Oral sex or intercourse?
Q. This questions is for women only: This might sound like a weird question but just think about it for a minute. If you had to choose between really good oral sex or actual intercourse - Which would you prefer, a really good tongue licking you dry all ...
A. 28 July 2009: Intercourse! No Contest.... (read in full...)
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