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writes: I know right now, that the girl I'm talking to and I'm very interested in, is what I'm after. She is what I desire. Through some research, I've learned that it should be her after me, so she will actively desire to be and talk with me. How do I go about making this happen? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 October 2005):
 Research? Where'd you do your research, the playground at recess? Show her some attention but don't smother her, be cool. She'll get the message and so will you if she is interested.
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reader, boken_butterfly +, writes (7 October 2005):
It is good advice to let your interests be known and then let her follow a bit but make sure you aren't hurting her by ignoring her. She will need a little attention back, otherwise after a while of fallowing a guy around and being ignored a girl will lose interest.
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reader, schlottjl +, writes (7 October 2005):
 You can't make this happen. And the advice was semi wrong. Basically, people do respond when they are not overwhelmed with someone trying to give them the world. What they (we really want and actively seek is a self-assured guy who is not desperate.
So don't be desperate. Control your responses and let her lead you to when you can make a move or not. Many women and girls will not make a first move because they want to be chosen and historically, and biologically (since we have the goods,) guys have been the pursuers. I really think that was for more than because we were socialized to. I think it is the male human animal who does it scientifically. However, you make a little attraction known and then allow her to pursue a little and follow a give and take from there.
I have a lot of these exact how tos in my other advice posts. You may want to check some of them out as they are successful techniques when the chick has a capacity to like you back.
(This is not always possible since attraction is based on so many unusual things and even on odd things like what her dad looks and smells like so never take a rejection as being about you. If you look deep enough you may find that there is something about her that reminds you of someone or something in your childhood too. )
So don't play games as you may miss your chance. I do believe it is healthy to hint to your attraction and then to allow her to respond- it is also safer. But see some of my earlier columns for the detailed how-tos and beware, some are explicit and not meant for those under the age of understanding these things. Go check out how to get and please her I guarentee that if she is catchable, that advice will make it happen.
Good luck.
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reader, missdee +, writes (7 October 2005):
Work out, have a good body about you, walk with head up and a air of confidence about you but not an attitude. Be friendly, but remain cool. You can pursue her by maybe writing her a note or asking her out to her favorite place or somewhere you thinks she would like. Once you let your interest in her be known. Then its her turn. If she turns you down for the date you can try being friends with her and maybe later on she will be interested. Hope this helps.
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