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writes: My boyfriend of 4 months cheated on me, and I can't move on or forget what happened, but I don't want this to end, I don't know what to do. Should I leave or stay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): It depends on how you feel about him. If you feel that the reason he done it was legit and you can understand why and are willing to work things out then you may as well try. But you need to understand that things wont ever be the same again. When i first started dating my boyfriend i trusted him without a doubt. Then i found out that he cheated but it was partly my fault so i forgave him. But its never been the same since. I constantly accuse him of cheating just so i can get reassured from him that his not. The fear of him doing it again will always be there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): leave girl forget it if he come back to you then he really cares and didn't mean for it to be this way.
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reader, babyjessieb +, writes (3 November 2005):
First off forget blaming yourself, or anyone else.
It has been scientifically proven that one of the main reason men cheat is because they are wired that way. A man's primal instinct is to breed with multiple partners.
My Boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. Around christmas time of last year rumors started to emerge about him and another girl. 9 months later i found out the truth, yes he cheated on me. I spent 9 months wondering and hurting because i didn't know if she was winning him. Well no she didn't she TRIED but did not. Believe it or not, he had it worse that poor man had to look into my eyes everynight and pretend his guilt was driving him mad. Now if i would have broke up with him and not tried to understand what was going on inside his head...Our son Logan wouldn't be turning 1 year in January. My point is Love to Love, Everything happens for a reason, he cheated on you because of an insecurity issue, primal instinct, or whatever his reason might be. What is did was wrong, but if you both are willing to work things out you both giving 100% i see no reason to dump him. Put yourself in his position see if that helps any. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005): First, are you absolutely sure that he cheated on you? I have a girlfriend whom I love deeply and exclusively. She thinks that I cheated on her because I had a bunch of female friends, some of whom I talked to just after we began dating. She's convinced that I cheated somehow, but I never did. But, if you are sure that he cheated and if you had an agreement to be committed to each other, then he probably doesn't respect you enough.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (18 October 2005):
Leave him be with the other girl he cheated on. Find someone loyal!
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reader, qschick +, writes (17 October 2005):
You should definitely leave -4 months?!! what a rat! I am with a guy over a year and I trust him completely - its a wonderful feeling, without it you'll end up feeling insecure. Do yourself a favour and find a faithful guy!!
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (17 October 2005):
 4 months, correct? This is all it took for him to cheat on you? Was there a reason? No reason is good enough. If he's cheated on you already, he's bound to do it again. There's no reason to be forgive and forget, MOVE ON!!!! You are so much better than he is, he don't deserve you. What kind of person would cheat on their partner only being together for 4 months? He obviously don't have any intent on being with you for awhile, so just go find someone else that is able to make a commitment to you and ONLY you!
Good luck!
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reader, pops +, writes (17 October 2005):
LIfe is full of choices, and you have to make one. You can't go on being with him if you are so insanely jealous and angry over the affair. Either moveon, or learn to forgive him. talk to him to find out why he saw her, and what she has or did for him that you don't do.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 October 2005):
 If you stay be prepared for the lying S O B to do it again and again. If you want to put up with that, it's your call. I'd give him the boot. Life's too short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2005): Leave before he leaves you...
You have to love and respect yourself first... If you can't do that, you can never love anyone for real. If someone cheats on you, they don't really respect you or care for you. The only reason they hang on to you is because they wish to have someone just in case.
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