| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for 8 months now. He has cheated on me once before, we broke up for a while, but he put a lot of effort into getting me back. I recently found out that he has a child (he didn't know either), and I was willing to stay with him through that. Saturday night while I was with a friend, he got drunk (which is no excuse) and cheated on me with the woman he has a child with (they never dated, it was just a "thing") and now I don't know what to do. He says he loves me and he misses me, but how do I know it won't happen again? I love him so much and I don't know if I should take him back this time or not.
View related questions:
broke up, cheated on me, drunk Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 October 2005):
 Trust me it WILL happen again and again and again. Dump him, nobody should put up with a cheater. Life is way too short for that crap.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2005): answering a question like that with a real "girl power" tone just never really does anything for the person its happening to does it?, what you need to consider is this-people do make mistakes yes, but do you really beleive that hes got the nessage...? or do you think that he knows hes onto a good thing, he has found someone that he can act out all his dramas and have an audience for them & his main one seems to be -Cheating, you're only giving him an audience, do you really want to be with a axxhole who obviously does'nt love you enough to cherish you, to want you to be confident in yourself & to not cheat on you, would you do that to him...? probably not, one of our biggest fears is not that we will lose this person-(because we probably already know that they're wrong for us)-our biggest fear in fact is that we wont ever find anyone else, we think this current person is the be all & end all...well they're not, they're not real men at all, real men end relationships that they are in if they wish to pursue another... twits have affairs just to get attention & make them feel like they're all that-that a woman would accept an affair to stay with them must mean they are soooo special, you should let him know that he is not soo special, allow yourself the pain of going through the break-up, move away, go travel to get over it, change jobs, houses, areas, this is a test & it will make you stronger,change your life & guess what.... you'll actually meet the man of your dreams because you were brave enough to not settle for the trash in between...you'll never be a loved cherished person with this man...you've gotta stop listening to the crap he comes out with & start looking at his actions....and his actions say -he cant say no...
...............................
A
female
reader, FlowerFaerie +, writes (21 October 2005):
Sounds like this guy wants to have his cake and eat it.
You need to tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not be so disrespected. If he truly loved you he would stay with you and be faithful. As for him having a child that he doesn't even know about it goes to show how inconsiderate, uncaring and plain ignorant he is.
DO NOT TAKE THIS MAN BACK!
go find yourself someone better, you deserve it girl!xSx
...............................
A
reader, pops +, writes (20 October 2005):
YOu can't know, and his behavior says that he doesn't know, and he can keep any promise of fidelity he gives to you. Dump him. YOu deserve better. Just be happy you got away from him before you had a child of his.
...............................
|
