I found out that the man I was dating is married...now what?
Q. I was dating a man for 3 months and a week ago I found out that he is married. His wife read my message on his phone, contacted me and told me that they've known each other for 11 years, are married, have a 6 year old child and that she's now ...
A. 27 July 2011: You haven't done anything to be ashamed of YET. I'd keep it that way if I were you. Three months wasted is a heap better than 3 years or 3 decades.... (read in full...)
I feel like my girlfriend is slipping away from me. Am I losing her?
Q. Okay so my girlfriend of 4 months had recently gone on a long holiday with her family. its been a month since i've seen her so far and i wont see her again for another 3 weeks. I'm literally dying. I miss her so much, i see couples everywhere and im ...
A. 26 July 2011: Shutting up and giving her space is a good idea. You'll know what's what when she gets back. Relax and try to enjoy your summer.... (read in full...)
Is getting a nose job a good idea?
Q. I know this is a relationship website, but i really really need some advice as to what to do and how to deal with what people will think. I know i shouldn't care about others opinions but i really can't help it!! Basically, since i was about 11 i...
A. 26 July 2011: I'm waiting for my upper eyelids to sag enough to interfere with my vision so my insurance will pay for an eye job. Not sure how to deal with the rest of my sags but I'll think of something. OP, I say go for it.... (read in full...)
He is back in touch with the girl he cheated on his last girlfriend with, what do I do now?
Q. Hi i've been in this relationship for 10 months now and everything was going good at the start but he's changed and started to show his true colours... here is the twist he's been in care for 12 years and has been abused by everyone in his ...
A. 26 July 2011: Thanks Chickie. Even though you Brits talk funny, your princes are smoking hot. ... (read in full...)
He would rather party with his idiot friends than see me!
Q. I'm having troubles with my boyfriend of 2 months. I'm 16, he's 17. He's pretty popular at his school and drinks, smokes and parties nearly every night. I'm not as social as I use to be about a year ago due to switching to a small private school ...
A. 26 July 2011: I think you at least need to get your priorities straight. What kind of future is HE preparing for? Are you or he independently wealthy? Are you not thinking about college or a career?... (read in full...)
Bad breakouts and a messed up menstrual cycle....any advice?
Q. im 21 female and for the last two years my skins been going crazy. i used to have great skin but now i breakout on my chin and around my mouth all the time. my menstrual cycle is all messed up too. i started taking just this year, took yaz and that ...
A. 26 July 2011: Check with your Gyno, I think maybe you need your BC dosage adjusted.... (read in full...)
He is back in touch with the girl he cheated on his last girlfriend with, what do I do now?
Q. Hi i've been in this relationship for 10 months now and everything was going good at the start but he's changed and started to show his true colours... here is the twist he's been in care for 12 years and has been abused by everyone in his ...
A. 26 July 2011: What do you mean by "in care"?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend earns more than me, should he pay for more once we buy a house together?
Q. Hi. I have just had an interesting conversation with my colleague. I am about to buy a house with my bf of 18 months. He has fronted the 10% deposit for the house as he has managed to save really well over the last couple of years whereas I am c**p ...
A. 26 July 2011: My advice, which apparently you aren't really seeking, is to make sure you keep good records of expenditures. Who paid what, when and how much. If your relationship goes sour you will need documentation for the court.... (read in full...)
Ready to loose my Virginity, so whats holding me back ?
Q. Physically and emotionally, I'm certain I'm ready to lose my virginity. I'm in a relationship (albeit a long-distance one) with a man whom I care about very deeply indeed, and I know the love and trust I feel for him is reciprocated. Even if we ...
A. 25 July 2011: Hang on a bit longer..you aren't ready.... (read in full...)
Cold texts but warm body language, what does this mean ladies ?
Q. Ladies help me out with this one, girls are sooooooo difficult to figure out. I used to work with this girl, every weekend. I think she likes me because she is so shy around me, makes effort to speak to me but recently has been going so red in ...
A. 25 July 2011: Yeah, texting sucks, call her next time. There is nothing to compare with actual spoken conversation. I'm afraid it's becoming a dying art.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get through to my father
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some advises from you guys to help me to improve my relationship with my parents. I don't understand why my dad always over worries about me and he always try to suck extra economic and political knowledge into m...
A. 25 July 2011: Can your mom help explain this to your dad? I totally agree that you need some down time, see if you can talk to your mom about this, we moms are great allies.... (read in full...)
Should I avoid going to his house?
Q. I got invited on a date with this guy and I'm meeting him at his house. He said we could have some fun and I put my foot down, he said he wouldn't try to make me do anything I didn't wanna do. He says he doesn't want anything serious and only a bit ...
A. 25 July 2011: Tell him your father/mother insists that his father/mother call and verify that they will be home to chaperone when you come over. ... (read in full...)
Should we still just be fooling around at 7 months or should we be taking it to the next level ?
Q. I've been messing with my guy bestfriend for a while now, about 7 months. We normally text everyday, from the time we wake up til the time we go to sleep. (Normally he falls alseep first so in the morning he responds to the text from me the previous ...
A. 25 July 2011: Knock off the oral sex and see if he still is interested in "messing" with you. It is the only way you'll find out.... (read in full...)
Trying to pass off another man's child as my husbands....Is this really such a big deal?
Q. I have been married for 2 months, but pregnant with another man's baby. i dated by husband for 3 years, but he really treated me badly for a while. I fell pregant by him and he "forced", me to abort, which i regreted.I resorted to cheating on him ...
A. 25 July 2011: OP check this one out:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-stop-my-lack-of-trust.html... (read in full...)
I didnt get any closure, why did he do this?
Q. Has anyone else here ever felt this way ?. I was seeing a guy for two months, and he stopped contacting me in May. I am 27, and he is 50. The age gap didn't bother me though, and it didn't seem to bother him. The last time i had a night out with ...
A. 25 July 2011: I think you've gotten all the closure you can expect out of this guy. But it really didn't sound like it was anything more than a casual relationship anyhow. I'd start fishing again if I were you. A younger guy might not have as much baggage by the ... (read in full...)
Does he just want sex? Or is he interested in me?
Q. This is a question that I'm hoping some men might be able to answer. Ok,here's the story. Met this gorgeous guy out of the blue a couple weeks ago. Turns out we both were incredibly attracted to each other from afar. He approached me,we chatted a ...
A. 25 July 2011: I think all you have to do is wait and see if this develops into something more than just sex. You'll find out soon enough. But as a side note, just because he cuddled with you doesn't make it any more significant, some guys like to cuddle and some ... (read in full...)
What is the best lubricant to use, specifically for anal?
Q. Does anyone have any tried and true recommendations for a personal lubricant that stays slippery longer other than K-Y (in the United States)? My partner and I really do not like that it gets sticky so quickly, and we have to re-lube so often...
A. 20 July 2011: You would need crude oil and a ball peen hammer to get me to try anal sex?... (read in full...)
Should I Dump her or is it just another ego boost for me?
Q. I wanna dump my girlfriend. We are together for 18 months. She is nice , beautiful and there’s hardly anything I can find wrong in her but wanna dump her to make it 1-1. My first girlfriend had dumped 6 months before she came into my life . S...
A. 20 July 2011: Dump your girlfriend and that will get BOTH of you out of this situation. Everyone comes out a winner.... (read in full...)
Does she want to have an affair with me?
Q. Hi Cupids. I am a married man and I am friendly with a married woman whose daughter is in gymnastics with my two daughters. Recently she has been confiding in me about how her husband and her don't do things together and that she is unhappy...
A. 20 July 2011: Are you unhappy in YOUR marriage?... (read in full...)
Cheated on my husband and am riddled with guilt but do you think this other man loves me?
Q. hi i am married to a wonderful man for the past 23 years and now have cheated on him for the very first time. it is hard as i am riddled with guilt.i have been seeing a friend of ours for almost a year before we called it off.our friend is also ...
A. 20 July 2011: How will knowing whether the guy loves you or not bring you closure? Stop this nonsense now and focus on your husband and your marriage before both disappear.... (read in full...)
Why are so many women so selfish? Even the great ones we love dearly!
Q. MY question is why do women expect us men to give them everything and anything they want that makes them happy, but they won't give us the simplest thing to make us happy; a blow job!? We go to all sorts of lengths, taking an interest in your...
A. 20 July 2011: Were you stamping your little real man foot while you wrote this?... (read in full...)
Do you think you can determine how attractive you are by how attractive the people who hit on you are?
Q. I think that the question pretty much says it all. Do you all think that you can only be as attractive as the most attractive person that hits on you or asks you out? So if people you consider good looking ask you out, you are probably good looking ...
A. 19 July 2011: OP, you are WAY over thinking this one. Get your mug out of the mirror and go have some fun. The clock is ticking.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend falls asleep when I kiss her!
Q. Whenever I kiss my Girlfriend, she starts sleeping. she says she does this in utter enjoyment and I am the best French kisser of the world. Doesn't this sound kinda weird? or every girl does this? I would appreciate if you people could say ...
A. 19 July 2011: This is kind of a reverse Sleeping Beauty. Are you using any special chapstick maybe one with a chloroform base?... (read in full...)
If we are just "friends", why did she get all dressed up to go out with me?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I know this girl and I like her, but she said she just wants to be friends. I was heartbroken at first but then said to myself, I like her enough so why not just be friends. So we made an arrangement last week to see a movie...
A. 18 July 2011: If you can be played by her then you need to distance yourself anyway. This looks like a no win situation to me.... (read in full...)
How do I catch THAT fish?
Q. The saying 'There's plenty of fish in the sea', followed by 'I dont care, I want THAT fish!' My problem is that the above saying very much rings true to my situation at the moment (in regards to a girl). Any suggestions on how one catches T...
A. 18 July 2011: Which reminds me of a joke:
What's the difference between a fish and a piano?
You can't tuna fish!
... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 18 July 2011: Nothing ventured nothing gained, and I wouldn't call a huge risk. You just need to shrug your shoulders and move on. It's not like you had a long relationship or anything. Course you wouldn't know that looking at this thread.... (read in full...)
Is weekly sex causing all of this itching and scratching?
Q. This may sound silly but is just the truth. I have being having sex with my guy every week. And recently my vagina{i.e private part} has be scratching me seriously,but yesterday i use mirror to look at it and i found out that there were tiny things ...
A. 14 July 2011: You need to see your doctor about the itching. It could be nothing and only need over the counter medicine or you may need a prescription medication. See a professional, don't risk your health.... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend to stop talking/seeing his ex?
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 28. I have the feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me with his ex. (she is my age). I know his ex, she was once friends with my older sister and she can be very intimadating and very sneeky. When I look through his ...
A. 14 July 2011: Doesn't it require tons more effort, not to mention time, to capitalize the first letter of each word in a sentence? It's hard on the eyes...who would be me. ... (read in full...)
How can I come up with a nickname for my boyfriend?
Q. There isn't anything wrong with me and my boyfriend; the reason I am writing to you is because i want to come up with a nickname that my boyfriend will be ok with I don't know what is a good nickname for him we have been together for about 9 months...
A. 14 July 2011: It's all in the tone of voice, and besides, he answers to it.... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my best friend's married father who is 54!
Q. Basically, i am having sex with my bestfriends dad. I am 25 and he is 54. He is still married and has been for 27 years. His wife is 58 and he says she dows not share the same sexual desire as he does. It all began 3 month ago when i stumbled...
A. 14 July 2011: Maybe I'm just stuffed up or maybe I'm having a stroke but I smell a troll.... (read in full...)
How can I come up with a nickname for my boyfriend?
Q. There isn't anything wrong with me and my boyfriend; the reason I am writing to you is because i want to come up with a nickname that my boyfriend will be ok with I don't know what is a good nickname for him we have been together for about 9 months...
A. 14 July 2011: One day I came home from work and the kitchen was a disaster..I yelled out "Hey Dumbass!" and my husband said "What??" Voila...a nick name was born!... (read in full...)
Does an ultrasound carry the father's name?
Q. I want to know something about baby ultrasounds. When a copy of the ultrasound is printed, does it carry the name of the baby's father on it? ...
A. 14 July 2011: Not in the USA either.... (read in full...)
Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating?
Q. Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating. This is past dirty messages and includes videos of them selves being passed back and forth. I have seen for myself. He says I'm overacting since he's not physically cheating. i ...
A. 14 July 2011: I'm glad you did what was right for you and I totally agree. Chin up Sister!... (read in full...)
I need help trusting my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend is so sweet. We've been together for over a year now and for some reason I don't trust him. He trusts me completely. It never used to bother me, we used to be fine before but now I get upset all the time when we watch movies with girls ...
A. 13 July 2011: It's time for you to do some research on building self-esteem. Google it and read up on it, there are all kinds of books on the subject. There are differnet approaches and one should work for you, you just have to find it.Once you start feeling more ... (read in full...)
Have you ever dumped someone despite knowing how much they loved you?
Q. Who has dumped someone even if you knew how much they really loved you, and was how much they loved you the reason why?...
A. 13 July 2011: Why on earth would someone dump someone they really loved? The only reason I could think of would be unless they could never be together, i.e married or already in a relationship.... (read in full...)
How to perform Anal on him ?
Q. Me and my man have been dating for 12 months now. its a great relationship and we have expressed many sexual desires. for example, we are both bi curious. however he told me something which shocked me. he told me a couple of months back that he ...
A. 11 July 2011: Better him than you in my book.... (read in full...)
How can I prevent her Abusing my Daughter when I'm not around ?
Q. Is she a sociopath? When I met my ex girlfriend, she was still married to her husband and they had a three years old girl at this time, now she is eight. She has call me dad and I really love her dearly. Since her husband has moved out of the ...
A. 11 July 2011: By history do mean you have documentation or witnesses? You will need some proof of the ex's abuse. I hope you have it. But you need to see a lawyer no matter what to see if and how to get custody of your daughter. Make it happen.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with her sister, she won't leave me alone..
Q. Hello dear cupic and agony aunt,i have a problem,am 22, my gf is 20. Let me hit d nail on its head! My gf and i were having sex in her place (d girl's room) and her elder sister (who is my age) came in and saw us. Now she wants me to have sex with ...
A. 11 July 2011: You don't need help, you just need a very cold shower, maybe that would help you think clearly. You know this sister/sister thing is bound to blow up in your face so don't even go there Buddy.... (read in full...)
How can I stop them calling me this nickname?
Q. Hello - can anyone help with this please? It may seem so stupid but..two of my boyfriend's female friends (who he has known for over 10 years and they are married to his best friends) have started calling me a nickname. It isn't a nasty one, just ...
A. 11 July 2011: Hey great answer there Corky!... (read in full...)
What do women think of past FWBs'? Does he fade from memory? Do you just fondly remember the great sex once in a while? Do you ever miss it?
Q. I'm curious what women think of men in their past who they had FWB relationships and how it compares to loves in their life. I've read here many times how women almost always prefer a loving relationship to just a sexual one, but when you finally ...
A. 11 July 2011: Never was in a FWB but I did have sex before I met my husband and I all I can say for myself is: the more intense the love the more intense enjoyment of sex.... (read in full...)
Could there be a reason why everyone around me is blonde?
Q. I know this may seem like the stupidest question every asked. and im really in no need of any dyer advice here but can some one tell me why every one and i mean every one out side of my family that i know is blond? i have brown hair for one thing ...
A. 11 July 2011: If a siren goes off...hide.... (read in full...)
Could there be a reason why everyone around me is blonde?
Q. I know this may seem like the stupidest question every asked. and im really in no need of any dyer advice here but can some one tell me why every one and i mean every one out side of my family that i know is blond? i have brown hair for one thing ...
A. 11 July 2011: Do you have a time machine? Maybe they are Eloi.... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 6 July 2011: Piss or get off the pot. Sheesh.... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 4 July 2011: or watching paint dry... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 4 July 2011:
Even tho' I'm enjoying having the day off...hurry come tomorrow...this is like waiting for the water to boil.... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 29 June 2011: We (and you) have until next week to think about it.... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 29 June 2011: How's about you post back next week and let us know what happens?... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 28 June 2011: Buddy you need to relax.... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 27 June 2011: You said earlier you don't want her to feel pressured so don't pressure her. Give it a week and then check in to say "hi how is you Dad doing?" sort of thing. Trust me you'll find out sooner or later whether she's interested.... (read in full...)
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