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writes:I think that the question pretty much says it all. Do you all think that you can only be as attractive as the most attractive person that hits on you or asks you out? So if people you consider good looking ask you out, you are probably good looking as well or if only people you don't find attractive ask you out, maybe you aren't as good looking as you think. I have never been able to objectively look at myself and judge my appearance and was wondering if there was something like this, something external, that I could use as a reference to figure out where I or others fall on the spectrum. Reply to this Question
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reader, doublejack +, writes (19 July 2011):
Attractiveness has many components, and unless someone is very shallow it extends beyond physical appearance. Additionally, attractiveness is subjectively rated. What someone finds attractive can be a total turnoff to others.
OP, the idea is to date people that you find attractive who are mutually attracted to you. Dating someone who you feel is very good looking just to raise your own self esteem is a no-win proposition.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 July 2011):
 OP, you are WAY over thinking this one. Get your mug out of the mirror and go have some fun. The clock is ticking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): No I don't think that's how it works sweetie. The only thing you can really tell is how confident that other person is... good looking or not!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 No.
Use your insight into your self as a person to judge your worth, never just the exterior. Do the same for other people as well. If you can't judge your own looks, ok, not all of us are able to. But on what grounds do you judge others? If you don't know them you hardly know how attractive they really are, as it is a total package. Looks alone say extremely little about a person or the persons attractiveness. It is your connection to that person that causes the attraction, not some shiny exterior.
Other people know this, which is why the general masses do not follow some "law" that only attractive people get to talk to other attractive people (what constitutes as attractive is it's own topic). The way it works is that if we find someone attractive, for various reasons, we approach them, indifferent of how we judge our own looks. Therefor you can not judge your own appearance based on the appearance of others.
It'd be weird, like not knowing your own hair colour, but guessing at it based on the colour of those who approach you.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 No.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Nope.
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