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*hameless
writes:Is she a sociopath? When I met my ex girlfriend, she was still married to her husband and they had a three years old girl at this time, now she is eight. She has call me dad and I really love her dearly. Since her husband has moved out of the residence I could move freely in the house. After few years dating her she became pregnant, and now we have a three years old daughter. After my daughter turned three years old, mistakenly she forgot her e-mail on, just by curiosity I browse her e-mails and I have found out when her daughter was two years old, she was trying to meet her exboyfriend in a hotel in the Dominican Republic. She has cheated on the same exboyfriend with someone else. She has cheated on me with her exboyfriend and a boy 14 years younger than her. When she realized she was caught, she start accusing me of being a violent person she is afraid of me etc. I must say I have never have a fist fight or a violent argument with anyone in my 35 years of existence. She said I am controlling, how could I be when I am working 75 hours a week? Now I am out, but I am taking good care of my daughter, I am paying $19,000.00 a year for her day care, I give $800.00 dollars monthly for her food, and she stiil call me to buy diapers and other stuff etc. She has different personalities, she can be sweet now, and minutes after she starts yelling etc. She has a history of screaming physical punishment against her older daughter my question now how can I have a good relationship with her and at the same time try to prevent her from abusing my daughter?
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (11 July 2011):
 Hmm, ever thought of installing hidden video cameras in your house?
You can not prevent it, but you document it if it happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): my question now how can I have a good relationship with her and at the same time try to prevent her from abusing my daughter?
My Answer: You cant.
If she is violent and abusive, and has shown history of such, nothing is going to stop her unless she is willing to admit she has an issue and is willing to get help for it.
Also, If you are working 75 hours a week, how could you possibly be there to ensure (nevermind prevent) that she isnt being abusive to your daughter?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 July 2011):
 By history do mean you have documentation or witnesses? You will need some proof of the ex's abuse. I hope you have it. But you need to see a lawyer no matter what to see if and how to get custody of your daughter. Make it happen.
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