Should we still just be fooling around at 7 months or should we be taking it to the next level ?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've been messing with my guy bestfriend for a while now, about 7 months. We normally text everyday, from the time we wake up til the time we go to sleep. (Normally he falls alseep first so in the morning he responds to the text from me the previous night) He's a very sexual guy, so a lot of time our conversations consist of his sexual comments, but we can have conversations about other things also. Not only that, but he's admitted to me that there are other girls he mess around with BUT he doesn't mess with them like that. He said the things he said he would do with me never crosses his mind with those other girls. (Such as oral sex, unprotected sex). Supposedly I'm the only one he trusts to mess with like that. Mind you, we're not having sex because I want to wait til marriage. But anyway, he told me that we're gonna be messing around from the beginning of senior year til the last day of senior year NO MATTER WHAT and that honestly I'm probably gonna be the only 1 he messes with BUT he doesn't know yet. He's said that no matter what he's gonna always come running back to me. And that we gone be messing with eachother forever and maybe something more than that. So, for the longest he's been tryna take me out and finally he got the chance to because he went through the process of meeting my father (he already knew my mother). So that's what he did. Two days ago he took me to the movies. We did fool around that day, but he ALWAYS makes the move first to please me, then I please him after. I never ask him to please me sexually, but he has the habit of asking me and I do but I don't give in right away. He has to beg before I please him in anyway kind of way he wants that doesn't involve actual sex. (Plus, this is the first and only guy I've actually messed with sexually). After we fooled around we went to get some food then headed to the movies. During the movie, he put his arm around me and pulled me to his chest so I was laying on him. Then he moved his hand on my thigh and we just watched the movie. After the movie was over he decided he was gonna take me home, but before I got home we fooled around again. At the end he was satisfied. But I asked him why we're not together and his response was "I don't know" so I said "What you mean you don't know?" and he just said "I don't know". And I told him I do a lot for him that I wouldn't do for anyone else so I don't understand why he doesn't want me and he told me "I never said I didn't want you though, but I realize what you do for me and I'm grateful." But anyway, we arrived at my house and we kissed before I got out the car. Then I went inside and he left. He texted me and asked me if everything was okay and we had a short lil convo then I guess he fell asleep and I went to bed. The next day, he didnt text me though, but I texted him. We didn't talk much that day though and I was wondering if that was something I should be worried about. He stopped responding to my text and then later that night I texted him goodnight and he responded saying why...so we exchanged a few words which wasn't much of a conversation cause I assume he fell asleep again. But my question is, is he using me? or am I just reading into this too much? I really have deep feelings for this guy and as far as I know he has feelings for me because he's told me a while back before we messed around. I just don't see why we're not together after 7 months.

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