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writes:I wanna dump my girlfriend. We are together for 18 months. She is nice , beautiful and there’s hardly anything I can find wrong in her but wanna dump her to make it 1-1. My first girlfriend had dumped 6 months before she came into my life . So If I dump her that will satisfy my ego that I too have dumped someone and now the score is level at 1-1. But this girl is madly in love with me and also sensitive which scares me like hell. Last night, while me was just closed eye but not in deep sleep, she kissed me on my forehead, whispering with herself that I am her love of her lifetime that did soften my heart. But today morning, again began feeling the urge for dumping her to satisfy my ego which was hurt someone else . I am also in love with her but just in a fix whether to dump her or not? Please do something people to get out of this situation . Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2011): Dump her and feel the pain of stupidness. Just don't expect her to come back.
If you know you would just satisfy your ego, why are you even considering this thought?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 If you dump this girl, do you think you will ever find another like her? What then, if you leave her, are you so sure you won't regret it in the end?
There have been so many people who have, in essence, done what you are thinking of doing and they always regret. Always. They feel its something they need to do to make themselves feel better about themselves, or about what has happened to them in the past, only to realize when its too late that it never mattered in the first place. I don't suppose you see your first girlfriend dumping you as her last favor for you, look who you've found now. Someone who obviously feels very strongly about you, she's crazy about you and I'm not so sure you're seeing it.
If you don't feel the same way about this girl then yes, break up with her. But if you feel anything for her, then I suggest you stop trying to massage your ego with pointless mistakes and start focusing on being a boyfriend your current girlfriend can truly love without fear.
I hope that helps.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 Excuse me but..what have you been smoking ??
Suppose that yesterday you got mugged. You got your wallet stolen, and you got beaten up too. So, what do you do today ? ...You assault some old lady and snatch her purse, because yesss, that's gonna show your mugger ! He'll feel SO bad about it !
You should dump this girl- for her own good. It 's not healthy for her to keep dating someone so utterly uncapable of logical thinking.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 Yeah leave her. Your ego is pretty pathetic. This is for anyone who reads this: it doesn't matter how many partners yours has had or how many break ups. When you start the relationship thats called even ground. I hate it when people think they deserve something because of someones past which has no bearing on the current relationship.
So in all honesty your choices are either to realize your ego is stupid and you would be pissed if a girl ever dumped you for that reason so you stay with her or leave her and hope your ego was worth it.
Sorry but that is how it is.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 Dude what the hell@?&$§%*
You sound like a 13 yr old keeping score of who dumped who
You know its people like you who make nice girls go bad,and i mean BAD!!
Hurting her in this way wont make you any more of a man than you already are..infact it only proves how less of a man you really are
So what if some girl wasnt smart enough to chose you,why go take it out on some sweet girl?
As a man you are supposed foremost to protect and provide for your woman..thats your role as the guy in your girls life regardles if she is some rich stuck up c.e.o. surrounded by bodyguards or whatever
You know its no wonder..not with men like you..that we are raising generations of men who act less n less like they are supposd to
Its no wonder men and women alike are respecting us less n less
Its no wonder that women nowadays clamour to fulfil the gaps men have left in society
Men like you n me who r supposed to be leaders in our society
Youre not a kid,but a grown man...SO START ACTING LIKE ONE
If you want to be with her,then do so and love her as she deserves to b loved
If you dont want her,be the man and honourably find a way to let her down gently n not leave her emotionaly scard for life
As a man you shouldnt harbour grudges for past wrongs metted upon you by other parties..you should rise above such pettines
SO GROW UP N BE THE MAN N LEADER YOU WERE MEANT TO BE!!
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 You are an ASS.
Dump her so she can find the better man that she deserves. You sound more immature than my 6 year old nephew.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): Let me get this straight ur ex dumped you and now you want to dump this other girl purely to get even. Your current gf loves you that much and you want to dump her... To get even with an ex an ex that wont ever date you again? Wow. Its pathetic that you dont even realize what you have. If getting even is all you want then spare her the pain and sorrow. Tell her why you are dumping her that its to get even with an ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): So you want to dump her in revenge of the first girl who dumped you? That is totally messed up. She doesn't deserve that, the first girl who dumped you has nothing to do with this girl. If it had not been for your first girlfriend dumping you, you would not be with your present girlfriend who you say is beautiful, and there is nothing wrong with her. Obviously you still haven't got over the hurt your first girlfriend caused. But everyone gets hurt, even those who don't deserve it, it's called LIFE. Crap happens but you live and learn and move on. If you go through life never getting hurt, then I don't believe you can truly appreciate the good when it comes. We all have to go through a bit of pain in life. You should be appreciating what you have now and should have moved on, especially as you have been with her for 18 months. I think you need to see a counsellor and not be breaking up with her, that is so wrong.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 Dump your girlfriend and that will get BOTH of you out of this situation. Everyone comes out a winner.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 Oh My GOD! How old are you? You sound about 13 from this ridiculous post. Your girlfriend deserves better than you. Grow up and stop acting like a child.
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