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writes:Ladies help me out with this one, girls are sooooooo difficult to figure out.I used to work with this girl, every weekend. I think she likes me because she is so shy around me, makes effort to speak to me but recently has been going so red in the face because of co-workers talking about our flirting.my contract finished, and she was so desperate for me to come back she sent me many texts to make sure I re-apply, monitoring the actions on the day of the application (as she knew I would pop in, which means she will get to see me).Anyway I have not got the chance to even speak to her much, we do text but its really annoying. Girls are so blunt with answers. Shes accepted to go out for coffee/icecream for catchup but the day goes by and she says she will let me know later if she can as she is working, but later never comes. Is she too shy to bring it back up?Texts are so boring. We laugh and talk so much in person but we've never been good with texts. but that is my only way of communication at the moment. I ask about her day and reply is "yes was good, what bout urs xx" or just agreeing to something etc.bit fedup of spending past 3 days trying to get a decent convo out of her.shame it was ruined at work when I didnt speak to her when I popped in because of how busy it was and I left quickly.Her body language says something else, yet she texts show she dont care although she is always adding xx's. Help me out here ladies thank youp.s she is nearly 2 yrs younger
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): It is so hard to covey tone/emotion through text that even really vibrant people can come off as a bit cold, and the conversation is obviously never going to be as good as actually speaking in person. There is also so much room for misaunderstandings as well, so it may not be her intention to confuse you like this, she may think that her texts are fine and that she is showing you she is interested. The best way to sort everything out is to meet face to face and having real conversations and see how things go from there. Give her another chance to arrange some sort of catch up outside of work, and if not, just leave it.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (25 July 2011):
 You are going to need to call her. Don't text anymore. Call her.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Yeah, texting sucks, call her next time. There is nothing to compare with actual spoken conversation. I'm afraid it's becoming a dying art.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 She sounds forgetful. If you date her don't be surprised if she shows up late, doesn't reply to texts, or "forgets" about calling you back/letting you know when to meet up. Are you prepared to take that on? Without nagging on her, and without complaining about her texts?
She just writes a certain way and apparently doesn't like texts too much, or write them the way YOU want to. You just need to get over it. Body language wins in this debate, without question. Texts are impersonal, period. Try doing as said by Jmtmj: call her. And meet up in person, take action, be in charge, tell her to meet up with you at this or that time, prepare for her to be incredibly late (and still smile when she arrives) and talk to her in person.
You'll need patience with her. If you're not sure if you're ready to deal with it, then let this girl drop. You're already complaining about her lack of interesting texts, so Im not sure if she's really suitable for you. Her texts will continue to be the same, and her answers will continue to be the same, vague and diffuse, and she'll forget to give you notice "later in the day". So be prepared, it's who she is. If you can deal with that then hunt her down and make the decisions and deal with it appearing to be a one sided thing (you always taking initiative for communication).
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 erm... tried calling her instead of texting?
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