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reader, guy1989  +, writes (15 July 2011):
Sending naked photos back and forth to me is same as physical cheating..the main bad ingredients are there ! You did the right thing to leave him
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2011): 100% cheating. Stay away.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (14 July 2011):
imho
wathcing porn isn't cheating
while sexting and flirting online is cheating
or atleast a form of cheating
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (14 July 2011):
 yeah you did the right thing in leaving him. he has either been cheating or has been trying to cheat, only a matter of time before some desperate woman would have agreed to meet up with him. stay strong, remember: he is not someone to be trusted
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 It's cheating.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 yeah thats def cheating because of his intent to be intimate with other women, in person or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): Cheating, definately, but you dont need to justify leaving him to him or you or anyone else. Just know in your heart of hearts YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.
He sounds like an insensitive CHEATING pig.
Bravo to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): i believe is cheating babes.
Good luck
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Cheating, yes it is!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 I suspect it may be to you so that's all that matters..why not tell him it makes you feel betrayed?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 I'm glad you did what was right for you and I totally agree. Chin up Sister!
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reader, Irish49 +, writes (14 July 2011):
 You are not over-reacting. Some couples do this with each other's consent. (Each to their own) But, if he engaged in these actions knowing the hurt it caused you, or he hid these cybersex behaviours from you, then he knew his actions, was a 'slap in the face regarding your relationship values' . This would shatter the trust. That trust, is hard to get back, once it's been compromised. Cybersex is not just harmless flirting, as so many say it is...it's very damaging and all about selfish needs and one's ego without a regard for the other person in the committed relationship. You did not have this man's respect nor his loyalty to you. The problem lies with him..not you.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (14 July 2011):
 It depends on what you and your partner define as cheating. Different couples have different views. But I would think of it as cheating because you're showing interest in someone other than your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): For me watching porn isn't cheating, but contacting people I would definitely class as cheating. He says your over reacting because he wants it all, but you definitely did the right thing leaving him.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Well I'm one of those people who thinks porn is cheating, so adding interaction to that is certainly cheating. Of course he says you're overreacting, you caught him doing something wrong. But you already left him, time to find someone who isn't such a jerk.
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reader, muso888 +, writes (14 July 2011):
If you feel betrayed by it, it's cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): It is cheating. He has no morals and he is not being true to you or keeping himself just for you. He is being sexually intimate with other women. Whether it is the woman next door or a woman online, makes no difference. Would you walk around the town with him on your arm, while he talked to women like that or handed out his pictures to them? Just because he is doing it online, that doesn't make it OK. If he thinks it is acceptable because he is doing it in the back bedroom on a computer that just goes to show how messed up his morals have become.
I left a boyfriend for similar reasons and i don't regret it. He is married now but I get an occasional yukky message from him, which i ignore. I'm just so glad i am not his poor wife! You did the right thing by leaving in my opinion.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (14 July 2011):
 That is cheating. No question about it. He's sharing that type of affection and his physical self with another person, regardless of whether or not it's in person it's cheating.
Go for you on leaving him. No one needs someone so awful in their lives.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (14 July 2011):
 congrats for standing up to him!!!
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reader, Mad Cat +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Yes it's cheating, I cannot see how this is not.
You've left him? you've done the right thing then.
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